Tyra, Regarding your show today about the single career women against the happily married women I perceived your one-sided view against the happily married women. However, I will not elaborate on my opinion. My purpose in writing to your show is to advise you to be very cautious about allowing misquotes about the scriptures in the way you allowed the Black single female to do. She was absolutely incorrect on the issue that marriage is a curse. God did not curse marriage nor did He curse woman to be with man and vice versa. The curse was created after the creation of Adam and Eve. It is in the labor pains by which woman is cursed because of her betrayal to Gods' commandment. Man's curse is to toil the grounds all the days of his life. Hence, the reason many men work themselves to the sweat is a fine example as this lives on in our society even today. Last, I believe those single career women enjoy their harlotry. They will not be in the Kingdom, and not because of being single but because of their harlotry.

tyra i am only 18 but i cant see myself "older" and not married. I love kids and i wish to eventually fill my womanly needs with the one man who God made for me. I saw this show and even though being single is fun and exciting at some point its time to settle down and produce mini versions of yourself.

I am married with kids, and something was unsettling about the topic and the single women on the panel. They seemed very anti marry and seemed sick at the stomach of the idea of having kids. I am one who believes God puts every woman on the earth to have a child if they are able... at some point in time in there life, as well as pursue great career . I can't see myself being 100 years old and alone! But if you say kids and a husband aren't for you who am I to judge. I know one thing if all women thought like those single ladies on the panel we would no longer have a human race!

Tyra, I was appalled when I saw the show today, about not wanting to be married because you cant have "me" time and you can't have a career. The single woman believe that you can't have it all. Proverbs 31 Woman talks about getting early to supply the needs of her family as well as yourself. I believe you were one-sided because you are single, but I believe it would be a tragedy for you not to be a mother, when you do so much for teenage girls. It was like if your married you can't do BIG THINGS. The lady that sat next to you was crazy. If you don't want to be married , thats your choice, but don't think that will be miserable if you are married. Also, don't have the misunderstanding that if your dating and shacking up and playing house that yours ways are right. If you don't want kids don't have them oh well, but your lost. I believe that my children make me desire to do more and be everything that I need to be for them. Thats my comment

Tyra, thank you so much for having this show as this topic needs to be discussed further. I just want to say that there are benefits to both being single and being married. And that we all must learn how to respect each other's differences in life. I am a 40 year old single woman. I don't chose to be single, that's just the way it is right now. As a single woman, I have been judged and talked about because of my single status. I get asked stupid questions and comments like, " How come you're single"?, "Aren't you lonely"?, " How come you don't have kids and don't you want any"?" You'd better hurry up before your eggs dry up", "the clock is ticking" " girl, you'd better give your mama some grandbabies", "She must be gay or something must be wrong with her! And the ultimate, you don't have any kids so you don't know how to deal with children"! To those asking the questions and making the comments, did you ever think for one second that you might actually be hitting on a touchy issue with that woman you are asking these questions of? How would you feel if you found out she was not able to have kids, but so desperately wanted to? Did you ever think that the single woman would love to come home to a loving husband and house hold? You are on the outside making inferences about something that is not any of your business. You have no idea of what goes on in someone's life so don't be so quick to ask what you may think is a "clever" question!. Why should I or other single people ( male and female) be made to feel like they must conform to

Tyra, thank you so much for having this show as this topic needs to be discussed further. I just want to say that there are benefits to both being single and being married. And that we all must learn how to respect each other's differences in life. I am a 40 year old single woman. I don't chose to be single, that's just the way it is right now. As a single woman, I have been judged and talked about because of my single status. I get asked stupid questions and comments like, " How come you're single"?, "Aren't you lonely"?, " How come you don't have kids and don't you want any"?" You'd better hurry up before your eggs dry up", "the clock is ticking" " girl, you'd better give your mama some grandbabies", "She must be gay or something must be wrong with her! And the ultimate, you don't have any kids so you don't know how to deal with children"! To those asking the questions and making the comments, did you ever think for one second that you might actually be hitting on a touchy issue with that woman you are asking these questions of? How would you feel if you found out she was not able to have kids, but so desperately wanted to? Did you ever think that the single woman would love to come home to a loving husband and house hold? You are on the outside making inferences about something that is not any of your business. You have no idea of what goes on in someone's life so don't be so quick to ask what you may think is a "clever" question!. Why should I or other single people ( male and female) be made to feel like they must conform to

It made me angry that for the most part the married ladies were very judgemental of the single ladies, where as the single ladies just accepted the others choice to marry and have babies. I also didn't agree with the stance that women are supposed to be married and become mothers... whose business is it but your own?

Hello all ladies both single and married! Now let me just say I was curious to watch the show because I was interested in seeing what women on two opposite sides of a spectrum seem to think on "marrigism" and "singlism." It's sad that some women seemed super defensive on either stance. It seems like today, as a woman, you could only be on one side of the panel... But what about an "in between" side... Women who are successful in their careers as well as their lives at home? I am a young, educated carreer oriented woman and would love to someday have a famliy of my own. Does that mean I want to run off and marry the first man willing? NO.. Of course not. I'm only 26. There is time for that. What disappoints me is that it seems that some women feel the need to polarize themselves on some "its us against them." Sure it's cool to be single as I'm sure it is to be a mom and wife, but theres no need to be so defensive about it.. Being a breadwinner, getting married and having children is a personal choice. Whether a woman decides to do one, two or all of the above is ultimately a personal choice. You pick and you choose what is it that makes you happy, POINT BLANK...

WHOA! I am currently watching this show, it's only the first segment and I am officially offended by the married women. What do they mean single=selfish?!?! "...You don't know how to keep a man....?" EXCUSE ME? I'm going to try not to write too much but did they ever think that they're actually being unselfish and thinking of others when they're not having kids? In addition, more women have higher standards for men now than before. So it's going to be harder to be in a marrying situation. But let me remind everyone that even Tyra and Oprah are always preaching female power and being more independent and self-sufficient, and of course, BE A LITTLE MORE SELFISH! I'm not anti-marriage at all. My family is full of happy couples and married. I think it's a great thing if it's right for both parties of the couple. And another thing- being "loved" is sadly being constantly seeked outside of ourselves or in a significant other. People forget that they have friends and family that love them... AND that they should love themselves. I say whichever stage- being single or married- anyone is in I hope they are there and are completely accepting and HAPPY. But my thing is it makes me cringe when I see someone go into a relationship just to be in a relationship and then in the end lose themselves. I suppose, like anyone else, I can rant on and on, but I'll end it here. In the end, it's a talk show... there's always a gray area but a talk show has to show the extreme black and white side. So good job, you got my blood boiling. :)

Please do more shows about women who are single and fabulous! Women put too much pressure on themselves to get married and have kids because that is what is expected from us. When we're little girls, all we here about is living happily ever after with prince charming. I don't believe in fairytale anymore, but I would still rather be single and lonely than married and bored.

Finally, this movement is brought to light. For years now, I have felt that its my social duty to adopt over procreating because of the over population that we face. It has become my number one worry and obession to not have children. I'm 19 with a boyfriend twice my age and I can say that I know exactly what I want in life. I left home at 16, put myself through college. I want to live and work in Africa establishing my self in the government and etc. When I asked to get my tubes tied of course I was refused. EVEN, The IUD I asked for was refused all because I'm young. However, I don't believe that the government or society has the right to tell me what I need or want. I'm glad that there are women out there like me. I just wish the contemporary Christian views would filter out of our laws and practices. It is not fair to those of us who have different values in life.

well i can say that there is nothing wrong with having kids and being married...im married and i have a great son but some of the things that was being said was mean..not all married women are lazy...my son is very smart and my home is well taken care of..being married and having kids doesnt mean that you have to stop your life. it just means that your life has more meaning. they do have places where you can take your child so you can work and they start taking them at 6 wks old..i get very offended when women say "i can come and go as i please" or "im independent".. you can still be those things and still be a very good mother and wife..i been with my husband for 9 years married for 3 and it doesnt change anything. he helps me when i need him to help and yeah you cant take a break from being these things but you can still have a life..i am a very independent and i can come and go as i please and as long as my husband and i talk about anything and we have an understanding i can come and go as i please...and like i said before you can put your kids in daycare and keep your careers going and you can even push yourself to your limit.. but just because you have kids or a husband doesnt mean that you are not living your life

Thank you for having a show about people who do not want to have kids! I could not get a doctor to tie my tubes at 24, so I have an IUD (I am 26 now). I have always known that I did not want to have kids, consistently since I was about 10. It is a big deal to me that if I get married my partner understand that I do not want to have any kids. I think this has prevented me from seriously considering my boyfriend of 8 years as a candidate for marriage. I know he wants to have kids. Lately he tell me he may be changing his mind, but that's not good enough for me. I wouldn't want to prevent others from children of their own. I love kids, but I am significantly older than my younger siblings and know while kids are lovely balls of joy they grow into real people and it is not easy to get them there (plus I've changed enough dirty diapers). I concur that if I should ever change my mind, there are plenty of children out there without parents who could use some, and may adopt in the future. There are other reasons that contribute to my decision. I think it is more responsible of people to not have biological children if they have certain medical conditions that are genetically dominant. Also, overpopulation is one of the biggest problems facing the modern world and is the single biggest ecological factor when it comes to our species's impact on this planet...all the other green things we can do will not matter once we reach the carrying capacity of our environment...green technologies and changes will only allow us to extend the time it takes. And depending on the quality

I am glad that this topic was brought up. I enjoy being single and doing things own my because it helps me to see who I really am as a person and also I am enjoy dating someone at the same time. I think for me, either being single or dating is totally fine with me. My mom pressures me into believing that if I don't settle down with someone,I am in my early 30's then I won't reproduce any grandchildren. For me, I've learned that self love is important. Yes, I do want to settle down someday, I'm totally fine if it happens in my mid-30s and above. I work with kids in the classroom everyday of my life and I can truly say that I feel like a parent to them sometimes. I believe that you can get everything you want out of life and it will come at a time when it is right. If I have a boyfriend life, I'm okay with that too. I'm enjoying life very much being single or dating. That's the bottom line is to enjoy what life brings you be single or married.

I would just like to comment on the fact that I am apparently 'selfish' because I am single. The REASON I am single is because I was completely selfless. About a year ago I met the man of my dreams. Meeting him changed my views of wanting to be married and having children. I allowed myself to envision a life with him. And it was a beautiful dream that we both shared. But I had a decision to make. Before I met him, I was offered the opportunity to spend a year working on a community development project in South Africa. I gave a year of my life to devote my time to the betterment of people that I don't know. So my decision became, do I give up a year of my life for the benefit of others. Or do I forgo the gift of my time and selfishly stay with the man of my dreams? I chose to give a year of my life. And as a result lost the man that I wanted to marry. We remain close be he admits that my not being here led to his decision to be with someone else. Therefore I am single. Because of how UNSELFISH I was. And I bitterly resent the implication otherwise.