We know it's tempting, but resist the urge to lurk!
We know the beginning stages of a relationship can be a tricky time. You want to get to know each other slowly -- but you also want to make sure you're not dating a crazy person. Of course, most of us will just simply look up his Facebook page and get the stats -- but is this the right way to go about it? Here's a few reasons why you shouldn't google a new man.
Mistaken Identity
Even on the internet we all use a certain tone of voice. That's why how you know that when your bestie is using an excessive amount of periods, ("No. I'm fine.",) she's in a bad mood. What you read on a blog or social networking page are just words until you know him enough to understand how he means them. By reading up on him before you actually know him can give you the wrong impression.
Faking It
You know he went to a private, all-boys' high school, he played lacrosse and is of Irish nationality -- and you learned it all from reading his Livejournal. Now when he actually tells you about it, you have to pretend you didn't know. Awkward.
Cheater, Cheater
We completely understand wanting to spare yourself any chance at a relationship with a drama-dude, but when you spend too much time cyber-researching, you cheat yourself too. The best part of any new relationship is the learning stage where everything is new, exciting and grounds for a heartfelt conversation. Knowing it all beforehand cheats you of that.
