thanks to this episode my parents started to snoop. they went through my phone to my online accounts e-mails the whole works. i hate it!

I tivo Tyra and I just got around to watching this episode. This shocked, but same time I am not. I am 18 years old and my mom has been doing this my whole life not to the same extremes, but shes done it. I still live at home and I am counting down the days to go to college because most of my life I felt like I lived in a glass box. My mom is very religious too, so that doesn't help. She judges everything I do and chooses what music, movies, shows, friends, guys, etc whatever are acceptable to her. I have been grounded most of my life and I have a younger sister who is going through it too. Not as hard, but only because I am first born. The things I have been through I don't want my kids dealing with. My mom is oblivious to how I feel and I have never been able to talk to her. I know I have given her reasons to snoop now because I have been so protected and sheltered all my life. I haven't done anything too extreme I think, but I am not a bad kid or ever was. I can't trust my mom and she can't trust me, I guess that's how it will be with us.

Was up tyra let me just tell you I love your show but anyway I don't think parents should be snooping in teens thing. Then again in 15years old and I do do thing that make my parents snoop but I don't do anything that bad but they wouldn't want me in there things so why should they be in mine.... and I think you should do a show on long distace relationships:) Love Always Alex:)

as i watched this episode i thought of my own mother. not only am i the baby but im also the only girl so naturally ma mother wants to protect me. and i understand that completely. but i think theres a certain line that parents should not cross. like that one lady where she would strip search her daughters and smell them and listen in on their conversations and take the fone to find numbers she didnt know. if i were her child when i got out the house i would probably be out of control. my mother monitors me and asks me where im going who im going to be with. i just have to make sure i call her and give her an update if my plans change. i understand that. sometimes it gets annoying but if it puts ma mother at ease then im all for it. so to answer your question yes i think parent should monitor there children but only to a certain extent and if their child gives them reason. if you feel you have to snoop then you must feel like you dont trust your child completely so if you do trust then then you have no reason to snoop. but thats just my opinion.

While I believe that snooping is understandable when a child displays that they are requiring action to be taken by the parents, in general circumstances I think it is not a wise decision. Growing up as a homosexual male in a christian home, I know that if I had overbearing parents my life would be very different. Being a homosexual is difficult enough, but being one in a family that regards it as a sin is even harder. In circumstances like these, I believe it is necessary for a child to be able to sneak around to a small degree because otherwise they would be the victim to their parents own personal beliefs being enforced on them.

I'm a teen myself and i dont like havin my mom snoop all over me or be thinking things that never happend, or u didnt do..really did happen. It's easier for ur mom to be easy on you and then, the teen will feel more comfratible going to there mom and telling them anything! without thinking.."is she gonna yell at me?, will i get grounded?" but i am not sayin the mom shouldn't care completly i am saying....she shouldnt snoop or think things are happening when there not..they should be concered with where there kids are going , who with..and trust that they are honest with you..

I am a mom of a 15 year old son & 12 year old daughter & I think it is completely wrong to snoop on your kids especially if you don't have reason. I believe it will backfire on you & make your kids rebel. It's really important to keep talking to your kids & respect each other, that's more likely to keep the trust between you. I know it's hard to let your kids grow up & go places without worrying about them but you have to raise them right & hope they make the right decisions on their own. They are going to make mistakes we all do you just have to hope they learn from them & be there for them to help them get through them.

I think there is an extent to being the police to your child. If you snoop like the women did on the show, your teen may turn out to be worse than you thik they are. It's okay to ask questions and have talks about things teens go through. It is not okay to go through there personal things unless you have a legit reason. For example if your child comes in smelling like weed all of the time. Then maybe that is when you go snooping for proof before you accuse them of doing so. I'm saying that because it is a strong possibilitie that the teen may not be doing what you accuse them of doing. I just think havning thorough talks with teens will prevent teens from being dishonest. Be upfront with the teen and they will be upfront with the parent.

My mother snooped on my computer for six months when I was 16 and it completely broke my trust with her. I haven't trusted her since. She read my chats, looked at the sites I went to. I lost friends because of it. Snooping is not right at all whatsoever. It makes things worse. I ran away, grew apart from the family, and overall, everything got messed up after that.

I believe that snooping on your teen is unnecessary if they have not done anything to break your trust. If you snoop on your teen it could push them into rebelling against you (the parent). When I got my first boyfriend, I missed my period for 2 months. My mom got scared that I was pregnant and asked me if I was. I told her the truth, that I was NOT having sex nor was I pregnant. Two days later, I got my period in the morning. While I was in the bathroom getting ready for school, my mom asked me to pee in a medicine bottle because the doctor (who I visited for a check up earlier that week) needed another urine sample. I told her I had just got my period and she said "OK". Later that day, I needed some tampons/pads so I went to her room to get some. While looking I found an unopened pregnancy test!! I was so mad that my mom did not trust me. From then on my mom and mine's relationship is broken.

snooping on your child sounds pretty bad, but i mean the only time that its accepted in my opinion is if your child gives you a reason to snoop and all the trust has been lost. The child obviously wont like the snooping but if they want it to stop then they should put an effort in building their trust back with their parents. Once the trust is gained back the snooping should Stop, and just checking in on your child once in awhile by ASKING them questions is the right way to go.

I think its ok if you snoop on your teen as long as you dont cross the line. Your child should beable to talk to you with an open heart and if you take the snooping thing out of control then how can your teen talk to you. protect your child with trust. My mom would go through my room and snoop about once a month, but never would she read my diary. My son is 13yrs old and he hasnt given me a reason to snoop but Im sure the day will come but until then I stay out off his room.

I don't think it's ok to snoop on your kids unless they act out or don't deserve their parents' trust. I'm 18, my dad trusts me enough not to snoop. When I was younger I was more rebellious, smoked pot, went to parties, etc, but you know what, I did it and grew out of it. My parents didn't know about it to punish me but I grew out of it on my own because I was maturing. Suffocating your kids are gonna make them rebel no doubt but almost all teens try drugs or alcohol, I hardly know anyone in my school who hasn't tried something. They're gonna experiment and the smart teens are gonna realize it's not that great and grow up. The kids who don't want to make much of their future will keep at it, then the parents should kick them in line!

i just wanna say that i think the snooping thing is completly wrong on so many levels.I know exactly how those girls were feeling.Parents need to realize that kids need to make there own mistakes and be able to experience life.Your teeenage years are suppose to be the best times of your life.Your suppose to be having fun and just finding out who you are as a person.The anger and pain and recenment that Bernadette is feeling towards her mom i get it because thats the anger that i feel towards mine for the things she has done to hurt me.

Snooping signifies a lack of communication. As parents it's your job to initiate a functioning relationship with your child that has open communication. Being a parent is more than being an authoritative figure and a disciplinary, unfortunately though - many people don't know how to be a parent and a friend at the same time. Any person [aside from teens] would not confide in a person whom they felt would judge them or wouldn't understand them. The same applies for teenagers. Your children would open up to you if they felt comfortable enough to do so. Teens lie to their parents primarily because they are scared of what their parent would think or react to what they are doing or what was really going on. That fear is unhealthy, and oftentimes that fear marks denial in a parent who isn't ready to accept their teens reality. Instead of snooping, a parent should 'pry' - to know who their child really is. Rather than violating your growing young adults privacy, illuminating all that is blocked and rancid, and making a child resent you - a parent should work harder to open those lines of communication. Snooping isn't the solution, it will only make your child hide more from you. Suggestions: -share stories from your past with your children, so they know that you're human and not just "momrobot" -re-assure them that you won't judge them and/or you understand, when you ask your child to open up to you -MEAN IT -open your mind and your heart to a teens reality, meaning ; realize they are developing human beings and not just kids, they go through more than you think -rather than just 'punishing' them for their mistakes, 'guide' them to making the right choices [ that by no means means that