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First kiss? On the beach, in the moonlight with my neighbor's hot brother who was visiting for the summer. He said I was a natural! First love? Music...boys came much later! Worst date? While interning in Japan, I met this seemingly nice Tokyo University medical student from Tanzania. We went out to dinner and he constantly condemned Americans and our culture with remarks such as "Americans are selfish." Upon finding out he was a few years younger than me, he teasingly asked if I was willing to be his "sugar momma" since he was not going to be making any money while in school. I sarcastically told him, "No, I'm American so you already know I'm selfish." Then we got into an argument about how judgmental he was and how he looked for the negative in people. Not sure if these attributes were individual, cultural or both, but I knew I would never speak to him again after that night. Blackberry, iPhone or Cell Phone? Currently I have a Palm Treo but I'm about to upgrade to the Blackberry. Favorite Movie? The Notebook, Two Can Play That Game, Higher Learning Last book you read? Love The One You're With by Emily Giffin and A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle Favorite place to go on vacation? I love to travel anywhere. However, a 5-star all-inclusive resort with a beautiful beach would definitely rank high on my list of favorite places to go. Do you fall in love easily? No. I've found very few men who could evoke that emotion within me, but when I do fall....I fall hard. Where do you see yourself in 10 years? In ten years I see myself happily married with loving children while enlightening, inspiring and entertaining millions throughout the world with my gifts of writing, personality, voice and song. Morning or Night person? Night person, waking up early is not my idea of a fun time. Moonlight is hot, but sunsets are hotter. |
Greetings! My name is Lasana and I currently am a communication management graduate student living in Los Angles, California. An east coast girl living a west coast life, I'm a New Yorker who spent her teen and early adult years living in Florida. I believe in "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness" therefore living each day to the fullest with hope, faith and optimism.
I am a self-proclaimed "foodie" who loves good food and eating at nice restaurants. I also enjoy traveling, spending time with friends and family and watching "Sex and the City." I am a great listener who is loving, affectionate and intuitive. My ideal mate is a romantic who is handsome, intelligent, spiritual, fun with a great sense of humor, loves to travel and is passionate about life and learning new things.
Since I was in high school I have been fascinated by the topic of dating and relationships and even devoted my Master's thesis to this subject. I believe in love and am looking forward to finding everlasting love in the near future. In the meantime, I’m enjoying my single life that has been colored with countless entertaining dating stories, which I am looking forward to sharing with you.
Lasana: The Perfect Rose Part 2
Last week Lasana discussed the theory of the "perfect rose."
This was a person one could have an intense chemistry with but because of circumstances, the two people could not unite. In her last Single and Fierce blog, Lasana discusses another concept from that theory: the idea that a man would choose not to date a woman because he considers her to be perfect. Thus becoming his "perfect rose."
Would a man sabotage a relationship because he doesn't want to ruin a good thing?
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Lasana: The Perfect Rose
Throughout our lives, many people cross our paths.
Some of these people become friends, lovers, spouses, while others seem to fade into obscurity. But sometimes our lives intersect with an individual whose impact on us is everlasting. The connection shared with this person is powerful. There is chemistry, compatibility, and a mental, physical, emotional and spiritual bond. Some may suggest this is our "soul-mate". The consonant soul our own was fated to find. Once joined, the union is extraordinary. However it can be a tragic fate if events, obstacles or circumstances prevent the union from existing. The memory of this person is forever immortalized in our mind, and although one may move on by dating and possibly marrying another, thoughts of this person always linger. Maybe this individual becomes "the one who got away" or "the one who was never able to be," but I am going to quote a friend and call this person, the "perfect rose."
For a long time I thought this theory was just a compelling idea that came from the creative minds of authors such as Shakespeare, who with characters like Romeo and Juliet, displayed how two people could find a love so rare but be unable to truly manifest it because of life's circumstances.
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Lasana: Is Female Chivalry Dead?
Last week I did something so rare that its occurrence is up there with solar eclipses and four-leaf clovers. In fact this action was so extraordinary, I can actually count on one hand just how many times I have done this in my lifetime. Just what did I do you ask? I cooked for a man.
Usually this kind of treatment is only reserved for boyfriends. My girlfriends on the other hand, are frequently invited over to taste my gourmet cuisine, but for me to cook for a man means that he must be special. Suffice it to say, this wasn't just any man but one that I have begun dating and really like.
As I was carefully preparing this special meal, trying hard not to burn myself (I did not succeed), I wondered why this was such a rare event? Why was it so unusual for a woman to cook for a man?
More importantly, I wondered if I was one of the last women left who knew how to cook at all?
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Lasana: Why is Being Turned Off Such a Turn On?
Dating is just one big game.
If you ever ask a man or woman what they hate most about the dating process, "the game playing" is always at the top of the list. Everyone says they hate to deal with the push and pull that comes with the initial dating stages. So why is it that when you pay too much attention to an individual they start to take you for granted, but when you totally ignore them or act with indifference they become infatuated with you?
For example, the other day I was at an event and ran into a guy that I dated once several months ago. I realized the guy and I were not compatible so I had no intentions of going out with him again. He called me numerous times afterwards, even sending me a text message for Valentine's Day. Surely, I thought after over two months of avoiding his calls and texts that he would have gotten the hint that I was not interested in him right? Well as I saw him at the event, I had two options: pretend I didn't see him and dodge the situation or face the situation head-on and say hello.
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Lasana: Who Wears High Heels to a Basketball Game?
Several weeks ago, I met a man at a mixer event and exchanged contact information with him. He seemed like a nice guy so I was delighted when he called to invite me to a Clippers basketball game. Being that I am new to Los Angeles, I had not gone to watch any of the L.A. teams play, so I was excited.
Deciding on the perfect outfit for the game, I settled on a gray and pink Rocawear off the shoulder jogging suit with pink shoes to match and was prepared to meet him when he called to let me know that he was downstairs. Stepping out his black Mercedes coupe, he opened the car door for me and we drove off to the Staples Center. Once parked, I let myself out of the car and we started walking toward the venue. As we were walking he looked at my shoes and said, "It's a good thing that we didn't have time to go to dinner beforehand because no restaurant would have let you in with sneakers." (I later noticed that he too had on sneakers.) Surprised by his comment, I asked "What do mean?"
Upon which he retorted, "I don't know about you but I don't eat at fried chicken restaurants."
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Lasana: A Facebook Surprise Update
In her last blog, "A Facebook Surprise," Lasana told us about the unexpected delivery she found in her FB inbox.
Lasana's ex-boyfriend tracked her down on Facebook, which caused quite the predicament. To accept or not to accept; that was the question.
Find out if Lasana accepts or rejects her ex's friend request.
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Lasana: A Facebook Surprise
Can you ever be friends with an ex?
Social networking is one of my most favorite activities. Surveying my Myspace or Facebook pages, becoming connected to past and present friends as well as being kept abreast of what they are up to is extremely addictive for me. So it is always with delight when I check my email and see that I have a new friend request. That is until a few days ago, when I checked my email to discover that my ex-boyfriend sent a request to be added as my "Facebook friend."
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Lasana: The Valentine's Day Litmus Test
How to know if he is or isn't worth the time.
The initial stages of dating are a complex time in the relationship life-cycle. Both parties are trying to identify their feelings, establish if there is an emotional connection and most importantly, if there is enough chemistry for a sustainable romantic partnership. If you are keeping your options open, such as myself, and dating multiple potential partners concurrently until a viable union emerges, this complicates matters even more.
Then throw in the most "romantic" day on the societal calendar and you have a recipe for disaster.
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Lasana: Wanted: Prince Charming
Meet Lasana, the newest member of our Single and Fierce cast. Lasana is a graduate student, originally from New York, but now searching for love in L.A. Follow her journey and find out if she can find the one she's been looking for.
Once upon a time there was a beautiful girl who grew up hoping that she would be swept off her feet by her Prince Charming. She hoped she would find him without having to date much and before she got old and bitter. As the years flew by, she woke up one morning and realized that after countless dates with men who were incompatible or oblivious to her self-worth, she was still single and searching. Maybe this is not your average fairytale, but it's my life and I'm still waiting for my "happy ending."
Keep reading for more on Lasana's search for her Prince!
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