I tivo the tyra show everyday, so I didnt get around to watching the single vs. married show until today. (monday). I was appalled at some of the comments from the single side. One guest in particular stood out. I felt staci, the record producer was just way off base. I am a married mother of 3. I am not against single people, as a matter of fact my best friend is still single. You are not less of a person for being single or married. I felt that she thinks it is impossible to have both married life and your own identity without compromising one or the other. I am a successful business manager. I work 50-60 hours a week with some of that being third shift and some of it being day shift. I find time for my work and my children. The business I am in is thriving. It is ridiculous to think that just because you are a mother and wife, you can not maintain a successful carreer and your independence. I teach my girls to be independent women and follow their dreams but I hope that one day the values they have learned from me will encourage them to also try motherhood. We are powerful women in 2009 and it is ludacris to think you can not do both. I think she may feel complete withour being married and having children but she needs to understand that if her feeling about children changes, it doesnt make her less of a person to be a mother and wife. I am blessed to have a husband that supports my independence and is happy to be by my side as I acheive my dreams. I hope all single women are as lucky as I am. The issue is

Hey Tyra B.,It's Kimberly!! I'm 35 years old,pretty,single,free and not a mother yet but I think about it alot lately, I've never (oops! on the previous post) imagined my life without children but I put my life 1st, got educated (2)degrees, but now I'm a little scared about having a baby(choosing the right guy, etc). Anyway,I've grownup watching Oprah and reading Essence/Seventeen Magazine, Books,etc. in my teenage years and listening to my dear mother and that has help me to make the best decisions for my life. But now I'm at a stand still and not really sure about the "Mommy" adventure,lol,so maybe you can cover a show on women in the 30's trying to decide on "Mommyhood"(if you haven't already) because the clock is ticking and I remember Halle Berry said for young women to not wait to long to start having children as she feels 40 is to long/late. I know Oprah,You, and a lot of other women that have not become mothers and I have friends that think being a mom is a great idea,so I'm trying to decide what should I do? Also, I just want to say that I've watched your show from time to time and now I've decide to watch it more often because it is a really great show and I learn a lot about beauty, relationships and just plain life in general, so I wanted to tell you that I love you and what you do for all us girlie girls, lol!!! MUAHZZZZ

Hey Tyra B.,It's Kimberly!! I'm 35 years old,pretty,single,free and not a mother yet but I think about it alot lately, I've imagined my life without children but I put my life 1st, got educated (2)degrees, but now I'm a little scared about having a baby(choosing the right guy, etc). Anyway,I've grownup watching Oprah and reading Essence/Seventeen Magazine, Books,etc. in my teenage years and listening to my dear mother and that has help me to make the best decisions for my life. But now I'm at a stand still and not really sure about the "Mommy" adventure,lol,so maybe you can cover a show on women in the 30's trying to decide on "Mommyhood"(if you haven't already) because the clock is ticking and I remember Halle Berry said for young women to not wait to long to start having children as she feels 40 is to long/late. I know Oprah,You, and a lot of other women that have not become mothers and I have friends that think being a mom is a great idea,so I'm trying to decide what should I do? Also, I just want to say that I've watched your show from time to time and now I've decide to watch it more often because it is a really great show and I learn a lot about beauty,fashion, relationships and just plain life in general, so I wanted to tell you that I love you and what you do for all us girlie girls, lol!!! MUAHZZZZ

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I didn't get a chance to catch show but I do have a few things to say. What's wrong with being single these days, I do feel there is pressure or a push for women and men to go out there and find a mate either it's a family member or a friend doing so and it's sad. Yeah being with someone steady is wonderful but some others don't feel that way, there life is just as glorious and special the way it is or maybe it's all do to timing, maybe when the right moment comes along ??? Also when it comes to the topic of kids some women are not meant to be mothers some choose not to have to bare children that doesn't make them any less human and believe it or not some of them end up to be more motherly than those who are moms. Now I'm not single nor married but in a commited relationship for 9 years with a 10mth old baby girl, it's great but I can see there point of view and not judge, it's there decision, if being single is what they want, hey, just be the fiercest of them all and dust off all that tell you other wise... No one can sit around playing god and draw up a plan for anyone, if there happy don't mess up a good thing, there is nothing better than seeing some one genuinely happy with the life they have... Just let them be...

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There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be single. There is also nothing wrong with being married and having kids. I am married and can't wait to have kids and couldn't be happier. I have 2 jobs; 1 of them is being a wife. I wouldn't change it for the world. The record producer on the show was just down right RUDE! You want to be single... fine. Why are you being so judgmental about me wanting to be married? I could not believe her!

to claudia and anyone else whos thinks in similar ways, your MOST DEFINETLY not the only one to think that way. absolutley no offense to tyra but tyra you very much do judge .............. alot. and really this show, so contraversial but get this, the whole "im single ill just live life have fun" thing WILL get very old sooner than later. and most women like the ones on the show who oh so stand for "i dont need a man or baby" in ten years will think otherwise.nd end up with a man or baby cause they'll realize how alone they are OR never have a man or a baby but be an old lady who naggs about everything in life and is "fine" with her lifestyle but on the inside is an angry lonley person. any way everyones life is very much there own and everyone is happy in there own ways so cool!

hey tyra hey, i just wanted to say that this segment really helped me out a lot! my mother has had her daycare for almost 11 years now and im getting restless with kids dont get me wrong or anything i love them a lot there really good kids but i know im not going to have kids in the future. i have to deal with them 24/7 literaly we do monday through sunday and i feel like kids control my life i dont get to hang with my friends or go to the movies i can bearly go to work i feel traped and sometime unhappy i feel like i cant be a normal kid because of kids. i dont think i will get married ither because almost everyone i know is re-married or devoriced. my mothers best friend had been married for 20 years and got devoriced. my mother was seperated for 10years and that was really hard on all of us. tyra your show helped me out a lot to see the pros?cons but, do you think its bad that i have a fear of ending up like my mother and all the others? or me not wanting children because of the past experance?

After watching this show i realized that one thing bother me about it. The fact that i feel that you (TYRA) are to quick to judge people. I dont know if this will make sense to other people or if there is someone that feels the same. Dont get me wrong i enjoy watching your show however since you are a role model to such young woman i feel sometimes you judge too quickly. Its little things like for example in this show discussing people who didn't want a baby. The last couple that you presented who had 2 pets. you questioned them about if they had pets and then said im not surprised and said what are their names? and then you said im not surprised either. If you look back at it your guest made this remarkable face like what is that supposed to mean and has i watched the show i wondered the same thing. I felt like you were judging them. I mean almost everybody has a pet. Wether they have a child or not, having a pet doesn't mean or reflect anything about wanting to have a child or not. Also if you really think about it many people name their pets after a "persons" name. I mean there are not a lot of pet names besides sparky. this is not the only occasion you have done this. If i look back at previous episodes for example the episode whats considered good hair and about the three African American girls that were friends it had to do with jealousy. you are too quick to judge on the show. An African American woman didn't like her hair and there was a heated discussion. So what if she doesn't like it. You need to respect her decision

To each her own. I feel like I have been on both sides until I realized and I didn't really want to be an independent woman like that. I'm an only child and so is my mother and I feel like if you don't have kids eventually than what is the point? You are just going to work and go out until you are sixty. Being single and working is fine, but life moves on and the single care-free thing gets old. Like Oprah for instance, I love her to death but I think it's unfortunate that she doesn't have any children to take over her wealth and to learn her values. Seriously, what's the point of working hard if you have no one to give it to?

I have to say I thought that mother and sister who basically (without actually saying it) said they would not accept their sister/daughter unless she had children were horrible. That poor girl. Her mother was basically rejecting her. she should be proud that her daugher is successful and independent. Would she prefer she married the first guy she met, had children and then divorced him. As for the sister who said she was selfish for not letting her be an aunt....ITS NOT ABOUT YOU GIRL... I am 32 and I have recently got engaged but I have no plans to get married for at least 3 years (if at all). I don't need a piece of paper to tell me I am committed or my boyfriend is committed to me. I don't plan to have children because honestly...i don't want my life to change, I want to be free to do and go anywhere I want, I am not going through that agony and pain plus childbirth damages a woman's body beyond repair and i am not letting that happen.