This totally reminds me of my sister, she is the biggest snoop, and when you call her out on it she goes im just looking or im not doing anything, the other night i caught her looking through my phone and i was like what are you doing Amanda! she says nothing, playing a game, so i look at my text and its all the way down at the bottom, and she goes through my purse, my husbands stuff that i have for him at my place( he is in the army over sea's) but ugh it drives me crazy I have no idea where she gets it from but everyone i know always comes up to me and goes Jenna why does your sister think its ok to go through my stuff? haha idk what to do with her and where she got it from because i know my momma didnt raise her like that. Just thought i would put that out there, i mean i think we all have are "snooping" side but not as bad as other people!

I believe that being a parent does not equate with being paranoid and over territorial and neither taking away their rights to be mad (like the user below says) Instead of seeing your child as an animal to control is better to spend all that snooping around time into something constructive with a real basis. Honesty and trust is that basis , if you are mother that flips out when you find out that your teenage girl tells you shes flirting with a boy she likes , you are stoping her from telling you whats what happens after that flirting , and thats when the sneaking around and the lies start. dont blame the child for your close mindness , dont blame your teenager from hiding the truth , when you cannot take it yourself or do not want to hear it. If you are curious and concerned just ask , and put hypocrisy aside because you were young once too and like everyone else they need someone there that will not always criticize and be harsh.

It is of no matter if a child gets mad or not. A real and true parents' role is to look after their children. The modern day problems with children in this country is someone along the way told them they have rights. They do not ! A parent is truely the one responsible for their children. All decisions on what goes on in that childs life are the responsiblity of the parent. Through a period of time a child gains responsibility from like choices they make that fall in line with what a parents decisions would be. If a parent cannot rely upon the decision making of the child then once again all responsiblity falls back onto the parents. Therefore, it is what it is. A parent has all rights to do whatever necessary when doing their job raising their children. It doesn't matter, because all of the rights are not simply given to a child they are earned over a period of time through trials laid in front of them by their parents. It is the final decision of the parents regarding any trust issues, not the childs. Once again, this is the problem in this counrty today, somewhere along the line someone told the kids they could be dis-respectful and they don't have to mind etc... . Apparently this is still being fed to them via your show with a doctor sitting there telling a child that they have rights. This couldn't be further from the truth. They earn rights given to them. Until they are 18 and on their own they have none. At which point in time they become responsible for themselves and have that resposibility thrust upon them to finally grow up. That is why they call it tough love. Hopefully, if a parent

heey tyra im 15. snooping is wrong unless you snoop to keep somebody from getting hurt. parents shouldnt snoop either. me and my mom have a great relationship because were 100 percent honest with eachother. not only is she my mother, but shes my best friend and my role model. if she were ever to snoop on me id be so mad she couldnt just be honest and ask me. parents shouldnt snoop because a child who knows their parents have trust in them not to snoop is more likely to make better decision than a child who knows their parents dont trust them anyway.

you try as a parent to believe your child would be honest and up front with you but less be honest as parents children believe we are stupid and that we havent experienced different things in life for instance children from two parent house holds who are what i like to call house kids they dont go to far without their parents then they reach that age where they began to go out with friends to hang out and let peer pressure take control and they become obilivious to the values they were taught as little children which is what i personally try telling my oldest son who's now sitting in a prison while a DA try's to find evidence which proves he did this crime however it has been nine long months and they still dont have proof because he did not do it but this seems to me like another case of just being unfortunately poor no payed lawyer no bail money just enough money to continue to survive with my husband and three other kids so yes you should snoop to keep up with whats going on in your childs life besides you gave them life not the other way around thanks for listening.

I have a 2 girls 20 & 14. I would have never have thought to snoop on my oldest daughter and come to find out she was talking to an older man (24) when she was only 16. Only reason I caught her is we sound alike on the phone and when he called I pretended to be her (I had a gut feeling that something was going on for about 3 months). He was telling her he loved her and he would take her away from all of her troubles and worries. Needless to say I told him to never contact my daughter again and made a police report. So YES I do snoop on my 14 year old. Room, Myspace, Facebook. Whatever it takes to keep her safe!!!!

It depends on what the situation is. If it is a good reason or just a reason to find out more about the person. I personally think that if you want to know whats going on with a person you should ask. If they dont tell you the truth then thats when you should be able to find out whats going on. Other then that people are entitled to their own privacy.

Snoop? Hell yeah! The world we live in today is not one that rules with honor or stability. People sway easily. I am not here to judge but one foul move from someone I care about could destroy me on every level. I tend to trust my trigger... if it has been pulled then something is going on or about to go off! Once in a lifetime you meet someone that really loves you... mine went to heaven... every since I have encountered wolves in sheeps clothing and they all friggin need to be watched!

i think there are only certain conditions when snoopin is okay. like if this child did something bad. obiously, i know its hard to be able to trust someone after you were done wrong or they missbahaved. I guess its okay to snoop even when there well behaved but if so then it should be done twice or 3 times a year. Besided you should be able to talk to your kids about anything right? Well if there is trust then he/she should tell you everything & there shouldnt be a need to snoop! My mom doesnt do it & im not a "good girl" but im not bad either i dont do drugs & im still a virgin. :) I mean everyone has to learn there own mistakes too.

I snoop on my boyfriend... I used to snoop a lot and then I stopped, surprisingly bc I finally came clean once and my boyfriend said he did not even care... it made it less exciting! Now its bad but I really just snoop when I am mad at him... I think deep down I am looking for dirty laundry and for a reason to leave him. Thats pretty bad...

I think that trusting your children and building their self esteem is necessary BUT I think they need to know that they are accountable to someone. Your children should have to be accountable to someone other than their peers. They should have to prove that they should be trusted. I snooped and read a paper out of the trash of my daughter and it totally changed my life tooooo trustttt her. She was more trustworthy than I had imagined. They need to know that someone cares enough to check up on them. It starts a lot earlier than when they hit puberty. It starts when they come out of the womb. Start then, give your children time then, listen to them then and they will listen to you later when it is time to start letting go. Trust, Integrity, Honor, and Purity starts when they are 6 months old when they start taking control over diaper changing time. Love is not always making your children FEEL GOOD! BUT it starts way before they are 14! Life is not all about them. It is about what they do has an effect on others. Selfishness is the root of all deception. They don't think that what they do effects others. Our children are being dooped to think that life is all about them and no one else. That is a lie. It is the little tiny things that mommas allow before the sneeking out of the house that leads up to the sneeking out...not the sneeking out. Okay, I've vented. Momma should have been working on why that little girl of hers had a playboy bunny on her wall before she started snooping in the trash. She already has "ants out of a box" sydrome. She should have loved her daughter enough

hey Tyra, i watched your show today and i think a parent should not snoop on their kids. My mom trust me alot and because i was she trust me when ever im in a bad postistion i say my mom trust me so much and why would i ever want to loose any of that. My mom does worry about me alot like all moms she sits me down all the time to talk and tells me i can tell her anything. my mom belives that if you dont give your kids room to grow and be themself and you are always watching what they do who they are with and basicly give them no trust at all. that kid is going to grow up wanting to sneek out and not tell you anything. My aunt came last summer to vist us. my aunt has one daughter she is one year lder than i am. and she has no freedom. at all. if she wants so hangout with her friends her mom has to be there or she cant go. i asked my mom if me and her could walk down to the beach and hang out my mom said it would be fine. her mom said that she would love to go. i didnt want to be mean so i told my mom that we just wanted to go together my cousin didnt tell me her mom was very very over protective.so we decided to not go. later that night me and my cousin were in my brothers room he is 16 and we were watching him skateboard out side our house. we went back inside and we wanted to watch a movie so she picked out a scary movie and i didnt care. so while we were

Hurray for us, the snoopy sisters of all races! We are Moms. We do it cause we must. It's our job.~~~~

I hatee it when parents snoop. They should only do it if it's actually necessary. Like if you have some wild child or something. I dont really do anything bad but my mom is ALWAYS in my business, and wanting to kno EVERYTHING about my plans, and jus everything. I dont think she understands that I'm 16 and I deserve privacy. Last week I went out and my brother went on my computer and went thru ALLLL of my files. My pictures, msn chat logs, email, internet history, and who know what else. I felt so violated. I dont sext b/c I dont have a celly but I had nude pics of myself and a few of my guy friends, and he found them and told my mom. She took the computer out of my room. Now there's a big empty space in my room and i aint gonna replace that with anything cuz I deserve to get my comp back. I think she went too far cuz that's basically the 'worst' thing I've done; take nude pics. I dont think I deserved that at all, and it all happened because of snooping :@

Hi Tyra. My daughters and I love your show. Anyway, this comment is about snooping on your (my) teenagers. My opinion is that all parents should be able to snoop if they think it's necessary. The main reason I feel this way is because I remember too well what I did as a kid and I've seen what my own girls have done and gone through as they've grown. Sometimes they start down the wrong path. By being a snoop, a parent can cut off the small bad behaviors before they become something bigger and harder to deal with. My daughters know I will snoop through their things if I feel the need to. They also know that I'm very good at finding anything they might try to hide. Knowing this, they are less likely to do something wrong because they are afraid of what will happen if I find out. That being said, I don't have to snoop very often to keep them in line and I can give them their privacy most of the time because I can trust that they're behaving responsibly. Although some might think this is wrong, I think my record with my girls proves that I've taken the right course with them. Of course every child is different, but for my kids, this is a system that works. However, it is also important for parents to talk to their kids before they go to the trouble of snooping. Parents should tell their kids, "Yes, I will go through your things if I think I need to. Sometimes you'll know I'm doing it. Sometimes you won't, but I will snoop and I will know what you're doing as far as keeping you safe and on the right path is concerned." I've done that with my