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All the single ladies, put your hands up!

Right now in America, there are quite a lot more "Single and Fierce" ladies out there than "Married and Fierce" ones, yet for some reason, the single ladies on today's show are feeling societal pressure to get someone to put a ring on it. Tyra talks to both the single ladies and the married ones, and we'll even hear from couples who are married, but don't want babies.

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I enjoyed your show on marriage. I have been married and am now divorced and don't feel I need marriage to complete me. I am madly in love with a wonderful man but am not ready for the restraints of being married. Our relationship is great without that paper! Also I have kids and they do complete me!
Posted by regina walton 05/28/09 12:40 PM
 
i think all the single women were bitter and extremely judgemental. They felt because they wanted to be single, that everybody should feel the way they do, which is wrong!. Just because your married and have kids, does not mean you cant have a career. If they feel a career completes them, and not love and companinon with a man and/or child, then thats them. And to their comment about all "mothers" do is talk about their kids....im sure all they talk about is thier career. When a "mother" can talk about both! Kids,career, and even their Man!! Sorry if wive's and mothers can juggle it all...
Posted by chip 05/28/09 11:57 AM
 
I am happily single, but I do have a 7yr old little girl. I have the best of both worlds. It isn't for someone else to determine what will make a person happy. Only that person can decide if being married and having a baby will make them happy. One of my best friends doesn't want to have kids. If that makes her happy, I'm happy for her. The woman that says women are here to be married, have babies and take care of a man is a nut case. The deparate woman needs help. The woman that claims a woman that isn't married can't get a man is ridiculous. I loved the record producer!!!
Posted by Karen 05/28/09 11:53 AM
 
Hey Tyra! Jeanne here. I wanted to comment on this because it hits close to home. I am a married 33 year old woman. We are celebrating 8 years of marriage on June 23 and 11 years knowing each other after meeting on the web in August. When I was a kid I used to tell my mom I wasn't going to have kids and she would say don't be silly of course you will! I met my now husband and together we decided kids weren't in our plans. Apparently my body solidified that because I had stage 3 of 4 endometriosis and had a hysterectomy a few months after my 29th b-day. The remaining ovary was taken out in Jan 2008. We had always told the families we weren't having kids but it must have gone in one ear and out the other because my inlaws were floored after the wedding hearing that. They had met my folks and stayed with them for a few days a year prior to the wedding and that is when we told them. What people don't understand is that not having kids can free up a lot of money that would otherwise be spent on diapers, formula, babysitters, etc. I have had a lot of people since we got married be very jealous of what we have and not be able to deal well with it. We also lucked out in that my husband worked for microsoft when they were giving shares as bonuses so we got to exercise a lot of them to get the house we got in Seattle 1 month prior to the wedding... fyi never do a wedding and house closing at the same time. We think of it as we like our toys too much to have kids.
Posted by Jeanne From NC 05/28/09 11:52 AM
 
HEY TYRA.....I WOULD PRAY 4 A CHANCE 2 B ON YOUR SHOW AT ANYTIME DAT U HAVE TOPICS ON RELATIONSHIPS & MARRIAGE COZ 2DAYs WORLD IS SO SCREWED UP WHEN IT COMES 2 2DAYs LIFESTYLES & HOW WE SHOULD LIVE OUR LIVES. THIS IS A NEW DAY & N THIS DAY A WOMAN DOESN'T NEED A MAN & SHE CAN GO OUT & DO WAT-EVA SHE WANTS WIT WHO-EVA SHE WANTS & STILL HAVE A GOOD CAREER. DA PROBLEM 2DAY IS DAT WE AS MEN & WOMEN HAVE 2 MANY OPTIONS SO A MARRIAGE 2DAY ONLY MEANS, "WE CAN B 2GETHER NOW BUT ONLY UNTIL SU'UM BETA COMES ALONE......I DO".
Posted by PAT 3:16 05/28/09 10:27 AM
 
I think it was terrible that the lady who was a music producer says that Married women with children are lazy. I'm married to a military man, and i'm pregnant with our first child. I will be taking care of my husband and child, and taking care of the household, and in the future also working a job most likely. I just don't think it's right. If you don't want to have a child, then don't, but don't call us that do have them lazy.
Posted by Laura 05/28/09 10:05 AM
 
I think it should not be a big thing if you get married or not, My mom has been in a bad married for over 30 years now and just this year my dad as started to be good. Getting married is a big thing and if you don't get married your still a good person, I think pecple should do what makes them happy in life and be happy with they got. I have two babys from a 5 year boyfriend and thank God that I didn't marry him for more then one reson. I'm 25 years old and not thinking of dating for now but of what I have to do to be happy.
Posted by michelle 05/28/09 9:43 AM
 
This show pissed me off completely! I was so mad that there were people ashmed of being single and so desparate to get married! It happens when your ready and when god wants it to! As long as your serving him he's happy with you! There are more woman than men in the world anyway! So calm down desperate people...I grew up where everybody was divored, separated, or alone and happy. I am okay with being single and I dont want to be married or have kids, I'd rather adopt because I want to help a child whose parents couldn't help them. I'm not hatin on the married ladies congradulations to you. But we all need to accept that there are people who are single and happy. And they dont aspire to have kids or be married because their helping others in a different way. It doesn't make them selfish. It makes them human!
Posted by erica 05/28/09 9:39 AM
 
Oh and the music producer woman was annoying! She began every sentence with "I'm in the music industry" blah blah blah. First off, any WOMAN who is a REAL WOMAN can manage a career and a family. I am 35 years old and I have my own mortgage business. I own 300 homes-all paid cash-in Southern CA and they are rental homes. Yes, I did it before I married my husband and no he is not involved in my business. I am an independent, strong woman who can still be the sweetest, most caring wife and mother. I have an amazing husband and a baby boy. I have no trouble satisfying him in bed and out of bed. I have no trouble being there for my child. I have no trouble cooking or meeting deadlines. How dare she say that you can't be successful at 50? My Father started his business at the age of 54! He is now 82! and he makes about 300K a day! Both sides were pretty ignorant- NO ONE SHOULD ASSUME ANNYTHING ABOUT ANYONE SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY CAN'T DO SOMETHING ABOUT THEIR PATHETIC LIVES.
Posted by MAE 05/28/09 9:18 AM
 
You should only be a mother when you truly desire it because if you don't- you'll be a horrible mother. Men like women like the un-married one's on the show because they can lay them and leave. But in the end, I'd say that about 80% of men want to have a family-they want to be married and raise their children. My husband can pay to go see a naked stripper for 2 hours and at the end of the night- he's loving me. I do think the 23 year old on the show was too young to even think about marriage! But these 50 year old ladies on the show claiming they like NOT being married? Come on..they have no OTHER choice but to be UNMARRIED! Marriage is a friendship- a foundation for a family and the start of a new generation.
Posted by MAE 05/28/09 9:12 AM
 
Dear david, Caeer does not have to be about money - it is ab out doing what you love to do and what makes you happy. Ans 'having someone' is not the be all and end all to those of us who are not happy spending too much time around other people. I, personally, would be very uncomfortable spending a lot of time around another person or persons. It is just who I am. There are some poeple who need to be around pther people a lot, and there are some people who need to be around themselves a lot. There is nothing wrong with either, and neither is 'better'.
Posted by ehartsay 05/28/09 8:50 AM
 
It's too bad that it has to be so hostile on both sides. I am single. I'm in my 40's and I'm not cut out to have children. I have nieces and nephews that have a special relationship with an Aunt that wouldn't be the same if I had my own children. I am not a selfish person. I took care of my Dad when he was dying of lung cancer. I'm glad I had the gift of being able to do that because I have no children. I am taking care of my Uncle who had a stroke. His brothers and other nephews and nieces all have their lives with marriage and kids and don't have the time that I have to devote to him. I am a high school teacher and I give generously of my time to make their lessons and their lives better. I don't think it's necessary to criticize others on either side. No one likes to feel stupid or lazy. And no one wants to feel like they are a disappointment!
Posted by Susan 05/28/09 8:46 AM
 
hey tyra wow first of all i meet my husband when i was 15 i em now 18. i have a son with him my prince he is a year and a half. yea me and my husband have are ups and down but we still care about each othei think. my whole family always tells me to leave him that his not worth it that im young that i should be going clubbing going out with friends but yet i dont. i used to live out in california nd i would always go to the mall have fun be an outgoing person now i live out in texas i dont go no were im always home i have no friends out here i havent talked to my mom since january nd my sister only by myspace when we moved out here i thought problems were gonna stop but they kept going my husband now is so controlling i cant go no were just take care of my neices nd there now i cant have a phone or nothing if i do he brakes but yet i dont leave im still here cuz i care bout him but idk its like he change his not the same with him no more. how i em now with him i think that if i could change my past i would i miss me i love my son he means my world but im not the same no more. so yea tyra i love ur show its nice i watch it every day nd when i dont cuz im taking care of kids so yea
Posted by diana 05/28/09 8:12 AM
 
I think the happiest of women at the end of their lives, are those who honour themselves and their individual needs every step of the way through life. =) Peace.
Posted by Anna 05/28/09 4:21 AM
 
oops!!..its not just what we do afterwards that matters but how we do in GOD,the creator,saviour etc. TAMBUA VILLAGE(tv), HAMISI(vihiga),KENYA.
Posted by david lulasa 05/28/09 2:03 AM



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