I know from personal experience that anyone entering a relationship and still wants to maintain a "friendship" with their ex is still holding on to their ex, hence the reason for the friendship, and the new person should beware! This is for both males and females.

Its hard to trust your boyfriend when he says he wants to be friend with his ex because I mean you trust him with your heart that he will still be faithful to you but you still feel that little pinch in the back of your head whenever he mentions her and causes you to double think and evaluate the relationship you have with this guy and if it comes to a break up because of his ex you have to think "is the time we spent together worth the pain in the end?"

I think it all depends on the type of friendship, if I were showing some jealosy over it, and he said something like, "were going to be friends, and that is it !!" -- well then my gut is right, there is something going on. If it were an ex, and time has passed, enough to know there are no issues left between them, and she also became a part of MY life, I could deal with it. It takes time, but never doubt your gut feelings, cause they ARE right... ~~ Carol

I am older and married-I have had friends and someone usually wants someone more then the other or they want eachother. Some people cannot go back to being friends. It is good to feel wanted but I think she did not want to let go of Michael. She had that smurk and I think she is a problem. As women, we get upset at the woman for being with "our man"-TRUE-get your own. On the other side-break up with him or know it will continue to happen!!! Emotional or not-a relationship is a relationship. Two people like God intended!!

i once read that if a couple stayed friends after the break-up, they are still in love with each other. so staying friends will be a very pathetic act. especially if both of you want to move on. Tsk. Love will always be there, it wont go anywhere. Someday, it might grow back.

About the whole ex thing, I really don't think I could deal with it to the extent of these two on your show. Personally I think the ex-boyfriend is very confused, he looked a little iffy and not sure of himself. As far as the ex-girlfriend. She totally wants him, even at the end of the show she looked over at him and then back at her man. With a smile, come on! If you ask me they just need to be honest with their partners and end it and take the chance in going into a relationship with one another. They say they don't want to put their friendship at stake, but my question is what friendship? Friends with benefits maybe. As funny as it sounds they should just switch partners, of course that would depend on the attraction factor between the other two.

As far as i concerned what ever you can handle, handle and what ever your rules are make the other person in the relationship abide by them. A relationship is hard work but love makes it all worth the while, so again take what you can take and if that person is not giving you the energy you need well then energize somewhere else. And and EX is just that a past relationship so all don't have to end sour some do end with hey a beautiful understanding so friends is possible. Again if you love you then it really doesn't matter if he loves his ex's or not. Because if you don't love you how in they hell do you expect someone else to love you. Read this in its entirety and understand this is from a COMPTON O/G'S PERSPECTIVE RESPECT MY OPINION AS I WILL RESPECT YOURS. MUCH LOVE MS TYRA YOU NEED TO HIT ME UP FOR SOME REAL TOPIC INFO AND ANSWERS.

I am a guy, I date women. When I date these women, I have homeboys that I may confide in about things, strategise, build whatever, that's my warchest. The only difference with this is that Mikes war chest/confidante is a women, and Sidnei's confident is a man. They are friends and its nothing wrong with friends, they're not intimate, this is not emotional cheating, for there is no such thing, they are friends, period. Don't let Tyra or anybody else tell you its wrong, also I have strictly homegirls that I hug and kiss, like I do my sisters.

Michael and Sidnei are not through. They are lying to themselves. They want each other but, both of them are just scared to let one another know how they truly feel. It's time to stop pretending just being friends. Face it, those two no matter who they are with will always have a more deeper connection. It's meant to be. Truth

I don't think it is a good idea for any man or woman that is in a different relationship to remain friends with an ex there is a reason for them being ex's. I know how some women are they are not threw with the man, so they come around so that they can get something started, and sometimes they don't even want the person back it's just to say see if i want him i can get him some think that way, But what i come to find out is that some men are very deceiving. And i am a woman but we can be snakes and i mean dirty snakes. I don't do anything to any one that i don't want done to me.

I watched the Tyra Show this morning and the subject of "staying friends with an ex" brought up a lot of memories for me. I just had to make a comment about what Michael had said in the beginning of this show. He had said that even though he is attracted to/dates white women, he feels that he will ultimately have to marry a black woman. Very sad and superficial, if you ask me. But, it's also very typical of a culture that I don't think Samantha has had much experience with. Michael is the kind of man who will marry a black woman to have children with but still cheat on her with a white woman. Sydnei is, unfortunately, in for a rude awakening someday. Sure she's enjoying all the attention Michael is giving her now and, from the look on her face, she's probably got a few other guys who feel the same way. She's a virgin and I commend that, but she has to realize that much of Michael's obsession over her is tied to his wanting to "conquer" that obstacle. A lot of men are like that...they will act a complete fool until they get the sex and then they're ready to move on. Sydnei needs to grow up and stop playing with other people's emotions. Either you want to be with him, or you don't...don't continue to play games to stroke your own ego. Because, honey, you're only going to be young and pretty for so long. And, if you end up marrying a man like Michael, I guarantee that you will be the one sitting at home taking care of babies, while your man is out in the street messing around. As for Tyrell, he needs to cut Sydnei loose and move on with

To even consider dumping your partner just because they have ex's as friends is ridiculous. Obviously if they are hiding things and lying to you, there is a more serious problem. But if it really is just a friendship (one they are honest to you about), then you need to have trust in your partner. If you don't give them that trust, they are even more likely to go and do something you will both regret. If they don't feel safe and appreciated with you, they will seek it elsewhere.

Well I think that Samantha needs to do what her friend said and move on and find somebody that will treat her better.But if she thinks Mike is gone stop talking to his ex(which is he's best friend) for her he is lying becuz if he lied to her this long about hes ex and also telling his ex that Samantha is crazy and just wants to be with him, what make you think he is gone stop lying to her

I just watched the story about ex remaining friends. I understand once boundaries are crossed it is hard to respect the friendship. But society has this misconception that ex's cannot remain friends because lines have been crossed and thats where the problem comes in. Everyone focus on what happened betweened the two rather than focus on what has become of the two which is lifelong friends. Once you have a friendship with someone it is hard to just leave it as that. I understand the two with the friendship. Yes they have crossed the line with kissing but it was more out of the fact that they hid the relationship from their partners and felt neither would understand. Yes something was missing but once they understood where they stood with each other they realized they would be better off friends. But since everyone is aware and can accept the fact that they are friends it will be easier to do just that remain friends. Having them leave the friendship is only going to hinder each of their relationship because no one wanted to be mature enough to respect their friendship. Like Sydnei boyfriend he just wanted her to tone it down and that would have been the best thing. Because telling them to cut it off is like losing a part of you that you have been in tuned with for a long time. She is looking at what made her survive over the years and losing that she does not know how she will survive. So her refusing to let the friendship go does not mean she was in denial it only meant that she was looking at losing a friend just as if loosing herself.

Tyra tell that girl not to movbe in with her boyfriend he will surley go back with his ex no doubt.happen to my sister .