hey a word from the wise do not try to make life on ur own...u will always need sumbody to help u through wat ever...now for me i am fed up of being single awww i wish i was married or at least committed to sum1..but as a young person i made a promise to myself to keep a level head and stay focus in this life until God send the rite person in my direction..and this is cuz i made sum mistakes dat i am not goin to repeat....Married life is so dam good...so all the best to the married ppl God bless...

My mom is one of the most wonderful people in the world. She took care of my brother and I AND my dad (because he was a lazy bum...she eventually got rid of him). If I could I would give her everything back ten fold. Anyway, she taught me that I can be independent and still be loved and not alone. If a relationship happens happens then that's great but the world will not end and I can still be happy if it doesn't.

it can be hard and easy on both sides. depending if you have conections or very lucky. im actually trying to be independent and its not going so good. maybe because im too young or just my luck. i have no connections in getting into colleges but im still trying with what i know. i have shyness in my blood and its hard to get a job and also because no ones hiring. im single and not looking just trying hard to concentrate to get into a school and find a job to help me out. a single independent lady is actually more fierce because she knows if she fails she will fall and she will fall to the floor because she has no man to support her or catch her. She has her potenial and strength to get her back up. She may have to start over but she got it. ; ]

Hello Ms. Banks How are you? I must tell you that i am a person that is misunderstood. I left you a message that i would just like to see you happy even if it is not with me. Well because despite our differences i think that you are a good person. That you could not possibly have done what they are insisting what you did. I have received conformation that you have NOT done that. Besides, i think more highly of you than that. I do not enjoy jealous games i am to far away from you. It is not good for the heart. I could never. The ball is in your court. goodbye. FOREVER YOUR FAN, Rocklette Pulliam

I am a single mother of 19 years old, I work and go to school. I take care of my daughter by myself, not very much help from family nor the father. I have been single for a couple years now, and honestly I see it being that way for more years to come. Im not going to say I'll never get married, because I'll never say never, but I don't plan on it being there in the future, nor depend on it or fantasize about it. I don't want to be dependent on a man, nor do I want the extra work of a relationship. A relationship must be constantly worked on, recognized, and nourished on a constant basis. The time and energy I simply do not have to share. Many of my friends(whom are older than I) think I'm some man hater because I'm the single friend, because I am not a hopeless romantic and do not believe in a soul mate. Because I dont spend my free time looking for "my other half". When I'm simply happy it being just me and my daughter on our routine we already have. I do want my daughter to have a good male role model in her life, but I'm not going to go through man after man to find that out of desperation either. Too many woman think they have to have a man to be complete, which I think is ridiculous. Just because your alone, doesn't technically mean your lonely. Also, just because we are single women, doesn't mean something is wrong with us, or that we are out to steal your husband or boyfriend. Some of us actually choose to be single, not because we simply can't find a guy. Being single or married is a personal

TO EACH IT'S OWN...WATEVA U WANNA BE SINGLE THEN B IT, U WANNA RAISE A FAMILY DO IT WITH TRUE MEANING AND WITH THE RIGHT MAN. I HAVE 3 KIDS PREGNANT, HAVE A MAN THAT I LIVE WITH COMPLETED SCHOOL GOING TO COLLEGE AND WORK IN A LAW FIRM MAKING DECENT MONEY. HEY I FEEL GOOD ABOUT MY LIFE I WOULDN'T REGRET MY KIDS NEITHER AND THAT'S THE WAY I WANT MY LIFE. SINGLE WOMAN THAT WERE ON THE PANEL TALKING NON SENSE I WISH I WAS THERE TO PUT THEM ON. NOT BECAUSE I HAVE KIDS, BUT EVEN IF I DIDN'T I WOULD'VE LET THEM KNOW THAT EVERY "GOOD" MOTHER SHOULD BE RESPECTED NO MATTER WHAT. I DON'T NEED NOONES OPINION ABOUT MY LIFE NOR MOTHERHOOD ALL THAT MATTERS IS THAT MY LIFE IS FULL OF HAPPINESS I GO OUT ALOT ENJOY MYSELF AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF MY KIDS. I GOT A MAN [I DON'T NEED HIM HE KNOWS THAT SO IT SCARES HIM] BUT IF A MAN IS GONNA LOVE ME UNCONDITIONALLY AND I WANT THAT THEN I COULD HAVE IT. SO WHY TRY TO BADGER A WOMAN WITH KIDS OR MARRIAGE? A SINGLE WOMAN THAT TALKS LIKE THAT IS JUST JEALOUS..BECAUSE WHEN YOU'RE SECURE ABOUT YOURSELF THERE'S NO REASON TO FOCUS ON SOMEONE ELSE'S LIFE AND TRY TO DISCRIMINATE. END OF STORY... A HAPPY SECURE PERSON DOESN'T STATE RUDE IGNORANT CHILDISH OPINIONS ABOUT SOMEONE ELSE'S LIFE. ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY HAVEN'T LIVED IT TO TELL FOR THEMSELVES. HOW STUPID OF THEM GROW UP DON'T GET MAD CAUSE YOU DON'T HAVE A MAN TO LOVE YOU OR HAVEN'T FOUND THE ONE TO SATISFY YOU. HA HA

I will toss in my two pennies. Short and sweet, just like me..well one out of two ain't bad. Do you. It's that simple. If single people wanna stay single that's you. Enjoy. Married folk with kids, if that's your bag, then be happy. Enjoy. Don't look at the other side and say something is wrong with them because they like what they like, just do you. I've heard both folks say some STUPID things to each other. Single folks think the married folk get special privies because they get to go home early when children are sick. News Flash...no one wants to go home early to clean vomit and change sick baby's diapers. Think about that next time you gripe. Married folk are claiming single folk are selfish because they won't have kids. Ahem, News Flash. Anyone can have a kid. It takes a Queen to raise them. Not to say the single ones aren't Queens, but I'd rather see them NOT have one than to have one and not treat them well. They are single Queens and there is NOTHING wrong with that if that's what they want. Now get back to your respective corners ladies and live your lives. We have enough problems without worrying about this too. Like why desert commercials are shown only during women shows..hmmm? What's THAT all about?! /end rant

i like to get to know jeny so we can exchange emails to know her . seeking for relationship 36yrs old. tnx

BOTTOMLINE: Love and accept yourself. Never justify your life to anyone. Don't let others opinions define you. This is the take-home accumulated wisdom of a 40, single, never-married and fierce "older woman" and therapist. No one has to live in your skin but you. Everyone has their own path and diversity is interesting. There is no good or bad, just motivation and timing. If you're happy being single, stay single. If you're not, do what you can about it. If you're happy being married, stay married. If you're not, get out. There are plusses and minuses to both single and married. If you're not married, maybe you haven't met someone compatible enough to satisfy your idea of what marriage is. There is nothing wrong with waiting. There is nothing wrong with enjoying dating for the sake of dating. This is my truth. I could be married, but I'm glad I'm not and I will get married if I have the right feelings for someone. I do enjoy meeting different types of men and enjoy their company, but often we want different things. I would like to feel less prejudice and pressure from our culture for my lifestyle. If you're married I encourage you to enjoy the security and stability of marriage. I'm happy for you. I wish I had someone to help with expenses, do a few chores, and sleep with on a regular basis (assuming its good). If you're single I would encourage you to date hot men who treat you well and date younger as you get older, it'll keep you young. Being fierce will help you to pull it off. AND I ENCOURAGE EVERY WOMAN TO BE FINANCIALLY INDEPENDENT AND ABLE TO LEAVE AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. If you don't want kids of your own, take care of

Hey Tyra, I really enjoyed your show today, especially with the married and single panels. Truthfully, it hit a chord with me when one woman on the singles panel mentioned that people automatically assume she's a lesbian or that something is wrong with her since she's not married. I'm almost 24 years old and have never gone on a date, so people, even my family, sometimes makes fun of me for that, which can sometimes be very hurtful. Anyways, I just wanted to say that I think that each person should do what they feel is right for them, whether it be staying single or getting married.

My name i Sarah an i'm 22 years old and I am married. I'm very happy but I am also very independent. One day me and my husband want to have children. So i do understand the married side of things. I also see the unmarried side and completely respect any woman who does what us best for her. And i honestly believe thats what it is all about, Doing what is best for you. I would be just as happy and fullfilled if I was single. I love my husband very very much but I DO NOT NEED HIM!! He knows this amd I think that sometimes it hurts him but i refuse to sacrafice myself, in any way, for any man. when I have children I will have to sacrafice myself in ways. The problem with people who insist on the traditional lifestyle don't respect the people for not bringing children that they don't want, into this world. And if they don't want to get married then why should they be pushed into that sort of lifestyle?

Society should not pressure people to do things that may not be right for them. Our lives are what God has chosen for us. Whether it be single, married, or divorced. Society's pressure on women to marry reminds me of a very important story that a professor told our class during vet school: The professor had a five year-old son who loved chocolate chip cookies. Their family had an aquarium filled with beautiful fish. One day the son looked up to the professor, his father, and said, "Dad, I love chocolate chip cookies. They make me happy, so I want the fish to have chocolate chip cookies too because it will make them happy." The professor explained to his son that the cookies would kill the fish and would not make them happy. Insistent to make the fish happy, the son put a cookie into the aquarium. Immediately the water turned cloudy and all of the fish died. The moral of the story: What makes one person happy may be harmful to another.

Single women on the show pretty much leaned on the case of a more steady career to take care of opposed to having kids, which is fine, but when their time comes the only thing they leave behind is materialism such as a building with your legacy that can torn done and replaced with a wal-mart, while the life of the child will carry on the family legacy for generations to come! Businesses fail all the time if theirs is successful good for them, but the name will be forgotten as time passes!

first of all im 26 years old im married with 2 beautiful girls, im an owner of 3 business that are doing very well my husband has his own business and im a proud mother being a mom is a great thing its natural in every way, all the woman on your panel where very stereotypical i was very offended when she said mothers are lazy lazy is no where in my category i own a business you do the math i do not need my husband to complete me my husband don't need me to complete him God is our completion we were just blessed to have one another, im very fierce i shop for me and my kids, any woman that allow her self to fall after kids is her fault my kids are the reason why i have my businesses they are my reason why im so successful, your show was very prejudice against moms if your mom would have told someone that she never wanted kids you would not be here think about that Michelle Obmama great example beautiful mom of two and shes running the country right now and you tell me mother's are lazy you are backwards, your show have should been about mothers that have abortions and due away with there babies but we are getting dogged out because we had our kids give me a break your panel of mothers where very weak individuals you should of had me on that panel im very independent and successful, just beacause ive bonded with a man does mean ive bonded my soul im me and forever will do me im just also a leader, P>S KImore Lee Simone is doing better than you!

dangg!!! single women on the show were so arrogant because they weren't so open minded as opposed to the married women. And STAYING HOME is NOT BEING LAZY!!! My parents have worked really hard to get myself and siblings to where we are now..my mom stayed home to watch us..feed us..clothe us..take us to school...and more!! and my dad had 2 jobs and a paycheck every 2 weeks!! AND THATS NOT EVEN HALF OF WHAT MY PARENTS DID FOR US..AND I'M NOT JUST SPEAKING FOR MYSELF BUT FOR OTHERS WHO WENT THROUGH THIS, TOO.