My ex-husband and I stayed friends because of our two boys but he is now my best friend and we both have an understanding that nothing will ever come of the friendship but it is hard sometimes. I would respect if anyone I got with stayed friends as long as nothing else becomes of it.

Remaining friends with an ex. can be a little tricky. On one hand, you're familiar with the person BUT there might be residual feelings-whether mutual or lopsided. The biggest objection to being close friends with ex's is that it can and does hinder growth and creates conflict within your current relationship. Don't cheat yourselves!

Iteresting show today!! I think the answer to the question is, It all depends on how you define the word friend. If there are any emotions or feelings involved, than it's not considered a friendship. Friends with an ex is ok, as long as it is "JUST FRIENDS". Which means, they just talk or see each other once in a while-by chance... send x-mas card... But if they keep in touch daily or even weekly, then surely some feelings are still involved!, And that's a problem!!!

I do not think it is right for a boyfriend or girlfriend to be friends with their ex.in any way or form they are an ex for a reason and should leave it that way.

SAM WAS GOING IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION WHEN SHE SAID HE HAD HIS CHANCE WITH HIS FRIEND, AND HE PUT HIMSELF INTO THAT SITUATION. HOWEVER SHE SHOULD HAVE ENDED IT IF SHE THOUGHT THAT SHE COULD JUST CHANGE THE STATUS OF THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN HIM AND HIS EX. BEFORE SHE GAVE HIM THAT ULTIMATUM HE WAS EXPRESSING HOW CLOSE HIM AND SYDNEY WAS. SO WHY WOULD SHE EXPECT FOR HIM TO GIVE THAT UP, SO EASILY, OVER A GIRL (SAM) THAT HE WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP FOR A SHORT TIME. BOTH OF YOU DON'T KNOW WHERE THE RELATIONSHIP IS HEADED, AND LOOK AT HOW IT STARTED. MOVING IN IS OUT OF THE QUESTIONS AT THIS POINT. AND ALL OF YOU SHOULD REALLY TAKE A STEP BACK AND EXAMINE THE SITUATION. THE TYPE OF FRIENDSHIP THEY HAD CAN'T JUST BE STOPPED COLD TURKEY, ITS GOING TO TAKE SOME TIME. REGRET AND BLAME WOULD BE PUT ON SAM IF HE TOTALLY LOST CONTACT WITH HIS FRIEND OF 5 YEARS AND WOUKD PROBABLY BE BROUGHT UP IN THE FUTURE IF SOMETHING WERE TO HAVE HAPPENED. SO INSTEAD OF TRYNA TO STOP A RELATIONSHIP TO ESTABLISH YOUR OWN, CHECK THE "MATERIALS" YOU'VE GATHERED FOR YOUR OWN. DO YOU THINK THE FOUNDATION IS STRONG ENOUGH?

heck no!!! i had a "friendship" and emotional ties are stronger than anythingelse... i don't beleve in thoseclose friendships anymore ... myhusbands my bff

I just got done watching the friends with your exe episode and I am OUTRAGED..... I happen to be a white woman in a serious relationship with a BLACK man and I am so sick and tired of this stereotype. It is because of the comments that were made on that show that our relationship has to deal with the scrutiny and ignorance of this world. I am a strong, intelligent, independent WHITE woman and my black man loves me and I am so tired of white women catching slack for it. It is not okay to say the things tyra and the audience were saying. I will no longer be a fan of Tyra or this show.

I believe there is no such things as "friends". every girl and guy have hinden agendas. they are all looking for sumthing out of their "friendships". every girl and guy usually has some type of feeling for their "friend". to me "friends" is a easy term for a secret relationship. it is all a bunch of bullshit if i may say so myself. and if a girl or a guy is in a relationship were their partner has a "friend" they need to be worried. they need to get rid of that friend right away!!

It depends on what your bf or his ex call friendship. I would be ok with it if they spoke as associates, hi and bye basis. But if they were constantly hanging out, or talking on the phone a lot. Then i would suspect something!

WELL I THINK IF U STILL HAVE TO BE FRIENDS WITH UR EX U CANT LET THEM GO.AND U STILL NEED THEM IN UR LIFE LIKE THEY WERE BEFORE. FOR EXAMPLE, ME AND MY BOYFRIEND WERE MAKING OUT AND HIS EX/BESTFRIEND TEXT HIM HE WOULD STOP KISSING ME AND GO REPLY TO THE TEXT MESSAGE. THIS HAPPENED LIKE 9 TIMES. THAT MADE ME SUSPICIOUS. SHOULD I BE?

Concerning the show about exes, Sidnei is getting the best of Mike. They are not just "friends." She is getting continual emotional support, which is not easy to come by; and Sam is only getting temporary physical pleasure which is far less. Still, Sidnei needs to learn RESPECT. First, respect for herself -- why is she choosing to be best friends with a man who is "using" another woman? Now that she heard Mike say that he wants a relationship with Samantha, she needs to respect that. Women need to respect themselves and each other by rebuking men who cheat on sisters. Sidnei's other boyfriend should be nervous if she and Mike continue to talk. She seems to want her soul connection with Mike to last forever. Where does that leave him?

I think that it's okay for your boyfriend to be friends with an ex. As long as you've met him/her and are friends with them. AND AS LONG AS YOU HAVE 100% TRUST FOR YOU SIGNIFICANT OTHER. If there was a reason in the past that you think your bf/gf would cheat on you with his/her ex, then draw a line. Use your judgement in any case. Just don't jump to conclusions.

I don't think its so much of a problem to be friends with an ex. My boyfriend is still friends with one of his ex's and one he got rid of because she was tryna move back in on him after he started dating me. I'm friends with an ex-boyfriend and my ex-husband. I'm truly not interested in the ex-boyfriend and my ex-husband because we have a child together and we were best friends b4 we ever were together. If you know how to detach yourself from the past, you can still be friends with an ex.

It's a fine line & depends on the people & circumstances involved. Watching the show, it appears to me that Mike & Syd want each other more than they want their current relationships. He didn't even really look at Samantha thru the show, hold her hand , or show any type of body language that showed he had deep feelings for her. Syd, smirking, seemed to enjoy the attention of being "the other woman". I would not trust either of them to stop their "friendship", if anything, I think they'll just become more sneaky about it. Personally, I have a couple exes that I'm still friends with~including my ex-husband. The difference is, they are not people I talk to 5x a day (like Mike & Syd), & there is no romantic involvement whatsoever. However, these are people I had deep feelings for & just becuz we're no longer together, doesn't mean I don't still care about them. We share email jokes, news about people we have in common, etc. I can still get advice about the house, insurance, taxes, etc. or leave my dog w/my ex-husband if I go out of town. We are still in touch with each others families. We were in a relationship for 15 years b4 we called it quits, so there's a lot of history, common friends, etc. We never asked our friends or family to choose sides. I've been in a relationship for the past 3 years, my bf & ex-husband are cordial. I think once you get to your 30's you have to expect there are exes & I see it as more of a sign of maturity that someone can at least remain cordial with an ex, rather than blast them every chance they get. One guy who asked me out was

I don't mind if my boyfriend is friend with his ex. I mean come on... she's the ex with a reason:). I guess I think that way 'cause I didn't have bad experiences with that. And I have two ex-bf for friends too. So, yeah...I definetly don't mind if he has.