You loved your ex and you were with them for awhile. And it's natural to want to keep tabs on them or turn to them for advice and support. But what about when you're in a new relationship? Is it okay to still have your ex in your life -- or is there no room once you're with someone new? Check out what these New Yorkers had to say.
Okay,I'm sixteen years old and my boyfriend just broke up with me after a month of a relationship by text message. Three days later he's dating another girl. I'm not going to lie I did cry when i saw them togther on myspace. Now; I don't kno but I think she might've broke up with him and now he's contacting me. My friends obviously don't want me to get hurt so I don't really act like i like him when i'm around him but i really do. Question is I've notice many people be friends with their exes why can't I? Should I call him and turn this association to a friendship/relationship(mabe)??
Hi Tyra, I know that my comment on June 8th, was off the record,but I just had to let u know how my friend always laugh when-ever she sees me and then OUT pops your name. The thing with that is we just keep it REAL girl. But to the subject I think that those guys should let her go because she is playing a game. At one point and time I would have said U go girl! But feelings are important. Men play women so casual but we don't have to be like them. Not only that the word VIRGIN was a huge turn-on for him also. They both need to let the friendship go. Thanks Tyra for keeping it so REAL! Beatrice Young
Honestly, I don't think I could stay friends with an ex especially if it was a long term relationship because there's always going to be that feeling of wanting to be with them especially emotionally. Always being attached to them. It could also become a problem when you want to be in a relationship with another person. If the ex (or yourself) hasn't moved on themselves then there's gonna be jealousy in there somewhere from you or the ex because they're gonna feel like that the new boyfriend/girlfriend is taking your/their place in life and nobody wants to be put in that position.
I am in this same situation now, but it is reversed. I have been talking to my ex (only by email & phone) for about 6 years now. We pretty much grew up together, so my ex is someone I don't want to lose as a friend. We only broke up due to location and situations, never by doing anything wrong to each other. My husband now says it is ok if I chat with my ex online. He says he trusts me not to do anything, but doesn't trust my ex to keep his hands to himself. Due to our crazy life right now, The only people I talk to at all on any given day is my husband and my ex. I do not see anyone else. I use my ex for what my husband won't do. I am a female, I need someone I can talk to, so I use my ex for this. It may not seem right to most people, but when you need something, you get it where you can. The only reason some people still chat with thier ex is because thier new relationship is lacking something. My ex is good to me by keeping his distance. If this was reversed and my husband wanted to talk to his ex, I would be curious of what she would try to make him do because she is one that sleeps around and takes drugs, etc. If he had an ex that was nice and lawbiting, then I would not mind if he kept in contact.
I dont think that it is a good idea to have a friend that is an ex, esspecially if you are in a relationhip. You had to have something with your ex for them to be an ex and I feel that if you value the new relationship and want to give it a true shot, then you need to sacrifice the old for the new which shouldnt be a problem if the ex is really an ... Read Moreex. I have had ex boyfriends that we ended up getting back together only because I was still friends with them and it ended the same way that it ended the first time. An ex is an ex for a reason, so to stay friends with them would be living in the past, keep the past the past. I love my husband and I wouldnt want him feeling at all insecure because I dont want to get rid of the past. You dont have to hate your exes but make them the past that they are and work towards the future, your current relationship. My husband is my best friend, I dont need anyone else of the opposite sex.
i personally am friends with my ex-boyfriend and my current boyfriend knows about it and it doesn't bother him because he knows i am faithful 2 him and only him and 1 of my beliefs is "forward ever backward never" so it all depends on you and your intentions and how much trust there is in your relationship
i would say no for myself would not any distractions with my new relationship and i would not want her to have a relationship with her ex either unless they a kid together then i would deal.
personally, I can't be friends with any ex and I don't want to be with anymore who even communicates in any kind of way with their exes, not even a simply hello. Exes should remain in the past, the day you break up is the day all communication ends.
Personally, i think it can go either way. it depends on the guy,the ex, and a combination of the two. If the guy has a history of cheating...yeah, that could cause a problem. Or, say, the ex is one of those girls that tind to be clingy or fling themselves at guys, also a problem.It also depends on how strong the "friendship" is. Step back and try to see how much of your stress is just you being jealous. Think possitively and remember...He is going out with YOU not the ex. enjoy it, protect it, and make it last. Girl power!!!
I personally can't be friend with my ex's but if you are okay with it why not, it depends on you.
being friends wit ur ex is cul as long as both of u r ok wit it.however, if d other doesnt want it u shdnt push it. once u r friends u shd let ur ex knw their limits so they dont spoil d new party for u
No because if you were really into that last relationship, then the feelings would still be there they never really go away. Even if you are really over the other doesnt mean that the other one is over you. Its a dangerous game when you still want to be friends it will only hurt your future relationships.
I do feel like exes can be friends to an extent. When it gets to the point to not wanting to let go at all then you have a serious problem on your hands. I still get along with most of my exes and speak to them on occasion but its no more than once a month is that much. My boyfriend is also still friends with his exes but there is no intimate relationship there either. It all boils down to trust and knowing how to deal with closure of your feelings.
Nah, I say move on and let the other people move on. Let the past be the past.
ABSOLUTLY NOT! I can say from experience that i started a realatinship with a man that was still great friends with his X. I went through all the questions and got myself delusional to think they were just friends nothing more, as he would put it "she is like my sister, it would be gross to sleep with her again". Well we got married and had a beautiful baby boy, turns out one night he exclaims to me how he would love to sleep with this girl again, another night he calls her after we fight telling her how he loves her. Next he is sent away and i find e-mails to her from him saying how he wishes he can turn back time and how he will always love her. Her family is so important to him and so is she that he openly makes time for them where he wont make time for my family. He was even willing to pay for her and her mother to take a trip to germany and live with us while they were there. I have been increasingly uneasy about this relationship and i have had to deal with him taking my completly devotion to him as a form of me cheating on him. I believe that he is in love with this girl and he wont admit it to me becuase of our son. I am in the process of leaving him because of it. So if any of you know whats good for you DO NOT let an X be a friend, there is a reason why they broke up and if they are still friends obviously there wasnt a reason enough for them to stop seeing each other, And it will happen behind your back whether or not you
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