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We'll tell you how to stay away from Mr. Wrong so you can make some room for Mr. Right!

signs_he_is_mr_wrong.jpgLet's be honest with ourselves. Sometimes, we just know certain guys aren't right for us, but we ignore the warning signs anyway. We hope that they'll change. Or that they'll grow out of it. Or that somehow, all of our love and devotion will rub off on them. Not so! So we're getting real about all of the Mr. Wrongs out there. Care to join us?

1. He won't tell you he loves you -- or even that he likes you.
If he can't express any of his feelings for you after six months, or even a year for that matter, you've got to face facts. He's not that into you. If he was, he would muster up the courage to let you know -- or to at least make sure you felt the same way.

2. He won't hang out with you in public.

He's either ashamed or afraid he'll get caught. Either way, he is not a keeper.

3. He is unavailable on all major holidays, include Valentine's Day and his birthday.
Here is a hint: He's already married or otherwise engaged. Don't buy excuse after excuse that his mother wants to be with him on every holiday. Can't he bring you along? And what is his excuse for Valentine's Day? Is he getting a couple's massage with his mom? We doubt it.

4. He is paranoid that you'll read his email, look at his cell phone or see his computer screen when he's chatting.
This is an easy one: The man has something to hide.

5. He hits you, yells at you or makes you feel like you're not worth anything.

Any one of these -- or anything along these lines -- are deal breakers. You deserve better. And abuse in any form isn't love.


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I have been in a relationship with a man for five years he will not marry me, he is unemployed( he has some sort of chemical imbalance) he isn't lazy he works very hard around the house. He is verbally abusive, puts me down , is possessive. I have no friends left that will hardly even speak to me because he hates them all. I feel so isolated and alone. He hates where i work. i have to be home right after work. I have devoted myself to him. I am so attached to him and his family. I know what everyone is thinking that reads this. Why are you still there? I know. I feel sorry for him and I love him. I think i need more help than he does I am at the end of my rope. I have lost everything including my dignity
 
Hey everyone.. I am currently 20 years old and had been in a relationship with an older guy who i thought was mr.right. we spoke of having a future together and even spoke to my parents about marraige.as part of making our plans a reality i began to work and attend skool and he was allegedly doing the same. it wass all looking so good until i found out that he wasnt really going to school but instead had been cheating on me. it was just terrible. when i found out of it he tried to deny it but i wass all so clear. i dont know how to get him out, and i know i cant forgive him because just the thought of it hurts. It been 6 months since i ended the relationship and havent been able to date or even talk to anyone. How does one forget and move on?
 
Hi Tyra, First off, i want to thank you for all the fabulous shows you dedicate to empowering woman of all walks of life, no matter what part of the universe they come from! It really is refreshing to see such a movement come from someone who is as influential as yourself. Next, i'd like to get some advice about the current dilemma im facing. I recently recovered from a past relationship that occurred a couple of years ago and i feel great! I really found some great methods on loving myself and i've felt beautiful as life ever since. I feel invincable, and i love living the way i do now. Definitely single and fierce! Just a few days ago, i started talking to this guy, who seemed pretty interested in me. He was upfront and said he was looking for a relationship. He's quite the charmer and when i reflect back on our conversations i realize that he is that Mr. Ideal from my dreams! However, there is a significant age gap of approx. 7-8 years. That may not be such a big deal if i myself wasn't 18. :) I know, you're probably saying 'you're just a baby!' right about now. Anyway, i would like to see where this goes but for the past two days we haven't really been able to talk to one another, either one of us is busy. I left a couple of missed calls and he hasn't replied to any of them except for a single text which read that he missed me. What do you suspect is going on Tyra? He lives a very luxurious life, cars, nice home, traveling and he is only 24. It was impressive, but i don't wanna grow up too fast! I still want to be
 
Dear Tyra, I had this boyfriend and we dated for about 10 months i thought he was perfect, until he started snecking around and not telling me where he was or even calling me. I thought it was a little weird that someone who told me he loved me would be hiding things from me. Well i started to hang out with his brother and me and his brother become lyk bestfriends we are still friends today. Well me and his brother started to talk about him and i was telling his brother that he was acting really weird latley, and his brother told me that he was cheating on me! Well i couldnt really accuse him because i had no proff. So me and his brother set him up! I had this girlfriend that my boyfriend didnt no me and her were friends and i had her flirt with him and stuff u no nothing really big just teasing him a little. well she convinced him to take her back to his house. Well what he didnt no was i was hidding in the other room! My friend and my boyfriend went into his room and she txted me telling me to walk in the room in two minutes so i waited two minutes. Well his little brother was rite, i stormed in the room and caught him kissing my friend!!!! He tried to tell me it wasnt what i thought it was, but i slapped him in the face told him it was over and me and my friend walked out of the house laughing about the whole thing. He tried calling me, but i put him on my block list LOL!
 
dear tyra, i'm a realationship and it seems hopeless. I cry and stress over him everyday. It's so hard for me to let go cause I really care about him. I consistly receive phone calls from his ex and messages on myspace. He never stands up for me when i'm being personally attached. So his way of keep the drama down is tell her that where over and call my phone on three way with her on the line saying that it's over. And then calls to tell me that he was lieing. I wanna be with him but he is really driving me crazy.
 
hi tyra, i can honestly say that my current bf has most of the qualities ive ever wanted in a partner. our communication is great, he show me he loves me every day, and he supports me in all my goals and decisions. the problem is that he has many girl friends whom he txts and talks on the phone with. obviously this makes me jealous. when we talk about this he tells me they are just friends and that he only loves me. he claims to be doing nothing wrong. is it naive of me to believe him? or is it time to walk out? help!
 
Hi Tyra! I just wanted to say that i really love your show and i hope to be on it some day! The way you give people advice is so amazing and i really look up to you. I loved this article because it will help me find signs when to get out of a bad relationship. (when im ready to start looking) but i really love you and your show and hopefully one day you'll be able to help me out with my problems.
 
Girls, you know that if your man fits these categories he is not worth your time! You are beautiful becuase your a woman end of story. Keep looking and praying.
 
Dear Tyra, I am a young 46yr of age single black woman,that has fallen into some low self-esteem issues du 2 neg.past experiences which im trying 2 forgive n forget leave the past behind n move forward,every possible way 2 build it up n get my sexy back.broken n unhealthy relationships has been the cause of it too.my next step is to seek professional counseling, i have tried with my own will using me time metheod luvn me,finding me within,ect... over all men du not approach me or i may not b approachable they look pass me makes me feel less attractive, but i still try 2 look my best and feel good about me i know 2 each is own,but not one,is looking or i have not taken notice, i myself look a guys but still they look just pass me.I really don't want to attract the wrong guy even though men have not given me the time of day,4 the life of me i can not figure this out,what can possibly be wrong with me besides my self-esteem issues which im working on and im not a bad looking person just not outstanding HELP!!! give me some selfhelp tips,im not getting any younger n i don't want 2 be alone 4 the rest of my life.thx love ur work.
 
HEY TYRA WHEN I READ FIVE SIGNS I STARED CRYIN BEACAUSE DOES ARE RELATED TO MY CURRENT RELATIONSHIP WIT ME N MY SO CALLED BOYFRIEND BUT THE THING ABOUT IS THAT IM SO IN LOVE WITH HIMITS HARD FOR ME TO LET GO I DONT WHAT TO DO I NEED SOME ADVICE THE THING ABOUT ME IS THAT IM NOT REALLY OPEN WITH ANYBODY I JUST KEEP EVERYTHING INSIDE
 
Hey tyra! Well I have a small problem when my husband and I got marride he wanted sex and so did I but not so much. And now I want more and I don't know if he would get mad? HELP!!
 
Hey Tyra well i think your amazing and i love the topics you discuss and touch base on. Tyra i have an issue im really confused me and this guy broke up because he was moving to new york to go to school and pursue his future, i was supose to move out there but was scared because leaving my family behind, and depending on a man in a huge city wasnt my idea of safe,3 years later we still talk and he claims he loves me, i cant denie it he has been the only man that hasnt caused me any emotional damage and he has been there for me as a friend and lover, i would love to have my fairy tale ending with him, but im in florida and im still scared to move out there because the city is full of woman and what if hes playing games and his words are just words. tyra i want to be happy and he was the only person i was actually happy with, we always visit each other when were in eachothers town, but i dont know if i should move on or move forward, because im afraid of getting hurt by unrealistic ideas or lies, since the time apart we have been with other people,but wont let go of one another, if confused because he might be the man for me but if i dont give in it might never happen, i keep telling myself whats ment to be will happen but if where in two different states, what are the chances it will. im afraid that the time apart can leave him with another woman or maybe he has another woman and is hiding it from me, tyra i love him and im SCARED, i just
 
hey Tyra, your show is awesome.i have this question. i've been dating this guy for a few months but we recently broke up because he slept with my best friend,he keeps telling me he loves me but i find that hard to believe.he came to my house to see me but when i refused to have sex with him he dumped me, then the next day he came to my house and asked me to give him another chance . i told him no because he really hurt me. but now i have a new boyfriend but i think im still in love with my ex, what should i do?
 
hi Tyra, im 17 which some people would say is too young to have real feelings for anyone, but i met this guy who i thought was so right for me, it was going perfect until i found out he was cheating on me with his ex-girlfriend. I thought giving him a second chance would make him realize what he had but it didnt work he continued to cheat on me, he still calls me and tells me he loves me and misses me and he knows he shouldnt of lied yet is still continuing to hang out with his ex, as much as i want to go back because i remember how perfect things where when we started dating, i realize that i deserve so much better and to let this experiance make me a stronger person.



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