Wed. Jun 24, 2009 | 5:39 AM

If you saw today's show, you know that the guests faced some tough choices. So we want to know what YOU would do if you were in their shoes.

runningaway2.jpgYou tell us: What would you do if a family member was refusing to attend your wedding? Or, if you had a gay family member getting married -- and you weren't comfortable with his or her relationship -- would you go the wedding? We want to know!

And, if your family is refusing to attend your gay wedding, tell the Tyra Show about it.


NEXT: Don't Ruin My Gay Wedding
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This is not the Christain thing to do and if i were the mother i wouldnt go either.
Posted by Anonymous 06/24/09 9:46 AM
 
I think what Tyra did was the right thing. No matter who your child is or who they love you should be able to support and love them unconditionally. The mother obviously had a hard time supporting it but she did, no matter what that is her daughter, gay, straight, bisexual, whatever. And ultimately I am proud that she went. I am not Christian nor very religious, but if there were a god, why would he hate people for something they didn't choose to be. I am a gay teen, and I know that I didn't choose to be this way, but I accept myself and love myself no matter what. Plus, wasn't the Bible written by human? And don't humans have their own opinions and ideas? I don't think the bible would actually express the ideas and teachings of god since it was written by man. I don't think God would be an intolerant person. We need to just accept other people and other lifestyles, whether or not we agree with them. We have no right or say over it, and honestly people. Why would you hate me and thousands of other people of something that we could not control over it at all? We are still human, and every human deserves equal rights, and one of those rights is marriage. By not letting us marry its obstruction of our HUMAN RIGHTS, and we all need rights. I am so glad the mother decided to go, because it shows she cares, and honestly I think that as long as they're happy they're good, and the fact that they're "sinning", which we all do, shouldn't be important to them. Just some advice from a little teen. (:
Posted by Ash 06/24/09 9:27 AM
 
To everyone, Gay/Straight/Bi/Transgender...whatever. People everywhere should be loved not only by their partner/husband/wife, but their family. Family is the most important thing in the world to me, and I know that at the end of the day they love me and will support in what makes me happy. It may not be the right thing in their eyes, but they know that I am happy. I am a lesbian and I am proud to say that I have been dating my girlfriend for a yr and half. It may not seem like a long time but I know I love her and want to be with her for the rest of my life. My family doesn't always see eye to eye with me but they are more concerned with if I am happy or not. It is not easy living in a world trying to be someone you're not. Trying to pretend to live one way just because society tells you to. What if the tables were turned? What if it were the custom to have same sex couples over opp. sex couples. What if opp. sex couples were being persocuted? I try and look at things from all perspectives. And yes I do understand that most people will think that it's a "sin", but we all have to understand that God made us who we are, he had a plan for us all along. What if it was his plan for me to love this girl I am with now? I believe with all my heart that she is the one God had in mind for me. I am not going to sit here and say that I am perfect and make no mistakes. I don't think people should pass judgment on others. Yes, God is the ultimate judge.
Posted by Crystal 06/24/09 9:26 AM
 
I saw this and did not like the way that Tyra and Juliana, and the other daughter were pushing the mother very hard to go. It seems that the idea of "can't you just give up your beliefs to be with me, just one day," that those asking for it have n strong beliefs. If the mother goes, then she is lending support to this act, which she sincerely believes is wrong. I believe the mother believes that this is a sin, which has implications for her daughter's soul, something like her daughter choosing to run out in front of a bus. If her daughter ran out in front of a bus, and she supported it, that would not be accepted. Morally, I think it is the same picture. The daughter puts her soul in danger, and the mother wants her desperately not to do it. The way the mother was being treated, with all kinds of pressure tactics, etc., only shows that Tyra and her guests are biased against people that have religious and moral beliefs. They would seem to say that the mother should just give up her beliefs (in two minutes) and condone the relationship. If the people on the show want to be truly "tolerant" of others, then they should allow the mother and the stepfather to have and act upon their beliefs. No one on the show seems to argue the other side, only condemn it.
Posted by anon 06/24/09 9:12 AM
 
Tyra, I use to watch your show all the time but I am not now. You act as though the mother is wrong. The mother is accurate in every statement she has made. God does not endorse sinning. We all do it but the difference is that if this couple gets married they choose to continue living in it. You Tyra are just like all the other shows, you have turned your show in to what ever the world is striving for just for your ratings. It is the devil working his magic and you my friend are allowing him to win! Gay marriage is wrong and the mother should not show up for the wedding. If she shows up she will be disappointing God who is the ultimate judge. He matters most! Obviously not in your life!
Posted by Sharon 06/24/09 8:53 AM
 
Amy, to him who knows to do good and does it not it is sin. All sin is the same to God, for if you offend in one area you have offened in all. You cannot shot a bebee through a glass window without breaking it. There will still be a hole even if it is small, it is still there.
Posted by Shonna 06/24/09 8:53 AM
 
I agree with Laura...in order for a parent to forgive a sin....it means its something they did..and are not doing ANYMORE...you can't ask her to forgive this sin that is ONGOING...plus you can't compare the sin of being gay to other sins such as pride or unjust anger...they are just not on the same level...Also, a parent's job is help their children be on the right path...they cant support their children in somehting that they know is not right or, not good for them, just for the sake of supporting them!
Posted by Amy 06/24/09 8:49 AM
 
I don't understand why these people cant be accepted. god made these people, god doesn't make mistakes, therefore they are not mistakes. and as for marriage? marriage is a human right not a heterosexual privilege.
Posted by Emilie 06/24/09 8:36 AM
 
Tyra, you said that the mom was singling her out for this one sin of being gay and you asked why was it just this one sin when there are so many in the Bible. The answer to this is Jesus did not find sinners and tell them to continue in what they were doing. He told them to stop and turn from their sin and live right. The mother of this gay daughter should not be judged because she values God's opinion more than the worlds. That is what is wrong with our country today and why the enemy is gaining so much control over the world. If the daughter wants to be gay then the mother can't stop her or shouldn't stop loving her but she doesn't have to participate in the sin. You mentioned that a mother would still go visit her child in prision after he or she commited a crime; in this case the mother is there AFTER the child has made their mistake. The mother is not there supporting her child when he or she is commiting an act such as murder.
Posted by Shonna 06/24/09 8:35 AM
 
Your parents should love and support you no matter what. I don't understand how a mother couldn't be there on the most important day of her daughters life because she doesn't agree with it. Kids do a million things in their lives that parents don't agree with but you still need to be there for them! I think it's just horrible :/
Posted by Mandy 06/24/09 8:22 AM
 
I HATE GAY PEOPLE. TYRA NEEDS TO GET A LIFE TOO, ALWAYS ACTING LIKE SHE KNOWS EVERYTHING, OR SOME FAKE AZZ THEROPIST. SHE NEEDS A MAN, AND NEED TO STOP MAKING HER SHOW ALL ABOUT WOMAN AND GAYS. GET A LIFE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by MIKE 06/24/09 8:02 AM
 
How horrible would it be if your mother loved you only with the conditions she could accept? That is not love. If a family member or a friend decided not to attend my wedding that would tell me they did not love me, and our relationship would most likely end there.
Posted by effy 06/24/09 7:54 AM
 
What really gets me is this women says shes a christian..she is so high on the fact that it's wrong in god's eyes..and that gay marriage is a sin. Well doesn't it also say in the bible SIN IS SIN. in god's eyes lying is just as bad as murder. just like it would be gay marrige. And ALSO in the bible it says not to judge. So by what she is doing she is going against tne bible. I do not believe in gay marrige but it's not my life.. I do not judge
Posted by buffy 06/24/09 7:31 AM
 
I just wanted to comment on the question Tyra asked about why is the sin of being gay causing the rift despite all the other sins her daughter committed. Well it's simple: she can forgive those actions and they do not continue. She could forgive her daughter for being gay, but she's still going to be gay! Why should she be supportive of that sin? I am on the mother's side.
Posted by Laura 06/24/09 7:22 AM
 
FAMILY, FRIEND, OR ASSOCIATE. IF YOU ASK ME TO GO TO YOUR WEDDING. I'M THERE. NOW I STILL DON'T SEE IT AS BEING RIGHT IN GOD'S EYES. BUT I'M NOT EITHER. AND IF I'M NOT MISTAKING THE ONLY SIN THAT IS UNFORGIVING IS "BLASPHEMY AGAINST THE HOLY GHOST." BUT I'M NOT A MINISTER. JUST SO YOU KNOW THE ONLY REASON I SEE RELIGIOUS PEOPLE BEING SO FOCOUSED ON GAY MARRIAGE AS IF IT'S O BAD IS THIS. (two words) SODOM & GOMORRAH. CAN YOU GIVE ME A BETTER ONE?
Posted by RALPH E. WHITE II 06/24/09 7:14 AM



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