I am so glad you did this show. Personally, I did not want to get married or have kids. I'm only 22 and at the age of 20, I felt pressured to get a boyfriend because everyone around me had one or was married. So I ended up getting pregnant and had the baby and my ex and I aren't together. I don't regret my daughter for anything but if I would of just lived my life for me, things would be different. I look at her everyday and I am reminded that only you know what you want and feel and you are the only person that can live your life. I will never try to conform on the idea of marriage and having more kids because it is what the world is used to seeing and has become 'normal.' Be you and don't be afraid of it!

Tyra, I hardly watch your show but today I watched it at the gym. The panel was all women. I am a male, 35, single, never been married and have no kids. I have focused my life on my education and job. As I watch my family and friends interact with their kids and spouses, I feel sad, empty and alone. The older I get, the more I understand that material things and money only brings temporary happiness. Happiness is having someone to share them with.

if you are married iam happy for you and with kids. you must remember there life is not yours and how i feel you are not paying my bills at the end of the month. your happy is not my happy let people be let them do what makes them happy. that is the problem with america everyone judging you where you should be at. well i just like the girl on the stage her mom wants her to get married and have kids. well iam 41 it is not happen and DAMN IT i am sexy and very single and most of all i the happiest i have been in my adult life. thank you very much!!!

Wh is not having because you don't want them any more 'selfish' than HAVING them because you want them? Doing what you want wiht your own life is not selfish - expecting others to do what you want with THEIR lives is selfish.

Some woman are born to be mother and some aren't born With that natual ability to care for another child. To be quite honest I am happier alone because I can admit To being selfish. A lot of women are forced to live this american dream Of the white picket fence and dog when deep down inside is regret. I am pro single because its my choice I don't expect others to think the same way What I would regret is bringing a child into this world when it wasn't planned And I feel guilty.

I also have a real problem with the basic question of 'who is happier marrieds or singles', because it assumes that one thing is good for the happiness of everyone. Who is happier is people who get and do what they want. Some people want to be married. Some kids, are fulfilled with them and would not be happy without them, and are good parents. Yes they are happy if they et this. And someone like me is going to be happy that she does not get married or have kids because I don't want them. Asking which person is happier is an invalid question - it is like "Which one is happier, the accountant or the artist ?" If the person is interested and fulfilled in what they do, neither is going to be 'happier'. Each is going to be the right kind of happy for them - each is happy in their own path, and wold not be happy in the path of the other.

I had a HUGE problem with that married owman who said something to the affect of, "our jobs as women are to be wives and mothers." Excuse me - who are YOU to tell ME what MY role is? You do not know me! Are you saying that as a woman, I am not an individual in my own right, but am exactly like every other female on the face of the planet?

This show made me angry, I have felt in the past and definatly today when I watched this show that our society has gotten to a point where I should feel bad about being married. Admittedly some of the married women made stupid comments however I felt like the single women had a holier than thou attitude. It seeems that if a women is married she isn't very smart or independent she apparently needs to have someone take care of her whatever happened to finding someone you wanted to sepnd your life with. No i don't think we should force single women to feel guilty and get married right away however I also do not feel that married women or mothers should feel guilty about being married. We don't have "successful" careers and are therefore useless? Career women talk about not needing children to validate their existance whoever they use thier career to validate their existance. Now it feels like if you are a woman who wants children and wants to be a mother that is no longer good enough we need to have wildly succesful careers to be useful in society otherwise we are brainwashed atomitons. This show as disgusting on both sides of the argument why can't we leave people and their personal choice alone.

I had a HUGE problem with that married owman who said something to the affect of, "our jobs as women are to be wives and mothers." Excuse me - who are YOU to tell ME what MY role is? You do not know me! Are you saying that as a woman, I am not an individual in my own right, but am exactly like every other female on the face of the planet? This part annoyed me because I did not feel like anyone really CALLED HER on the facts that 1. she was defining OTHER PEOPLE'S purposes for them, and she does not have the right or knowledge to do that and 2. Saying that 'women' have a specific job, is basically saying that all women are the same and by extension saying that half the people on the planet are exactly the same and have the same purposes and personalities. I also had a HUGE problem with the who 'you will be lonely' or 'you are being selfish, because you want to be by yourself' BS. This is very condescending to those of us who are introverts, quirkyalone, asexuals or solitude loving types. It is basically saying that only one sort of personality is OK - the person who likes spending most of their time with others/another. This implies that only this sort of person/personality is valid. Needles to say this is very invalidating and insulting to those of us who are NOT this way and implies that 'you' are better - that we should be like you, and if we are not that there must be somehting wrong. I also have a real problem with the basic question of 'who is happier marrieds or singles', because it assumes that one thing is good for the happiness of

I had a HUGE problem with that married owman who said something to the affect of, "our jobs as women are to be wives and mothers." Excuse me - who are YOU to tell ME what MY role is? You do not know me! Are you saying that as a woman, I am not an individual in my own right, but am exactly like every other female on the face of the planet? This part annoyed me because I did not feel like anyone really CALLED HER on the facts that 1. she was defining OTHER PEOPLE'S purposes for them, and she does not have the right or knowledge to do that and 2. Saying that 'women' have a specific job, is basically saying that all women are the same and by extension saying that half the people on the planet are exactly the same and have the same purposes and personalities. I also had a HUGE problem with the who 'you will be lonely' or 'you are being selfish, because you want to be by yourself' BS. This is very condescending to those of us who are introverts, quirkyalone or solitude loving types. It is basically saying that only one sort of personality is OK - the person who likes spending most of their time with others/another. This implies that only this sort of person/personality is valid. Needles to say this is very invalidating and insulting to those of us who are NOT this way and implies that 'you' are better - that we should be like you, and if we are not that there must be somehting wrong.

I am really sad to think how we as people are so jacked up mentally. I was pretty much speechless watching the married women go on and on about the way it should be. And then the mother and sister who make the other sister feel bad for being independent. Sad to say but these bilbical, religous beliefs and society are the culprits. I was hoping that Tyrah would have a voice on this matter because there is a fundamental, universal law that is true no matter what. That is that you must love yourself completely and be whole by yourself before you truly embrace another, let alone children. I am divorced with twin boys and I like many others married and wanted children for all the wrong reasons and now I am single and successful and truly happy. I try to reach out to everyone and tell them that truth which is veing married and having children is soooo overated. I did ivf and I can honestly say that if I had it to do all over again I would not have done it. I would love to work with Tyrah on making a difference with our young ladies... I have a vision and some way or another it will happen

What a controversy?! What a shame, men and women of sound mind and body making decisions for themselves! Did we forget a point in time in which it was against the law to think for ourselves? Choosing to be joined in matrimony; is a life altering decision. You can choose to whom you will marry but to whom you fall in love with there is little control. The choice to wed should be made with many many many considerations. Putting yourself first, prayer, honest communication between you and your partner are key (are just a few). Sometimes you just gotta have a little faith if you can't trust yourself how can you trust someone else. Choosing to have children out of wedlock or not; again; it is life altering. Some people have not found who they think they are, how can you expect them to carry and secure the life of another. Some feel they don't have the nurturer in them to be a parent. Wouldn't you rather a woman choose not to have a child than to have a child and murder that child due to post partum syndrome? Some women have children out of wedlock and become some of today's most successful people and role models. Some marry have children and don't choose to become divorced and single parents. Judge not lest ye be judged. We all hold our own purpose in life and that is not for us to know but for us to nurture, to have faith, to work hard for what we do want, to love and be loved. Go after what you want no matter what anyone says. As long as you are NOT physically, emotionally or spiritually harming someone to get what you want.

We all deserve to be happy but not at the cost of hurting someone. You can be who you are as long as you are comfortable in your skin, no matter what is said you will still live your life. They are your feet! It is your walk! No one else's! Be strong, be wise, love and be loved at least once in your life, have faith and trust in yourself. What choices you make are yours to benefit from and your own hard earned and learned life experiences. Spilled milk won't clean itself. Be you, be true. Remember while you are pointing your finger there are three more pointing back to you. May God Bless you all!!!

What a controversy?! What a shame, men and women of sound mind and body making decisions for themselves! Did we forget a point in time in which it was against the law to think for ourselves? Choosing to be joined in matrimony; is a life altering decision. You can choose to whom you will marry but to whom you fall in love with there is little control. The choice to wed should be made with many many many considerations. Putting yourself first, prayer, honest communication between you and your partner are key (are just a few). Sometimes you just gotta have a little faith if you can't trust yourself how can you trust someone else. Choosing to have children out of wedlock or not; again; it is life altering. Some people have not found who they think they are, how can you expect them to carry and secure the life of another. Some feel they don't have the nurturer in them to be a parent. Wouldn't you rather a woman choose not to have a child than to have a child and murder that child due to post partum syndrome? Some women have children out of wedlock and become some of today's most successful people and role models. Some marry have children and don't choose to become divorced and single parents. Judge not lest ye be judged. We all hold our own purpose in life and that is not for us to know but for us to nurture, to have faith, to work hard for what we do want, to love and be loved. Go after what you want no matter what anyone says. As long as you are NOT physically, emotionally or spiritually harming someone to get what you want. We all deserve to be happy but not at

What a controversy?! What a shame, men and women of sound mind and body making decisions for themselves! Did we forget a point in time in which it was against the law to think for ourselves? Choosing to be joined in matrimony; is a life altering decision. You can choose to whom you will marry but to whom you fall in love with there is little control. The choice to wed should be made with many many many considerations. Putting yourself first, prayer, honest communication between you and your partner are key (just to name a few). Sometimes you just gotta have a little faith if you can't trust yourself how can you trust someone else. Choosing to have children out of wedlock or not; again; it is life altering. Some people have not found who they think they are, how can you expect them to carry and secure the life of another. Some feel they don't have the nurturer in them to be a parent. Wouldn't you rather a woman choose not to have a child than to have a child and murder that child due to post partum syndrome? Some women have children out of wedlock and become some of today's most successful people and role models. Some marry have children and don't choose to become divorced and single parents. Judge not lest ye be judged. We all hold our own purpose in life and that is not for us to know but for us to nurture, to have faith, to work hard for what we do want, to love and be loved. Go after what you want no matter what anyone says. As long as you are NOT physically, emotionally or spiritually harming someone to get what you want. We all deserve to be happy but not