Once you have sex with your BF, can you still tell him no? Of course!

yesno.jpgAt some point, every virgin faces the big "will you, won't you?" sex question, but once you've gone all the way, does the question go away? No.

Once you've had sex with a guy, it does not mean you have to do it every time you see him -- in fact, telling him you want to wait before the second time is a good way to find out if he's really into you. Any guy who's worth your time will be more interested in getting into your heart than your pants. If sex is the most important thing in your relationship, perhaps it's not the best match for you. The "virgin decision" is not the only decision you make when it comes to sex -- it's a decision you make each time you do or don't.

Then there are times when you've already said yes in the heat of the moment (or in response to pressure) -- but you change your mind. Is it still okay to say no when you're in the middle of yes? Yes.

Your body is yours and you can deny access at any time. No matter how mad he might get, if you're no longer into it, it's your right to end it. But, try to avoid it, indecisiveness comes off as game playing.

Bottom line: You are never obligated to be intimate with your guy, even if you've already slept with him. And you can always change your mind, no matter how far beyond kissing the makeout session has gone.

Saying no is always okay. And if you do say yes, make sure you play safe.

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Did you hear about the man who was charged with rape? After she said no, it took him too long to stop moving and pull out!
 
Hi Tyra. I'll be 18 in couple days & I'm still a virgin. I'm proud of myself. All of my friends lost their virginity couple of years ago. Some people would say you need to lose, so I'll respond back saying: "who are you to tell me what to do?!" I want to feel comfortable when I do it & with the right guy. I'm reading all of those comments about 13-14 year old girls having sex and I get carried away. When I was that age I didn't even think about it. My mind was focused of EDUCATION and it still is ( my last year of high school). All my life I only had 2 boyfriends. And they were willing to wait for the right moment but I also want to make sure I'm on birth control when we do it.
 
Hi Tyra. I'll be 18 in couple days & I'm still a virgin. I'm proud of myself. All of my friends lost their virginity couple of years ago. Some people would say you need to lose, so I'll respond back saying: "who are you to tell me what to do?!" I want to feel comfortable when I do it & with the right guy. I'm reading all of those comments about 13-14 year old girls having sex and I get carried away. When I was that age I didn't even think about it. My mind was focused of EDUCATION and it still is ( my last year of high school). All my life I only had 2 boyfriends. And they were willing to wait for the right moment but I also want to make sure I'm on birth control when we do it.
 
Hey Tyra i'm 15 and luckily for me i'm still a virgin, even if I wana have sex I still stand on firm grounds on the subject of sex. My priority right now is to finish my studies but I think that I will keep my virginity for after marriage coz I find tht preserving my virginity for tht special guy will be worth it, But after the long time waiting I hope its going to be worthwhile.
 
Hey Tyra my name in Tima, and i lost my virginity at the age of 16. I regreted it and i've learnved to say no to any other boys who have tried to come on to me. but i had sex with my ex of 6 months and it was hard to tell him no when i wasn't in the mood, so i would lie and say that i was on my period or something only because he would just constantly question me about why i didn't want to have sex with him and make me feel bad about it. But now i am with a guy who is a complete gentlemen and my first love, and when i don't want to have sex i can say no to him because he will understand and not make me feel bad about it. I think if a guy really cares about you, he is more understanding of your needs and you don't have to feel the guilt of saying no.
 
Hey my name is kirsis and i am 13 years old & i already lost my virginty but i want to say no to my boyfriend but i am also scared because i didnt know i was going to loose my virginty at this very very young age, i am really confused.
 
i known im young but im about to turn 15.but i already lost my virginity at the age 13....yes and after i lost my virginity.Everthing in my life is really bad cause,first thing my parents don't trust me,second my whole grade level thought i was hoe,and i could't make friends too, and third i lost my myself because the to the guy i lost my virginity with he did'nt care about me even if i got pregant!!! and the sad thing about that i did got pregant but i had miscarriage.and at the same time when i was with this guy who i lost my virginity to i had a boyfriend but it didn't matter cause my boyfriend wanted to sex when we were alone and same thing to the other guy(not saying names) but my mom is still angry when me sometimes and my dad is still hurt too and lost a lot of friends too. because im alone with my doggie princess hehe...but the reason this all happend because i could'nt say no.and it still hard for me to say the word and i just need help really and my mother too thanks
 
Hey Tyra, I started reading this, and I found this very intesting, because I haven't yet lost my virginity. Which when I talk to other girls who have lost their virginity they tell me to wait. I graduated high school this year, and I'm about to go to college, but still living at home, and I think also another reason is cause I was so busy:Girl Scouts, recreational and high school soccer(4yrs), Youth group, and school. I was just wondering if you tell a guy that you do all the things do they want to be will you or is it just me.
 
Hey Tyra! (again lol) sooo this topic is interesting, how doo you say no when you've already said yess? Well i think it would really help if you had a hobby to keep you away from a pressuring guy. I also think you need to go out with your female friends and havee fun and live your life. I mean srsly, why are alll these girls losing it so early? Maybe they have self esteem issues, yeah i get it blah blah blah, but N0 guy is going to make you feel better about your SELF :) I have sooo many friends that are pregnant and it makes me really sad cuz i know there future is cut short for a guy that doesn't care about them. Anywho, i hope you girls wait, pleassee wait, a guy will wait for you if he really, truly cares :]
 
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my sophmore year in high school i joined the wrestling team.. why i chose to do wrestling i still dont know.. now im a seinor in high school and i thought i would share my story.. when i joined the wrestling team as u would imagine it was mostly boys on the team.. there was three other girls besides myself on the team.. two of them had boyfriends on the team.. and the other had a boyfriend but he was not on the team... come to find out they all were having sex.. which by the way two were freshman and the other was a seinor about to graduate.. so eventually somewhere down the line after gettin to know the girls and hanging out on occasions i felt left out by not havin a boyfriend or havin sex.. i bye the way was a virgin and had never had a boyfriend in my life.. but yea after being around these girls i did star to think about it.. like the times i would go to spencers and tag along with them as they bought stuff for them and their boyfriends.. so i dedcided i wanted a boyfriend too... i wanted to have sex too.. i thought if a freshman was doin it so can i there was nothin wrong..so i went out and found me a boyfriend.. which happened to be this boy that had been tryin to go out with me at the time for the past what was about a year so i finally said yes to him.. we ended up going out and havin sex.. it wasnt what i thought it was like ... considering we did it for the first time in a bathroom of some apartment complex.. it was horrible and it hurt.. but of
 
Hey Tyra! I've slept with my boyfriend already. We were both 14 when it took place and then we got into a fight about 2 months later, we've had sex multiple times between then, and I finally told my mom about losing my virginity to him. She told me to leave him, but I couldn't. We've been through so much and I didn't want to let him out of my life, he took my virginity and I wasn't going to let him run away with it. He didn't want to leave me either, so we decided to stay together, my mother didn't let my boyfriend and I hang out very much at all after I told her what we had done and it has brought a lot of fighting into my family. My dad told me to choose between my boyfriend and my family...I'm not going to leave my boyfriend because my family and I have never been really close and I just don't think it would be worth it. Some may think that I made the wrong decision, but I think it was wise. My boyfriend has always been here for me no matter what and he's always making decisions based on the both of us and not just himself. He proposed to me about a month ago, I'm still 14. And I plan on marrying him when we graduate high school. I know that I am way more mature than other kids my age but, am I moving too fast with my boyfriend?
 
Never had love in my life,but if Tyra helps me find the true love of my life i will be happy,i need a honest girl in my life race does not matter,Am 27 years old living in kenya,my name is patrick and i need TYRA´S help please.
 
HI TYRA... MY NAME IS TALLIYAH I AM 15 YEARS OLD...I LOST MY VIRGINITY ON MY 14TH BIRTHDAY... WE KNEW EACH OTHER FOR A YEAR... WE REALLY LOVE EACH OTHER AND ARE STILL TOGETHER... HE IS A BIG FLIRT AND BECAUSE I AM SO ATTACHED TO HIM IT REALLY HURTS WHEN I KNO WAT HE IS DOIN... OUR DADS HAVE BEEN BESTFRIENDS SINCE THEY WERE 12... OUR PARENTS KNOW THAT WE R TOGETHER AND THEY CARE BUT ARE KIND OF COOL WITH IT... THEY KNEW EVERYTHING AND WE NEVER TOLD THEM ANYTHING... IM HAPPY THAT THEY KNOW AND THAT WE DONT HAVE TO HIDE ANYTHING FOR THEM...
 
Hi Tyra I know that everyone says you'll know when you want to have sex but I don't know if I want to or not like I wanted to wait until I was married but when I listen to all my friends sex really doesn't seem all that big I keep thinking I might as well just get it over with but then I'm like scared I'll regret it. I don't know what to do it's just confusing. I'm 18 and I just think that being a virgin is looked at less positive than I thought



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