Dear Tyra, First of all let me say to you that you represent women of today in a positive, uplifting way. I love your show and feel that I have a friend in you. This message is with regards to the show where single women are put down by the married women. My story, I was the supportive wife, attractive, stayed in shape, mother of three that also became a fill in mom for four children that thier mothers had passed away early in the childs life, was a foriegn exchange student counsler for three years with children from 27 different countries. A U10 Girls Corrinator of the county soccer board which I had 125 Under ten girls, which meant I needed 22 coaches to coach,Ran a STATE tournament for Gatorade, Was in charge of British Soccer Camp, where I had to place coaches (26) in homes then run the camp for 276 children for a week out of a year, for three years, very involved in my childrens schools,anything and everything the schools needed they called me. I also supported my husband in his extra activities ( softball, soccer, marathon running,any thing that he was involved in I supported him and was married to this man for 22 yrs. I also was a fulltime housewife, good ole southern cook, did all the housework, and my husband was completely spoiled as the most he had to do was sit in a chair with his remote, and have all the sex he needed wanted etc. Whatever my family or the community needed I was there. My middle daughter was in pageants and Nashville to the Ryman performed all over the area singing,had a agent where we were headed to the. She has been in pageant magazines,Supreme overall talent, and Grand Supreme

Hi Tyra! I love your show and I dvr it daily! I really appreciated the single vs married episode because its something that I can relate to. I'm 21 and I'm a pre-vet student while also working. My fiance and I live together in the sunshine state and we have 2 boxers and a cat. They are our spoiled kids and I wouldn't trade them for the world. While I love my nieces and nephews I do not plan on having children of my own for a number of reasons. I have often heard I am too young to make that decision, or that I don't know what I want, or that I am being selfish, but I feel that is the most unselfish thing I can do for not only myself but the world. By choosing not to have children, I am saving myself from the stress, time, and money required to try to support a family. I also feel I will have more time to dedicate to the countless other organizations that need our aid out there as well as my passions. I will also save the world from one more mouth to feed, and one more to add to our overpopulation. I feel that so many women out there feel pressured to meet the number 1 wife/mom standard. We have come so far with our rights but why stop now when we have so much farther to travel? I fear some women look at having a man and child as completing themselves and they are doing these things for the wrong reasons. I think they need to embrace who they are and then move forward accordingly. I commend the wives, mothers, husbands, and fathers who give the best they can offer to their children - you are

It really bothers me that we as women have to be against each other. I feel that it doesn't matter which side you're on, just as long as you are happy with it. I am single and I am the most giving person. I do have a desire to be married and have children, but I don't feel like I have to submit, etc...to all of the stuff that was said on the show. I am happy with myself & don't need a man to validate me, but that doesn't mean that I don't enjoy having testosterone around me. I don't like the way my married friends treat me nor do I enjoy their conversations, but I don't down them for it and it's very frustrating when they down me for being single. I feel there are so many other things in the world to worry about other than whether a woman is married and wants or have children. As Rodney King said,"Can we all just get along?"

Being married or single have it's advantage and disadvantage. What i mean is single woman can go places,do what the want without anyone telling them what to do,have a career and being on their own.Being single is not selfish i think it's who you are as a person. And married women have to compromise with there husband which is not and easy job because if your husband is working 24 hours around the clock you have to compromise because the kids at school,prepare a nice home cook meal,clean the home,after school program for the kids and at the end of the day you have to attend to your husband every desire.Which is not an easy for one woman being married it a 50/50 on both side. Being single it's not a crime you may not find the man of your dreams but you may have friends who are they for you every step of the way. Be with your friends and be happy until that special someone touches your heart. I find that married women are unhappy with there lives it's because the married too young or the soulmate or sweethart had cheated on them. It's not a good thimg especially if you have kids. From both sides I think the women should have done a better job to get there point of view across to they audience. Question:You find the woman of your dreams,she sexy,beauuitful and talented.Why do men cheat?

You know, I can understand the desire of these women not to get married. But, to me, to say that you never want to have children is absolutely disgusting. There is no joy in the world greater than motherhood. Period. For the woman who said: I don't want to be stuck with bad kids- people's children are a s bad as you ALLOW them to be. No matter the person, you will love your child and think they are the most beautiful thing God could ever give you. To the woman who said: I don't like kids-Neither do I! But I love my son with a fiery passion. And to the woman closest to Tyra who acted like her job was so damn great because she could "negotiate" with men- try potty training, try bottle weaning, try time-out, try feeding, try bedtime. There is no job harder or most satisfying then motherhood and there is no job that requires as much skill. PERIOD. And she acted as if a woman with a child can not work. Please! I walked across the stage at high school graduation as valedictorian and 2 months pregnant. I went on to Stanford University, gave birth mid school year, and was back in class the next week. I am still at school and I plan on eventually becoming a doctor. A baby doesn't halt your career unless you are week-minded and undedicated. And a child will motivate you more than anything else in the world to become a success. No matter all the accomplishment you ever have in your career, none will be as rewarding as the first footstep, the first words, their first A. I can't believe a woman who wouldn't want to experience that. As intelligent as these women think they are, they are

I was extremely annoyed at the married section of the panel. I thought they had a lot of confidence to call women who do not want to get married selfish, incapable of relationships, etc. I am still young, but I often feel like I don't want to get married or have children. I get called selfish. In addition, I am wonderful with children, and have a few teaching certifications, I just don't want to have any at home. Women DO NOT NEED a man to make them complete. And for the ones who felt that it says it in the bible, I have a book for you to read: The Message by William P. Young. In one section, he talks about how marriage was something made by man, not God.

I agreed with the young lady whose mother and sister had her in tears because she has yet to choose marriage and children over her freedom and independence. I am a soon to be 37 year old man and I am a single father, never married and my parents are relentless about me getting married. Yes, I do want to be married someday in the not too distant future but I won't settle and that seems to matter very little to them. I have realized I, being a late bloomer, am still advancing to a level my peers have met and gone beyond so naturally for me along with that acceptance comes a peace with marriage whenever its right. She and I will know.

Okay this is my viewpoint if your a woman and you want to be single and pursue a career that is fantastic and more power to ya but at the same time you should def be respectfull of those who do want to marry and have children and vice versa i mean if all women didnt have the desire to have kids none of us would even be here i mean i kno me personally i want to get married and have children and be a wife and mother i think thats the greatest privledge that a woman can have. And also it made me very mad that the one woman on the show said something to the effect of women get married because they are lazy and dont want to work or whatever she said thats just not fair !!!

I am a married woman of 26 years with twin daughters age 19. One of them has told me she doesn't know if she ever wants to get married or have kids. I don't find that to be selfish at all. Why would some say that she needs to spend her life pleasing a man and bearing his children in order to be a good and loving woman? She is very giving and loving and doesn't have to be married to demonstrate that. I find that the judgement and criticism on this topic comes mainly from other women. What is fulfilling and satisfying for one woman may be entirely different for another. It appears that some women can't handle when another steps "out of the box" and chooses another path. I don't for one minute believe that I am old fashioned or stuck in tradition because I got married and had children. Likewise I don't believe single women are selfish. Utter nonsense!

hi tyra this lana from trinidad i watch your show every day.i really enjoy hateher i think u should have a show in Trinidad.so i could meet u in person by the way my daughter loves u.

It is sad that certain women do not know how to live a life that doesn't involve depending on a man. Or that certain women do not feel complete as a human being until they find a man and have a baby to "fill in those empty spots of their being." I love being in a relationship, it's truly blissful when it's right. But I know how to be complete by myself, and love myself through times of being single. I don't have to feel "missing parts of myself" yearning to be filled by someone else. I use a relationship as something to ADD to my character and life-- not to 'fix' myself and feel complete. I hope the women out there who do feel that way learn to truly love themselves; I feel this debate goes to issues of self-love and acceptance through whichever lifestyle is chosen.

This was an extremely powerful discussion. I am elated that these types of discussions about a woman's role in the world is evolving. I am not married and feel no regrets about my decision. I may want to marry one day but understand that it a huge responsibility and will take work by the both of us to make it successful. I have been called selfish by a close friend who has children, and I completely disagree. It's funny because she continually comments on how lucky I am to come home to peace and quiet. It's better not to engage in acts that your heart and soul are not into. Those children would suffer needlessly. That being said we do need great mothers in the world. I am curious however how it is possible to do everything sucessfully with a husband, kids, a stressful career. Doesn't someone or something suffer as a result of having so many responsibilities?

I just want to say that there should be a mutual respect for the single women and the married women. I myself am married and expecting our first child in December, AND have a full time career from my Double major/certification Degree. What am I saying? You CAN DO IT ALL. I am happily married to a wonderful man, having our first baby (because we wanted to have a baby at this point in our relationship) we have been married 6 years. But I also am dammed good at my career and intend to keep my career. I also LOVE to be home and take care of my husband and cook and clean. basically, whatever you want to do, you CAN do it, whether its remain single, get married, have a college career, or be a stay at home mom. Lets EMPOWER WOMEN, no matter what we choose to do with our lives and respect each other for our decisions!

I was embarrassed, appalled and disgusted by the married women on the panel on Friday's show, married vs. single. I am a married woman of eleven years with no children. I love the institution of marriage but how naive and ignorant to broad stroke the choice to be single as women who can't socialize, nor know how or have no desire to please other people. The married women were judgmental while the single women seemed grounded, balanced and confident. It is a choice. Marriage and marriage to my husband is for me. Marriage is not for everyone but for anyone who chooses it. No situation is perfect and at all times either situation can be less than ideal but to devalue someone because of their choice....I was appalled. As a matter of fact, I found one comment in particular disturbing...."single women are single because they don't know how to socialize or have the desire to please other people..." In fact I find some married women have little practice in socializing or having a conversation outside of their spouses and/or children. Wake up people. Choice is a great thing. And we should celebrate the God-Given priviledge we have in this country to make choices that work for us.

see i want to tell you that the lady who came in this show with her husband she says that she don't want child well ok But think if HER PARENTS THINKS SAME WHAT SHE IS THINKING THAN SHE WILL BE NOT THERE TO SAY THAT I DON'T WANT CHILD