Once you have sex with your BF, can you still tell him no? Of course!

yesno.jpgAt some point, every virgin faces the big "will you, won't you?" sex question, but once you've gone all the way, does the question go away? No.

Once you've had sex with a guy, it does not mean you have to do it every time you see him -- in fact, telling him you want to wait before the second time is a good way to find out if he's really into you. Any guy who's worth your time will be more interested in getting into your heart than your pants. If sex is the most important thing in your relationship, perhaps it's not the best match for you. The "virgin decision" is not the only decision you make when it comes to sex -- it's a decision you make each time you do or don't.

Then there are times when you've already said yes in the heat of the moment (or in response to pressure) -- but you change your mind. Is it still okay to say no when you're in the middle of yes? Yes.

Your body is yours and you can deny access at any time. No matter how mad he might get, if you're no longer into it, it's your right to end it. But, try to avoid it, indecisiveness comes off as game playing.

Bottom line: You are never obligated to be intimate with your guy, even if you've already slept with him. And you can always change your mind, no matter how far beyond kissing the makeout session has gone.

Saying no is always okay. And if you do say yes, make sure you play safe.


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Hi to all teen girls!!!!! My name is Amber and If you don't mind I will tell you my story. Well when I was eleven years old my loving father passed away. I was so heart broken, never be the same I said to myself. But I am very greatfull, because before my daddy died he talked to me, and warned me about boys. Listen all you teen girls you are beautifull, wonderfull, and smart. If your boyfriend doesn't care about that dump him. You are better then that and you yourself should want better. I am only 15 years old, but I know already how to stop a boy in his tracks when he wants sex. And remember not all boys think that you are specail like your parents do!!! Dad is the only real guy you can trust.
 
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hi tyra l saw ur Question on facebook saying "have you ever wanted to turn back the clock on your relationship"...l have been married for 2years today lm only 21 with a year and 4m toddler and a 2m born baby l got married when l was 19 and everyday is a struggle l have to kids and my husband is from over seze and lm born here in canada we dont agree on anything and fight day and night and sometimes l do wish l can turn back the clock l wish l wasnt married l wish l didnt want to sit at home like a prisioner and watch my two kids and be a house wife,the life that l had before this was nothing like this it did a 180 trun around...but seeing my kids everyday looking up at me l thank god everyday for what he has givin me,Cause he would never give me anything l couldnt handel there are ups and downs and everyday l wish l wanst married cause of the money and the life here l cry everyday but lm greatful inwhat l have cause l can never trun back time and not have my kids with me it...wouldnt be complete without them....but l guess this is my destiney and this is what l have to live with.
 
i have still with the boyfriend i lost my virginity to and when i dont feel like having sex. he is okay with that. and that is what a relationship should be. but sometimes it is not.
 
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Sarah Domonic..i am a 17 year old freshmen in college. I lost my virginity at 16 to my boyfriend who at the time have been with for a year. I didnt give it up to him because he said he wanted to. Truth is it isnt their choce! its yours! & if your scared your boyfriend is going to leave you because you dont put out then he isnt worthy of taking your virginity. & who am i to say that i think you are to young to have sex but what i can say is to think about it long and hard cause once its gone its gone. i dont know how strongly i can urge you NOT to do it to please him. If you really want to have sex do it for you sweetie..chances are in the long run you wont stay with your first..but atleast it wasnt a bad choice.
 
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