I Don't Need a Husband or a Baby

Tue. May 26, 2009 | 3:00 PM

I Don't Need a Husband or a Baby RT @tyrashow

I Don't Need a Husband or a Baby

All the single ladies, put your hands up!

Right now in America, there are quite a lot more "Single and Fierce" ladies out there than "Married and Fierce" ones, yet for some reason, the single ladies on today's show are feeling societal pressure to get someone to put a ring on it. Tyra talks to both the single ladies and the married ones, and we'll even hear from couples who are married, but don't want babies.

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Please tell that misinformed African American lady that this informed African America lady says that she needs to research and talk to her pastor. It became a curse (man will rule over ihs house) after they broke the laws of God. Had ADAM never partaken in tree of knowledge with Eve, then there would have been no curse. And if she continued in her read, she would find that the WIFE is AS the weaker vessel... not IS the weaker vessel. If you are going to talk about it, KNOW about it and be about it. Eve is Adam's helpmeet. Furthermore, be fruitful and multiply. Do not fornicate. You can't pick and choose what you will follow in the Bible. One sin is all sin. Figure it out. If you can't abstain from sexually immortality, then it is suggested that you GET MARRIED! Clearly, marriage is very beneficial in the eyes of God. He who finds a wife finds a good thing! Be a good thing...

Posted by Brandy 05/27/09 2:43 PM

I just want to say that the issue isn't about who is better. People seem to think there is a competition between being single or married. Women, regardless of whether they are single or married, can be successful. The women on the show are on such broad ends of the spectrum that it is no longer a disscussion of the benefits vs. the downfalls, but a competition of who thinks they are better. They are not staying to the subject, and so narrowminded arguements are presented as evidence. This should not be about who is better, because it is about how wonderful all these women are. Situations are all very sensitive for each person and their choices are their choices. A woman needs to do what she feels is successful to her. If a woman feels that never getting married and running her own life is her success then that is wonderful for her. But if a woman feels that her family is her success then that is brilliant for her. Its NOT a competition about who is better! It is simply to show the success of all woman. I can't quite express exactly what i'm trying to say, but this shouldn't be how the issue is discussed. Single and married woman are all fierce and successful and wonderful women.

Posted by Lindsay 05/27/09 2:40 PM

To the one lady who said she had kids, worked fulltime and was working on here doctorate, let me tell you, as a daycare owner and pre-school teacher, YOU aren't raising your kids... I AM.

Posted by Kaden Joy 05/27/09 2:33 PM

WTF!!!!!!!!!!My comment is..."to each his or her own"... who cares? We are only human. I have been on both sides like many others. Now I am a 34 yr old divorced mom of 2. I got married because I thought that was the right thing to do. Well turns out now my ex is off and happy with his single woman of 2 playin daddy and I am stuck with our children I never wanted. I love my children don't get me wrong but I didn't plan on being a single mom. Now it is hard to find a decent man because my trust is gone. My life completely changed when that man walked out the door. I was the 'breadwinner" in my house and he was mr mom.I don't want come off cold but Not everyone is meant to be a parent. God has a plan for all of us, we are all only passing threw this world. Do you and stop hating on each other.

Posted by angelina 05/27/09 2:32 PM

The only thing that bothers me about this show is how judgemental these women are! Who cares whether you are single, married, with children, or don't want them? There is no set standard for what will make an individual happy because we are all different... DUH! Why can't we all just support eachother's decisions and be happy for one another?

Posted by Tawny R. 05/27/09 2:23 PM

I'm talking to the young lady from Grambling. Honey you are truly blessed because you know what you want to do. At that age I thought this is what I'm supposed to do. Little did I know that I had the world by its' tail. It took 19 years of abusive marriage, having four children, working my full head off that their were other oportunities I could have had. I know you love your mother and sister but they are wrong baby. This is your life, God gave it to you and nobody can take it away. I'm 55 years-old and there were times that I wished and I knew that I had made a big mistake in getting married at least. As for having birth, I'm glad I had my children. Everyone of us on this earth has a different path to follow and let God lead you. Don't let anyone tell you that you are supposed to be married and at least have a child. No one not even your mother is supposed to make you feel inadequate or less than a woman because you aren't married are have children that you cannot raise the way they are supposed to be raised. A mother is supposed to support her offspring in whatever they choose to do. As long as you are not selling drugs, murdering, being a thief or have a revolving door of men in and out of your life. If you are a God fearing young woman, a pleasure to be around, helpful and a loving human being, your mother should be proud. If I were your mother I would be telling no, shouting to the world how smart my daughter is, How my daughter is a lot smarter than I was at her age and

Posted by Deborah 05/27/09 2:18 PM

WOW I'm only into 10 mins of this show and I am just so sad for all of these ladies. I hated to hear the single record producer talk about how married women can't negotiate like she does.... I come from a family of women that have been able to not only accomplish success in their marriage and family life while at the same time being the big boss of the companies and organizations that they work. It's not record producing but it is the career that they have chosen. It seems that these ladies are from one extreme to another... THEY are not happy because they can't be successful in that medium. You have to have be able to be happy within your own self before you can make anyone else happy. That is what I have been taught and I believe that you can have the best of both worlds by knowing who you are in yourself and in your marriage.

Posted by Shaela 05/27/09 2:16 PM

I am 28 and have been married to my husband for a little over a month, but have been friends with him since I was 16. I am disgusted by the married women AND the single women on the show! I did not "need" my husband to be happy. I married him because I wanted to. We don't have kids, and even when we do, it will NOT determine my happiness. I am still independent and didn't get married so I didn't have to work. I have a full time job and 3 college degrees. I don't understand why people care. If you're single, great! If you're married, great! Who really cares?!

Posted by Tiffani 05/27/09 2:15 PM

This story struck a nerve with me!!! I am a 22 married woman with an 8 month old son. I am FURIOUS with the accusations that the single woman are saying. I would love to be on your show, and tell them how i feel, I AM LIVID ABOUT THIS TOPIC! THANK YOU, RACHEL PESOLA

Posted by Rachel Pesola 05/27/09 2:12 PM

Now I plan on having a husband and a child later in life...and I've been scrutinized for that. I've been told I'm setting back the woman's rights movement. I think that was all about being able to choose how you want to live. I just want to go up smack all the women and go "Shut the heck up live your own life and stay out of everyone else's".

Posted by Arella 05/27/09 2:09 PM

My heart goes out to the young girl from Grambling whose mother does not accept her single status. I haven't spoken to my mother in two years for this same exact reason. People really need to get a grip and worry about there own survival and well being, and stop condemning the lives of those who who live a life contrary to their beliefs.

Posted by Anonymous 05/27/09 2:06 PM

I think the single women on this panel are scared and confused. They are scared to care for someone other than themselves and confused about what love is really all about. I feel sorry for those women. They seem so miserable. There just trying to cover up the fact that they cant get a man or keep a man. There is nothing wrong with having children or having a husband. Having a family is a beautiful thing and anyone who does not want that has a personal issue that they are keeping to themselves. I commend those married women!! But those single women will grow old by themselves, What kind of life is that? After your career is long gone then what will you have? NOTHING!!

Posted by Tanisha 05/27/09 2:03 PM

During the show the "singles" would not stop interrupting the "married" women and let them speak their point. Also, the single women were getting way to emotional about the "married" womens opionon. I do understand every women needs to find themself.. but life is not sort.. you have so much time to do the single thing and the married thing. Just because you are single does not mean you are selfish.. More like caring to much about ur self to share. Everyone has their own opion.. I'm just saying the married women should of had more time to speak with out getting interupted.

Posted by Brittany 05/27/09 1:51 PM

Okay, Today's show has made me so mad. The women who are "all about their jobs are ridiculous". They are all about money and themselves. You can be a mom, wife, and work!!!! Just because you have children or a husband DOES NOT mean you are not focused on a job or whatever. It makes me so mad and upset to see people who does not want to find love or to have a baby. I got married when I was 18 and had a baby at 19. Im still in school while my hubby works BUT I would not change ANY OF IT for the WORLD. Being a mom is the BEST feeling and thing that anyone could ever feel. The audience in the show seemed like they were all for the people who dont want to get married. It is so wrong to not to want to be married or have children. If you are all about your work..."WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO when you get to old to work or get fired???? You are not going to always have that GREAT job, BUT your family will always be there...even if its your husband or son or daughter etc... And my last point is Just think if your mom thought (the way the "working ppl" do) they wouldnt be here. I dont know if this even makes sense or not just because im so fustrated!!!

Posted by Katie 05/27/09 1:45 PM