Wed. Aug 19, 2009 | 12:06 PM
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Were the married virgin couples able to have sex after they left the show?

We contacted the guests to find out how things are going.

Here's what they had to say.

Lauren & Eric
Lauren & Eric were happy to appear on the show and share their story with the world. The pressure and stress of not being able to have sex was putting a strain on the relationship. Well after being married for more than 2 years, Lauren & Eric were just recently finally able to have intercourse! They are happier than ever and are looking forward to many more years of wedded bliss!

Rachel & Dave
Rachel & Dave are doing great since appearing on the show. Shortly after getting back home from taping the show, Rachel found out she is pregnant! The couple is extremely happy to welcome a baby into the world close to the end of the year. Rachel is hoping for a little girl but both are just hoping for a happy & healthy baby!

Alison & Jim
Alison & Jim are still dating and love spending time together!

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Thanx for the show Tyra, it has been very informative and a great start to my research. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years now. I've had vaginismus for about five years now. It's not bad to the point where I can't be intimate, but it is painful, and it has been getting worse. To reply to "K", age and virginity really have nothing to do with it. Vaginismus is actually a condition you can develop later on in life, even after you've had a healthy pain free relationship. Like I've said, I've been doing research and its a shame that a lot of people aren't aware of this condition. Even most doctors aren't, thats why its often left untreated. But again I want to thank Tyra, and the couples for being brave and doing the show.
Posted by Marie 10/12/09 12:40 PM
 
Thank you so much for this show/info. I am from Sweden and I have vaginismus. I am 24 years old and virgin. The guys I have met before just want me for one-two weeks and then they want to break up because I cant have sex with them. I am to tired of that so I dont look at guys anymore. I hate that because I have alot of love to give someone but I am to hurt now. I have been waithing for over 2 years now in a line to get help. Nobody knows anything about ut in Sweden and nobody talks about it. Thats a big problem. So thank you so much for this!
Posted by Love 10/02/09 9:01 AM
 
On PELVIC EXAMS DURING PREGNANCY--I have vaginismus and I just had a baby. I had no cervical checks during my pregnancy and none until I had an epidural during my delivery. You can have vag (short for vaginismus)and have a baby. How I have been treating my vag is seeing a licensed sex therapist and most helpful has been a Physical therapist who dilates me with fingers and dilators to help my muscles "learn" to widen. I have been suffering with this for 7.5 yrs (as long as I've been married). And Derrick--your talk about sex having nothing to do with love and your happiness your wife "knew what pleasured her" before she met you is troubling and very very wrongheaded. For those of you who think this is wrong--check out Pope John Paul II's Theology of the Body. It's not just for Catholics--it is really a social philosophy about the nature of men and women, their relationships, sex and it's intrinsic meaning. Sex is an expression of love, Derrick. And it saddens me that you have not been taught this.
Posted by Laura Evans 09/02/09 4:09 PM
 
Hi! I just watched this show today. The first couple was almost exactly like us. We married this year, on August 9th and honeymooned in Disney World for a week. I always knew I would have problems the first time, but I never thought it would be next to impossible, if not impossible. We tried, and I would get so scared. My breathing would accelerate, I sweat, I burst into tears, I scream, I rage, I lock up, and I don't see how it can work. Besides, everything that does help, takes money. Who has that these days? My husband and I saved ourselves, now I wonder if it would have been easier if he had just had sex before me. How is there hope for those who can't afford it? I've tried, and I don't think it will ever be possible. I was always terrified of it. Even the topic. At least now I know I'm not the only one, but how did they ever get the strength to do it? And even if I did, would I ever be able to do it again?
Posted by Alyssa 09/02/09 9:13 AM
 
This show was very interesting to me because I experienced a similiar problem on my wedding night. I was a virgin when I got married and was really looking forward to finally being able to have sex. But I had the same issue as these woman, it felt like hitting a brick wall. I bled a lot had even had to wear panty liners during the day. And that was just from trying to have sex. Fortunately we were able to have sex a couple days later. I drank some alcohol (just one drink, I'm not someone who drinks but I thought it would help relax me)and I just had to set my mind to it. And actually I did enjoy it even though I was in pain at first and sore the next day. It took a few months for me to stop bleeding and experiencing pain after sex. But now we have a very active sex life and I don't have any more pain. However, I do think that a lot of the problem may have been in my head because I recently have a baby with an all natural (no pain meds) delivery. I experienced a great deal of pain during delivery and ended up with three tears and about 35 stitches and hemorraged from the tears. I believe I may have done the same thing as I did the first few times we attempted to have sex. So I know this is a real problem and I was really relieved to see I wasn't the only one experiencing it, it seems like people don't inform woman of these types of issues before you get married which is unfortunate and I think the church needs to do a better job informing woman before their wedding night.
Posted by HM 08/20/09 9:07 PM
 
I saw in your show about mothers who torch kids because they don't like their hair, I also saw in another show about little girls competing in a pageant where a little girl was telling her mother that she didn't feel good and had fever but the mother was forcing her to compete or else she will send her to her father, I want to ask you isn't that maltreating a child and the department of child protection or ACI should get involve? I also want to ask you why its always competition for young or beautiful girls, there have to be something for grand and great grand mother to compete don't you think?
Posted by consuelo 08/20/09 3:30 PM
 
I watched the show yesterday and I understood exactly what the girls were feeling, when my boyfriend and I tried to have sex for the first time (I was a virgin, he was not) it was unbearably painful, I was crying and the whole time I was wishing he would just hurry up and finish. Everytime we tried it hurt, but because I wanted to do it for him, I just sucked it up and dealt with the pain. Three months later it finally stopped hurting. We've been intimate for about eight months, and I've only had one orgasm. But I still love having sex with him because even if I can't finish, he can, and it feels good, it just doesn't go anywhere.
Posted by K 08/20/09 11:49 AM
 
Hi tyra what I really think is that because some of them waited sooo long to have sex, maybe the pain gets worse and uncomfortable. Don't get me wrong I'm not saying sex before marriage but I think the age has alot to do with it.
Posted by Ms. Bain 08/20/09 6:09 AM
 
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Posted by Wanjala 08/20/09 2:05 AM
 
My heart went out to the first couple with her feeling so much pain just to have sex with her hubby! Being spiritually aware, i think that this issue may be a karmic issue from a past life. For example, I have a very big fear of water and drowning. I get panic attacks if the water is too deep. I can not even watch my daughter have swimming lessons. I has a karmic reading and found that I drowned in more than one of my past lives. Sometimes we bring past life issues into the current life to heal them. I have healed several of my karmic energy. It can also be medical. But its a thought. Learning about your past lives (for those that believe) is very informative. I go to www.urielheals.com and Jennifer Hoffman is blessed with a gift to connect to Arch Angel Uriel and peoples angels. Awesome!
Posted by lovingme 08/19/09 9:03 PM
 
Recently on 20 20 they talked about this topic of vaginismus and there is a doctor in Washington DC who specializes in vulvovaginal disorders. One couple had been married for I think 5 years and had not had sex but once the wife received treatment they led a fullfillig sex life. One problem could be the muscles around the vagina are too tight, this can be handled with special stretching exercises. Another problem could be the nerves of the vagina are too sensitive and these nerves can be treated by this doctor. Another soulution was botox as was described on the Tyra show. There IS hope out there.
Posted by Lynn 08/19/09 7:28 PM
 
Hi Tyra!! I just started the HCG Diet a week ago, but I feel like I am still not very informed about it!! =D I would love for you to get some people together and get everyone about it!! Thanks!! Love you Tyra!! You're great!! =]]]
Posted by Alma 08/19/09 5:08 PM
 
Breast feeding of you become a mother and vaginal birth can be an issue too.I forced myself to breast feed for the 1st 6 mos, and could no longer bear it because of sexual fears and body issues. just a little fyi, it's important to seek help w/ these problems which can be reoccurring.
Posted by Lisa 08/19/09 4:58 PM
 
I was abused a lot as a child both sexually and through violence and I have struggled with this my whole life. I used to try to pleasure myself and I would begin to cry uncontollably. My husband and I tried to wait to have sex, and were successful most often and only had sex 4 times before marriage in a 3 yr span. We never really saw a problem until we were married because the desire was so intense for each other.Once we were married, on the wedding night, I was too fightened to try to have sex so we had oral sex. So our sex life is now off and on and I spent a while feeling so guilty for not providing for his needs. I tried forcing myself to have sex with him, and just bear it to keep him committed to me. A friend of mine lost her husband because she couldn't bring herself to have sex even once with her spouse.I felt like he might get fed up,and like my friends husband,leave me. I was so confused by my horrendous amount of desire to have sex and then making him stop in the midst of that precious moment, crying tears of regret and fear and complete hopelessness. But I've found that the key to an enjoyable, firery sexual experience with my husband is to relax and spend a good hour or so in foreplay. Even hinting at it though out the day through texts or emails9me being the initiator and never ever him). I found that the reason why I was scared on my wedding night was because I felt like I HAD TO HAVE SEX. Because I was not in control. I find that If I'm rough with him, or sometimes if I'm the
Posted by Lisa 08/19/09 4:52 PM
 
I suffered from vaginismus, the condition these women on the show had, for the first 1 1/2 years of marriage. I want to thank the Tyra show for bringing this little-known issue into the open. I cried as I watched the show, it just brought back so many bad memories. I don't really like the way Tyra sensationalized it so much ('OMG! You've never had sex?? And how does that make you feel?') but I do appreciate the publicity it gave to this issue. I hope that other women who have this problem will be helped by this show to diagnose their problem and seek help for it. By the way, I overcame vaginismus in about 8 months Without resorting to botox. There is a wonderful website to help women with this issue, vaginismus.com
Posted by Hayley 08/19/09 4:06 PM



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