For whatever my brain's reason, I never craved children, knowing I couldn't handle parenthood -- I had a lack of maternal instinct, lack of family emotional support (like a Bergman movie), and self-knowledge of several auto-immune med problems -- family history of clinical depression, ADD, painful psoriasis, and aspergers that I would NOT want to pass on to ANYONE, and a fulfilling full-time career. So 'no children' was always my logical choice since my early teens. I totally understand the women on the panel. I felt TONS of discrimination PRESSURE from co-workers/friends who designated me the 'old maid' -- it made me cry almost every day, not a cute joke, which sent me to therapy. Luckily I found a good behavioral therapist who helped frame my perspective. The main reasons single-ism hurt me deeply was/is because 1) If I died at home, noone would find me for weeks, maybe months. 2) As I love to travel, rates rise greatly with a 'single supplement'! (I don't have many friends, let alone who are free to travel.) 3) Noone to share the 'look at that' memories of travel. My psychologist said 'You make your own family'... I finally gave up totally on dating, then unexpectedly met and married at 40-something, a man with 2 young children ages 5 and 7. I know most friends/families secretly considered it too big a hurdle for us to survive. We're still together 16 years later, and hopefully I contributed positively to the kids social/educational/emotional development, and I'll be able to talk with them even better over the next post-teen years. Holding my own, so far, so good! And btw, thank GOD I was lucky enough to have the luxury of good insurance, an anomaly in the USA, thru my university job, which saved my life thru

Yes, Tyra your show today was definitely one sided and unfair. I can honestly say I feel like I’m being discriminated upon for being married and having a child, and not just because of your show but on a regular basis. What is so wrong with being married? You make it seem as though woman who are married and have children are stupid and have no goals or passions for themselves. We are strong and learn real quickly to multi task. I’m sure life will be bumpy, lonely, stressful, and yes not have time for oneself as well, no matter which way you go, single or not. I gotta say it was a great turn for women when you suggested we not need to be obsessed for being a few pounds overweight, Yay to self confidence! Right? But Today’s show not so great. Your point should have been women respect each other, on whatever choices you make in life, be happy and don’t judge one other. After all we must not forget we need and after all, have very strong women who raise strong individuals, so I guess we women who devote and cherish our children must not all be stupid. Right? Tyra you should know. You always speak of your mother so kindly. I’m sure you wouldn’t want a bunch of single women looking at her as if she was strange for having and loving her child.

Hi Tyra I watch your show every morning and I just love most of your discussions! I actually never realized that there was so much controversy on this subject. I am a happily married woman of 3 years and we just had our beautiful daughter in March. I have known since I was little that I wanted to get married and have children. I don't think it's horrible if you don't want those things but I do think that being a mother is the greatest gift that God can give a woman. Those women that were single kept saying that married women are lazy when just like one of the married women said you don't just have one job but as a mother and wife you have several. I think that the women you chose to be on the show aren't like every single women out there. They all seemed to be selfish, not just because they didn't want children and a husband but they seemed to be more about materialistic things. Yeah a single woman does have more time for herself and I think that if you're not going to give yourself to your husband and children then it's best that you don't bring children into the world because that's just unfair to the children. I think that a single woman can say that she never wants marriage and children but I think that any woman could change her mind if she fell in love!

I watched today, and I was disappointed in the "discussion". Since when is it considered pitiful to give of yourself to your husband and children? I have been happily married for 24 years.I have worked while I was married; graduated college; ran a business while having 4 children. I currently homeschool 3 children; and am the hub of a family that is ever in motion. I applaud the woman who gets up to provide her husband good homemade lunches! I get up and fix my husband and 22 year old son nutritious breakfasts while they go out to their busy days. I want my husband around for AT LEAST another 24 years! If more women would consider the statitistics of marriage and that married people live LONGER. We married folks have better, more fulfilling and meaningful sex lives than singles who are fooling around, ( even to the surprise of publishers like Cosmopolitan)(!) IF they consider people who live their religious convictions, and rear families in their church beliefs live longer. We "traditionals" are the perceived minority, not the gays or blacks. Just anyone mention having traditional, Biblical values, and they can look forward to(like on Tyra today) to being laughed at, their stance ridiculed, and shouted over, without any opportunity to further defend their views. Tyra's show today, exemplified typical prejudice against Christians, and their long standing moral code. I am a Believer in Jesus Christ THE Lord and Savior. I LOVE PEOPLE BECAUSE HE DOES. I MAY NOT AGREE WITH EVERYBODY'S CHOICES, AND LIFESTYLES, BUT I DON'T STOP LOVING THEM! I DON'T AGREE WITH WHAT THE BLACK, SINGLE WOMAN, AND THE ONE WITH THE NARROW FACE, AND LONGISH BLOND HAIR SAID AND DID, AT ALL. EVERYONE WAS MEAN AND RUDE TO THAT YOUNG WIFE AND MOTHER ON THE

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I didn't get to see the show to the very end but I did see quite a bit of the show with the two sides of women. I believe that neither side have the right to judge each other for there PERSONAL preference. What single person has the right to judge a married women who is happy to be married and know that is where they want to be and say that you are lazy and what married women has the right to judge a single woman and say that you are lonely. Success is not defined by being a CEO of a company and making tons of money. Success is achieving your own personal goals and overcoming the barriers to reach it. For some it is being a working mother and married, for some it is being single and reaching the tops, for some it is to be a stay at home mom. Women should be more encouraging to one another and respectful of each others decision rather than looking down on someone for a choice that they believe fit them best. I do believe that a women who do get married need to be content with being single first and if they feel like they want to get married afterwards, then go right on ahead. I am a person that have strong spiritual beliefs and I find it interesting how some of the women try to prove there point by trying to throw some religion and scripture in the mix but still get it wrong which leads to more misrepresentation on the subject and the Word. The lady on the married side kept tossing in the fact about Adam and Eve and sure, God made woman to be with a man so that he wouldn't be alone. Okay,

Ok... so I have never posted before. But I have to say something about this show. I am 26 and happily married and i am a mother of two beautiful baby girls. I also stay home with them and love it!! This is what I love doing. And i do not feel like i am missing out. That is all i thought about when i was growing up. On the other hand if you choose to be single and never get married and have children, well great! Everyone has a choice. This is America people!! In no way is it selfish! If you don't want to be a mother then don't be. It is better than having a child you don't want then treating them like crap because you did not want them. To all you married women who think badly of single women and all you single women who think badly of married women grow up! Let women do want they want to do and just love everyone!

I had a little difficulty watching today's program. I am 60 years old, female and single. Yes, I wanted children, I would have loved to find Mr. right, but at 34 I was diagnosed with MS, and also had 2 fibroid tumors. I had a hysterectomy. I was told by this doctor that I would be in a wheelchair in a year. I beat the odds with the MS and never needed a wheelchair. Some people are not able to go the expected married with children way. I have had so many people think that I am gay or that there must be something wrong with her. Don't judge people until you walk in their shoes.

Why as women are we still judging each other? If you choose to be single and have no kids, fine! If you choose to be married and have kids, fine! Can everyone just leave each other alone and live your own life? STOP JUDGING!!

I usually keep my comments to myself. I've never posted anything before. However, this episode made me so mad! I am very happily married and we have 2 children. I couldn't imagine my life any different and I wouldn't want to. I don't believe that all women were made to serve men and breed and I don't think marriage is "submitting yourself to a man." That is ridiculous. I understand that some women don't want children. It is a lot of work(so the thought that it is an excuse not to work, I dare you to spend a day in my shoes), but to not want to marry, you haven't found the right man. My husband is my best friend. We do everything together, we are equals and share all responsibilities. I did not get married because I felt obligated, but because I want to spend every day with him for the rest of my life. What made me so upset is the single women looked down on the married women and stereotyped them as not strong women and brainwashed. Unfortunately, the married women on the show, were not my ideal representatives. They fed the stereotypes by attacking the single women for not wanting children. The only time I heard one of the married women saying something that was a good point, the show cut her off and went to commercial. My point is that everybody is entitled to their opinion and living your life the way you want to, but don't judge me and assume just because so many people jump into marrriage and kids and aren't happy that every married women is like that. I have dreams and goals and my family won't stand in the way, it just means that I have people to share my accomplishments

My heart goes out to the sister from Louisiana. I realized that I am in her shoes even though I am married! My husband and I decided that we were not having children about 5 years ago and my mother treats me the same way. When I saw Neesee’s sister and mother walk onto the stage in unity, I said to myself “oh my goodness” this looks like my story…and it was! (Neesee, girl, just hang in there. Stay true to yourself and God, and you will be just fine.) This show was very enlightening. I can’t change my family, but I now know that I am not alone. Thanks Tyra!

PS. Tyra, screen your panelists by education. You'll have a better discussion for it. Decent topic but circular. Appeals to the Bible were definitely misplaced and unnecessary.

I would have to say this episode dissapointed me! It was really bias and everyone ganged up on the women who were married. The single women attacked every word out of the married womens mouth. And the single women seemed to think that the married women were stupid. I just think they were extremely unfair!

They say the single women are selfish. I agree and have a better word for it, narcissism. They don't want children cause the children would steal their thunder. Children are selfish too. There will be no competition for her. Or sharing. It's all about her. No wonder they don't want husbands. That would entail sharing. What man would want anyone so selfish?

First, let me say I am a married woman. I never wanted to be married or have children. I let myself fall prey to the idea that marriage is the necessary "next step". What I ended up with was a terrible marriage. Thankfully, I did not have children with this man. I do not feel I am selfish, there are MANY bad mothers and the opportunities to mentor and love children are numerous. My sister passed away from cancer and I took her children, and am currently raising them. Another child in my life has a mother that tries to do it all and unfortunately, the child suffers from not enough mommy time. I am in the fortunate position to step in and help the child feel the love she is missing. I do not feel it is right to take sides, a woman should be free to do what makes her happy. If that is marriage - wonderful! If it is being single- wonderful! I am not pro marriage or pro single...I am pro woman!