You loved your ex and you were with them for awhile. And it's natural to want to keep tabs on them or turn to them for advice and support. But what about when you're in a new relationship? Is it okay to still have your ex in your life -- or is there no room once you're with someone new? Check out what these New Yorkers had to say.
i believe you can stay friends with an ex and still be in another relationship as long as your current boyfriend or girlfriend knows about it. it could be very stressfull because i am actually going through the same issue with my current boyfriend and i dont think there is anything wrong with talking to an ex as long as you dont talk to him everyday and limit the conversation, to just a simple hello to see how he or she is doing and thats about it but i can understand his point because my ex still has feelings for me and he feels he might try to win him back. But i also believe we were friends before we started going out so why should we ignore and act like we dont know each other when we break up. its very stressful because you dont want to throw away a good frienship but at the same time it can hurt or ruin your current relationship, and another way to make it work is to talk to him or her on the phone while your current boyfriend or girlfriend is present so at least he would be sure theres nothing still going on.
I don't think you should stay friends with an EX, because i think its just wrong because what if they go out with one of your friends! that's just not right. Also what if they go on telling people things about you! well, to me being friend's with an EX is wrong.
Honesty i dont think u should stay friends with ur EX becuz i believe if both exs had storng feelings for each other by been friends onday they both could do something that might jeprodize each ohers new relationship.
Me personaly im going through the situation right now so I feel I should speak on it..me and my X had a bad break-up and to make matters worst at the time I was pregnant..so to make a long story short time went by,some almost 2 years..my daughter was born he didn't see her for a whole year,so finally he made contact and we talked about everything that went on between us and realized that it was a bunch of "jealous" people in our relationship.so we kept all communication open and my boyfriend didn't know how to take to it...but I tried to break it down to him that me and my X weren't just boyfriend and girlfriend like he was my BEST friend...and he now himself has a girlfriend it wasn't like we was on some stuff like trying to get back together,we are BESTFRIENDS! And I fell like he should have faith in me and our relationship to not assume that we are trying to re-light a burnt match!
ABSOLUTELY...depending on maturity of both parties.
There's a reason why they call it you EX people! There's no point in being friends with an Ex. seriously, i mean its like taking a trip into memory lane. You may no longer have feelings for them but they might. And if neither of you do then later in the friendship someone will fall back into love and you'll start all over again. If you really want to end a relationship with someone and move on then do so. Its kinda hard tryna move on but the person you were with is still right there with you.
I think that people can retain a friendship with their ex's only if there are boundaries established. When you are in another relationship, your ex should be aware and made comfortable with seeing you with another. But what shouldn't be done is when things go sour in the relationship, or there are altercations, is that you discuss such issues with an ex.
Honestly being friends with an ex you loved never works. There is always jealousy issues with each other and insecurities with the new person in your life. I know when I date someone and he still is friends with an ex he loved it typically ends with us. I do not want to be dumbed for someone they had feelings for and more then just feelings they loved. I know my ex and I can not be friends cause it is not healthy for us and we both still care for each other. We will always love each other, we just are not in love. So simply put no ex's that once loved each other can not be loved.
Let's be honest, the only reason people ever remain "friends" with their ex's is for insurance purposes. They want something to fall back on or they want to know there is somebody out there that they can still strongly influence. The fact is there is a reason people don't stay together. If the relationship your in is special and strong why would you even want to jeopardize it with old baggage? Unless your not so sure and want a fall back guy or girl. However, most people that keep their baggage around, don't like to admit that they have any, they swear because their just great friends. However, chances are events that occurred within their past failed relationship aren't events consistent with great friendships.
Honestly I don't think you can stay friends with an ex because I believe that no matter what there's going to be feelings. Maybe both may not feel something for one another but one may still have feelings.
i know you can im still friends with all my exes and my new man never has any hard feelings because i explain to him from the beginning that im still cool with all my exes and if thats a problem then he might have to go but it shouldn't end up like that like that if you explain it to him the beginning.i always go to my exes when im having relationship problems with the one im with at that moment their really good to have and yes i do think its great to have your ex in the picture when your with somebody else.
I think that in my case u shouldn't be friends with ur x.in the situation I'm in there's no way that I can be comftable or focus in my own life because there is a big issue between my ex and my new partner. I'm a girl and I dated my ex boyfriend for 2 years until I met my girl friend ... Yes my girlfriend. He was really upset at the fact that I letf him for a girl. In skool i was the big deal because everyone blessed me with comments all the time with the fact that I had a great relashionship with my ex and then once I met this chick everyone changed on me and I felt everyone going against me towards the fact that I was dating a girl and I left my "wonderful" boyfriend. No one really understood and I wasn't planning on explaining my life to any one. After a while things got really bad btwn me and my x but we were still having relashionships while I was with her. He always trapped me into what used to be and I kind of considered it cheating. My feelings were still there for both , I was really confused about who I really wanted to b with.and there was a lot of drama.I was going crazy in my own head and there was no one there 4 me. When your in situations like this your on your own and there's no one that can help. Your ex will always own your heart after a relationship but never your mind so its your choice at the end of the day and u do what makes you happy and if u think talking to your ex is fine according to your situation then ok
In my own opinion i dont think that there is anything wrong with being friends with an ex.I do disagree with the first comment though because you shouldnt just be friends with someone just because you got children with them.You should be friends with them because you want to.The reason that i think that there should be no reason why your friends with an ex is because im sure that before your in a relationship with someone your friends with them and why not countinue the friendship weather your in a relationship or not.I personally feel that its kinda dumb and childish not to at least be friends or keep in touch with one another after the relationship.
I don't think that you should remain friends with your ex's unless you have kids together, then it is essential to get along with them for the kids' sake.
I do not think that there is anything wrong with staying friends with your ex, as long as you both know that it is strictly a friendship. Me personally I have two ex boyfriends that I am still really close with, and one of them is the one who took my virginity. Most people think that it's impossible to stay friends with your ex because there are always going to be feelings there. I feel that if we did not have a bad break up then why cant we be friends, I mean obviously we broke up so something wasnt clicking. maybe that person was actually meant to be your friend and not your boyfriend (or girlfriend). HOWEVER, there are those exes that you just need to let go of. i.e my last boyfriend. it wasnt a bad break up, it was more of a distance problem and we both loved each other alot. We try to still talk, but even when we speak on the phone there is still a really strong emotional feeling between us and i think that if we were to see each other, that would only be detrimental to my current relationship, so in this case I cant remain friends with him. and this is the case in most situations and people need to be able to admit that they cant be friends with and ex that they still have strong feelings for.
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