Yup, now this is a topic that I can relate to because as a single woman I do not care what people think. I do get defensive when people ask why I don't have kids yet, like everyone is having one and if not the world will come to an end. The problem comes from society telling woman if they don't have a man and kids then you should be thrown under a bridge. The reality that no one every discuss is that marriage plus children equals money. And in these times if you barely have it why make yourself and family suffer. I think if you want a career then marriage 'go for it'. Learn to balance what you want and not depend on what others say to complete you and your personal life. For those who get married early to each its own, but I believe whether its in the bible or not you should live for yourself then bring a child or accept someone into your life. I know many people who are married w.kids and are on the road to divorce. These people are under the age of 30, that's sad. Bless those who do make it work and those who balance a career instead of a family. And finally some people are not meant to be parents remember the crazes that have and abuse them while some who want can not have. Everyone has an opinion but yours always count. Thanks

I think the majority of women on the panel expressed ignorant viewpoints. I am 29, single, and haven't dated in 3 years. But I am happy: I am completing my PhD, love my family and friends and take great joy in my nephews. Single women can be miserable, married women can be miserable. Single women can be happy, married women can be happy. It all depends on the person, the relationship and circumstance. I am not relying on "finding someone" to make me happy, I make myself happy. But if the "right guy" comes along that COMPLIMENTS me, great. If not, I have plenty of people in my life (including myself!) that bring me joy. All the judgements today (on both sides of the panel) make me ill.

Do we have a population problem? Why are we trying to convince these strong independant women to "procreate"? Every woman is unique and should be judged on her own merit, not how many children she has. (this writer has 3 children, by the way) You go girls...

kaden. im a full time student and a stay at home mom and you arent taking care of my children!! I take online classes. I made sure that i dont start working until my children go to school full time. I never needed daycare!!

I have no desire to have children since I can't even stand to be around them. Seriously... It's so bad I get stressed out so fast when they open their mouths. Maybe I'm a selfish person but I would rather have the choice of deciding if I want to start a family versus being forced into something that I know I would want out of. I guess what killed any thought of having children is my stepbrother and stepsister having children left and right. I was in high school at the time and when they would stay over where my family was living, They got the only bedroom in the house while my sister and I had to sleep in the walk in closet of my parents' bedroom. My sister had a child and got married before she was 16 but she and her husband accepted that responsibility. I have even know a married couple in their 20's who said.. " No Children.." This was their decision. I believe people should have a say in how they want to live their lives. And people need to just respect that. Some people aren't children material and if some people realize that before they have sex and somehow wind up with a child, we could break the cycle of neglect and broken homes. Having a family doesn't mean you're a better person. It's being able to become fully responsible for another human being without regret. This is why we need to have dialogues on this issue. We need to send the message that have children isn't just a right but also a important life changing decision.

great show great topic i respect both decisions I myself.. thinks why cant you do it all. I WANT AND PLAN ON DOING IT ALL...FOLLOW YOUR HEART YOU MAY HAVE REGRETS LATER ON...BEST OF BOTH WORLDS:)

I just finished watching the show about Women not having kids and being okay not getting married. I can totally identify. While I may still get married, I have never wanted to be a mom. It is a tough job and one that you should only do if you really think it through thoroughly. There are too many people that abuse kids so I totally applaud women who know that they don't want to be a mom. Being a parent is not a joke. It is very serious. Tyra, thanks for having this show. I think you should have more shows on this subject. Young women need to know they have choices. Thanks again.

Ok ladies this has me really angry, the whole you cant be a strong confredent woman because you have a man, WTF? I am a strong confedent (I was raised in am girls only family so I know about proud women) and I am also about to be married. Since meeting my husband to be three years ago I have not only grown as a person I have flurished as my own person. He does not hold me back infact he helpes me learn and be indeprendant, this crap about being subservient to a man and losign your independance is total bunk, if that's the way men treat you then you are dating the wrong kind child. And here's another one for you saing women get married makes you less independant is a load of horse hockey. My fincae does not need to validate me I know my worth he does not make me who I am. Life is good with out him I can survive but it's so much better with him knowing I don't have to come home to an empty apartment. Oh and little miss sister care giver my mom was a working mother you may look after the kids durign the day but again pleases everythign I know I learned from her, so dont get all high and mighty, cus soem one will just knock you off your high horse child. women that do not belive in marrage dotn because of two reasons.... 1. They either haven't found mister right. 2. their selfish and couldn't be bothered to spend time on other people.

I am looking at this show and I do feel that everyone is entitled to their own opinions but I also believe that everyone is different and we all handle situations differently whether in a marriage or single. For the single ladies - it was sad for me to hear the single lady talk about how married women cannot negotiate like she can due to her job and her being single. I think that statements like these are based on the actual person and not on the fact that the person is single. You should not let your "status" define who you are. I do however understand part of the single woman's cry. I am a married woman have been for 10 years. We do not have any children and have never felt the need to have children. So I do understand the prejudice of society that all women must be married and have children or else you are not fully a woman. I also know the pressure of family telling you that you need to have children to complete your life. That is the most disturbing thing I have ever heard. We make our own choices in life and we determine the path we need to take. For the married ladies - it is sad to hear a woman say that a husband and a baby defines who they are. I have never felt that way. I am also a career woman I have never felt the need to be a house wife or to make my only focus my house and spouse. I love my husband but I love myself also. My husband is a PART of me he is not ALL of me. I believe that you have to be comfortable and love your self in order

This topic is right up my alley! I'm 24...I JUST met someone who's perfect, he wants to eventually get married & have kids (and he's financially stable), but on the other hand I have a friend that is in love with me and I love him but I know I probably won't have kids with him because he has a family (but he'll do anything for me)...he was married and got a divorce to be entirely with me. And with the perfect guy, I kind of feel pressured to be a perfect lady...and naturally, I'm not a perfect lady, so being with him for 9 months (6 mts long distance), I held it together but now I can't keep it up (I burped one time and he tells me "that's not ladylike) and my response was "oh come on".... but with the guy who's in love with me we have fun together and I can be myself 100% (so if I burp it's not a problem)...I'm not even sure if I want kids and live that "wife life" (if I give up this "perfect guy" I might never meet someone like him again if I decide to want that "wife life").... SO BASICLY I'M ASKING FOR OPINIONS...SHOULD I KEEP UP BEING A LADY TO KEEP THIS "PERFECT GUY" OR SHOULD I JUST BE WITH THE GUY THAT GOT DIVORCED TO BE WITH ME??....right now my relationship is lingering because I don't know what I should do...PLEASE HELP!!

I am married with 4 kids, however I respect any woman who knows what she wants. I love my husband and my kids and could not imagine my world without them, however, that is me. To anyone else if a husband and or kids are not for you, please do not let anyone convince you otherwise. I have known too many people who have kids and should not, husbands and kids are not accessories, nor are they for everyone. Live and love your own life to your fullest!

I think that these two groups of women combined show the strength that women should have individually. I support the idea that some women do not want to get married; however, I want them to realize their influence for younger women. It is not a sign of inferiority to be vulnerable. I believe that is a sign of being a human, rather just being a woman. Women have come from a history where it is a privilege to show their on independence and strength. The educated women on the stage seem to do that gracefully. However, healthy examples of family structures are needed for the future of our children. Whether that be gay, lesbian, or straight couples. As long as the woman who decides to get married is has the much needed inner strength, I believe that marriage reflects compromise. For me, that family is the foundation of healthy society. Our society is crumbling...what could that be a reflection of...

I just want to say that I'm so glad this show aired only b/c I'm 29,(about to turn 30 in September), I'm married to the love of my life but I feel like I'm constantly pressured to have children. This is b/c of all of my friends and almost everyone in my family has become a parent by the time they were 30. So coming from an environment where everyone has given birth, it makes me feel like less of a woman b/c a lot of my friends and family don't take me seriously when I try to confide in them with my problems, I get the typical "you have problems, well try having mouths to feed" etc.I'm constantly discriminated against in my family b/c I don't have children, and I've been shown in actions by my friends and family that I'm not accomplished until I've given birth, and the sad thing is that I'm a college educated woman with a wonderful husband. Whenever I log onto facebook or myspace all I see is pictures of children and other people's families, and it's just thrown me into a depression. The truth is, I want children, but right now, my husband and I are just not financially able at the moment to start a family, but at the same time, I don't want to be 40 chasing around a 2yr old. I thank you so much for airing this show b/c it shows me that I'm not the only woman out there going through this. Single women, I've been single, and it's okay to want happiness for yourself, married women, if you're happy b/c you're married and you feel fulfilled, congrats to you, but always remember, that the things that make you happy now have changed, you were single once too...so

I think that if you dont want to have children or get married then that is fine. But don't talk about things you have no idea of. Im 19. Me and my husband have been together since I was 14. My husband is in the marine crops and I'm a full time student as well as a stay at home mother. I dont know were the single women get where us married women had to give up everything. I never gave up any of my dreams. I would be doing the same thing as i am doing now if i was single or not. My husband is deploying in march and I will be just as independent and hard working as you single women but probably more hard working. I will have my frist degree and working when my husband comes home as well as a full time mom. This girl that thinks we will be ruled by our husbands is crazy. when my husband gets out of the marine crops then he will stay home with the kids and I will be the full time working parent supporting my husband and kids. We want him to stay at home so he can go back to school and be a full time student. You women who said that they dont need a baby to be happy, never had a baby. the girl that said their mom dosent have to babysit when see comes over never met my family. My mom didnt raised me, my grandma did. and now that I have kids my grandma and mom dont watch them. I dont expect them to. The only time they do is when they ask but i am still there and i dont leave. ~Kendra

I can not tell you how sick I am of hearing the "when are u going to get a man?" question. I feel like society paints this ridiculous picture that having children and having a man is a MUST for women when it isn't. Children and men can be a nice addition to our lives but women need to know that we are complete all by ourselves!