We know -- there's a lot of reasons to worry about your teens today. They can text faster than you can speak and spend more time on the computer than at the dinner table. Do you think your teen may be getting in trouble or are you just being paranoid? Take our quiz and find out if you should be snooping on your teen!
i was the guardian of my nephew & niece for a while. my nephew's a good boy no problems with him but not my niece, she's older & she steals,steals,steals & lies,lies,lies about everything. everyday i had to sneak up on her to see what kind of head ache has for me until i had to take her to children's council then she was sent to live with her grandmother & up to now she hasn't changed. i don't think there's anything wrong with snooping on a teenager sometimes it might be for their own good.
I have to say "snooping" on your children is no way to treat anybody.Yes i think that moms should have every right to know where there chiled is but doing room checks and going through there kids personal stuff is going too far.I dont think anyones mom should go through their kids diaries because they dont want anyone else to know what's been happening or how they feel.When the time is right they will open up to their parents and tell them how they feel and whats been going on!My heart was kind of torn watching the tyra show and seeing that one girl who used to cut herself was now being snooped on by her mom.I used to cut myself and my mom found out but she has faith in me and doesnt snoop around into my buisness.That girl is going to do even more stupid things in life if her mom doesnt even trust her. Well that's basically all i have to say
i did not like your quiz. i dont like most of them . nope nope. and i dotn find it wrong to have parents check up on there kids. nope not at all, nut to up in thier buisiness . yea it would kinda bug me if their up in my business to much and i am 16...
i am going to be a senior this year and i think that perants have a right to look at what their kids are doing. some of my friends think my perants are to strict since i still ask for permision before doing anything and i dont go out to party or drink. but i dont see it as a bad thing since i am a good student and want to do something with my life. some of those girls look like idiots going out without their perants permision and drinking and having sex with older guys sometimes. some even get pregnant and drop out of school. i know i dont want that to happen to me.
Good parents love their kids and want to keep them safe and healthy; and good kids want to have fun and still make their parents proud. Parents have every right to protect their kids. Now there are cases where heightened monitoring is called for when an out of control teen has given a reason they can't be trusted. But when good kids who have not done anything untrustworthy are spied on it makes them feel that they are a bad person and their parents don't trust them to make the right decisions. The compromise is for the parents to continually educate their children on the dangers of the world and how to make good decisions and ask them about their daily life situations instead of snooping to find out what’s going on with them. In return the children should apply that knowledge in their everyday lives and be open with their parents about their lives. That way the child is armed with an informed mind and feels trusted by her parents. While at the same time the parent can feel a little more at ease knowing their child knows right from wrong and will come to them with the situations going on in their lives
Hi! I think that saying "snooping" and "spying" makes it sound so negative and makes parents think they shouldn't do it. It's not a negative thing. I was surprised that when the last Mother said she found that her daughter was texting a man out of state and stopped it by consulting the authorities no one clapped. I clapped! That's what we need more of. Issues of "trust" wouldn't be issues if when parents did find out things it wasn't disturbing. Reagene: Think about your friends or other peers who's parents let them stay out all night and don't have a curfew. What are they doing? What types of adults do you think they will be when they get older? Parents don't have rules just to make their children's lives miserable. They have rules to make sure they have GREAT, productive and SAFE lives.
I Am 15 And A Half And My Father Dosent Trust Me' I Cant Even Go To The Movies If He Cant Pick Me Up At 9.00 OMG'It's Gotten So Bad That I Often Get Punished For Coming In The House Late (8;00) DURING SUMMER BREAK!! I Dont Deserve This Its Only Because Im A Girl'
I am an in-home family therapist who specializes in adolescent behavior. I DO NOT feel that ANYTHING is wrong with MONITORING your child. "Snooping" is a negative term for DOING YOUR JOB as a parent. We have so many children today using substances and exhibiting delenquent behaviors due to their parents not doing their jobs as parents. I am surprised by how many "parents" have NO IDEA what is going on in their children's lives. They don't know who their children's friends are, or what they do on a daily basis-because they "trust" their children. I believe that there is a safe medium between "Invading privacy" and monitoring your children. Some parents may go a little overboard and may need to be redirected, but the purpose is valid. Children are children! Parents need to be able to be Parents!! This show that is on today makes me NOT want to watch this show anymore. What are we telling parents?! Let their children do whatever they want because "it's not fair" and never monitor or supervise their internet usage, cell phones or school interactions?! We are supposed to empower parents to supervise and monitor for SAFETY, not discourage parents from doing their jobs. Please do not confuse "snooping" with being a parent. By the way- if you have to monitor and supervise your SPOUSE...that is a whole different problem.
hey ive just turned 16 and i believe that it is COMPLETELY wrong to 'snoop' on anyone. i believe that it is an inner insecurity that could turn into a lifetime addiction. whether it is your child, spouse, or relative, i believe that everyone deserves privacy. yes ive watched the show today and it just proves my point that you should just be more open from the start. when a parent is constantly snooping on their child and saying that their own flesh and blood that is a part of them is a liar it hurts more than anything else in the world. that child will grow up not only with trust issues but also with severe insecurities with what they look like, do, and feel. mothers always say they just want to love their children and keep them safe well love them and get them counseling or send them to a farm to really learn something because locking your child up in the place that is suppose to be peaceful and their home is the absolute wrong thing to do. no matter what was done in the past because i think if you going to hold things against someone for doing something you didnt like then you should look down on YOURSELF for having kids out of wedlock to start.
I have to say; a 15 year old girl who sneaks out of the hotel in New York Bloody city should be shackled, locked in her room, sent to a convent. (And in my day it would be preceded by a profound visit to the woodshed.) At least then she would be ALIVE. Parents are NOT friends, they are Parents and this girl has the REST OF HER LIFE to "see the lights" of NYC. But only IF SHE LIVES. Bravo to any and all surveliance tactics a parent deems necessary. So what if these children feel "oppressed", "not trusted", "treated like a child" - well - at least they will be able to live to tell about it. I am alive - some of my "free" friends" aren't. So I now sincerely Thank my Parents for making my life hell for a few years and I emphatically say to parents ALWAYS KEEP TRACK OF YOUR KIDS. ALWAYS.
Yes parents have the right to snoop if they suspect something different about their children. With all the sinning going on in the world, parents need to keep track of their kids. I tell my 12 year old that I do check her things and it is because she gives me reason. For example, my daughter learned how to lie and manipulate at 10 years old, ad not from me. Kids already have too many privileges and are very slick. I know how I was when I was young and I tell my daughter don't even try it because I will find out about it!
hey hey Tyra, I am 15 years young. My parents have only snooped once that i am aware of. My dad hacked into my myspace and just looked around. when i found out it was him, i was hurt and upset because i had never given him or my mother a reason to not trust me. If anything they should be snooping on my sister, not me. She is the one that sneaks out and gets caut. She is the one that sometimes gets off the path. Anyways, it turns out he didnt find anything. I rubbed that in his face. He changed stuff that was writtin and messaged people i trusted. Lets just say my friendship with those select people is now weak and hardly there. I really dont understand why he did it. I just hope he never did it again. But im sure he did.
i am 35 years old and i grew up with an incredibly invasive mother. i was a virgin til i was 17, did not drink alcohol until i was 21, and always made exceptional grades. My mother xeroxed my diary when i was 15, read every note that ever came into my house, took the lock off my bedroom door and basically removed any sense of privacy i could have had. I had one friend and i wasn't allowed to ever see or talk to her because my mother didn't like her. I left home as soon as I was 18 and started using drugs and became very promiscuous because i had no idea how to make good decisions for myself. when i was 19 i moved into an apartment and my mother showed up at my door at eight one morning just to let me know she knew where i was. she forwarded my bank statements to her house afer i was 20 so she could see where i was using atms. eventually i abandoned my entire family and didn't speak to anyone, including my grandparents and sister, for about six years in my twenties. I married an abusive drug addict because i was left so naive by my mother's controlling and snooping and i was 31 before i was able to even begin getting my life in order. while i do have a relationship with my family now i can look back and see that years of naivete and poor decision making are all directly related to my mother's inability or unwillingness to allow me to make decisions while i was a teenager. i am no longer resentful of how gullible she made me but i have a deep sense of regret from the decisions my gullibility led
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I am 16 years old and my parents never snooped on me before. I would write a little something and put it on the table, to check if my parents look at them, they don't. When I get a call from someone, she asks who it is. Whenever something bothers my mom, she confronts me about it. I feel that we have very good communication. When I think about doing things, I keep my parents in mind. I don't want to upset them with anything I do, because I love them. They give me my freedom. They would let me hang out with my friends, as long as she knows who they are, where we're going, and I pick up the phone when she calls. But my parents don't call me too much when I'm out. In the past 16 years, I have earned their trust. I would be out at midnight, and my dad calls me asking me where I was. I tell him where I was, who I was with, and what time I'm going home. A lot of times, they don't even know the person. I would tell them things like "a classmate" or "a friend at school", and their names. But my parents have never met most of them, even now. They know that I don't want them to worry. I don't like seeing them worry. I think my parents educated me about things ever since I was little. Like in kindergarten, they would tell me about things on the news like rape, sex offenders..etc. I didn't even know what they were. But I could really tell they would be worried if I get into that situation. I could tell that they love me, even though they hardly ever say they love me. I feel like
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