Fri. May 08, 2009 | 3:13 PM

Part 3.

Last week Taimyra talked about how her life has changed since becoming pregnant. Everything has changed. She feels completely alone and like no one understands what she's going through. She has even lost friends over her teen pregnancy.

This week Taimyra is weighing the idea of adoption. Does she want to give up her baby?
Plus, find out her message to teen girls who are actually trying to get pregnant.

Check back Friday for the latest installment of tyrashow.com's teen pregnancy diary. And if you're a pregnant teen and want to share your personal story, click here.


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honestly u shouldnt care about others opinion i had my baby at 19 and now its a year later and im glad i had her shes the best thing to ever happen to me. i also felt alone all my friends left me and yeah i cried for a while, and at one point didnt want to have my baby anymore because i thought my whole life was over. but the day i had her my whole life had just started. yes babies are hard work, and expensive but they can bring a whole lot of joy to your life.teaching ur baby how to walk and talk and eat on her own.look at so many kids waiting to be adopted some are ever teens and still dont have the comfort of a mothers hug. and u might just regret giving your baby away. but thats just my opinion. just know this friends come and go. your true friends wil stand by your side and rush to the hospital when your about to give birth.
Posted by nathalie 05/08/09 5:48 PM
 
I agree with you, you should do adoption if you truly feel in your heart that, that is the right decision. What I don't understand is why you had to drop out of high school. Whether you weren't strong enough to handle the teasing or what you should still go to school especially if you do end up changing your mind and decide to keep the baby instead because you would want to give your baby a good life and the only way to do that is to continue with your education, so you should at least try and get a GED. I see pregnant girls at my school everyday and they still go to school with their head held up high and that is not because they wanted to get pregnant, it is because they have nothing to be ashamed of, yeah they may have gotten pregnant way too young but they are handling their business the best way they can.
Posted by janay 05/08/09 3:59 PM
 
I think she should give it up or she well not beable to do any thing with her life.I m not gothic,hippy or christian I m 100% pagan you knew the people the christians kill off because we where to strong minding for their slavery. I really thank all the dumb little christians should just keep their mouth shut the f up or they well destroy her life.I love kids but I really hate teen moms they are why to youg to mother all their going to do is destroy the babys life and theirs. I well say she is a killer if she keeps the baby because she well kill it life. Tyra you are not helping her you are just making her a weeker femal,just like your self.
Posted by Elizabeth 05/08/09 3:52 PM
 
Taimyra, a child is a blessing you say u dont like kids....but you cant compare other kids with your baby. Is a totally diffrent thing.once you start feeling the kicks, the baby movements u start falling in love with your baby....wait till u see him/her it will be hard to give that child up. your parents support is the best thing u can have, and u dont need a guy in your life to make u and the baby happy. yes, you want a father figure for your baby but you are young ...soon you will meet a guy that is willing too step up and be a good father for your baby... so hopefully you keep that baby....and be there for the first smile, the first bath, the first steps, and many more priceless moments
Posted by arianna 05/08/09 1:52 PM
 
Have you asked the father if what he thinks ??? Hopefully he's around, If He tells you thats its all up to you decide or he's letting you decide, I dont think thats fair. I was 18 when my son was born, just outta high school, He's gonna be a JR this year in high school. Life is a gift, so put it this way ur gonna GIVE AWAY THE BEST GIFT YOU'LL EVER GET ???? Come on.... its not a burger, you just can't order another later when you feel like it. Unless your octo-mom .... just kidding :) I say keep the baby k, good luck and take care, adios
Posted by Hector 05/08/09 1:36 PM
 
Hi Everyone, I am 17 yrs.old going on 18 yrs. On May 26, 2007 I got married. So I had bearly turned 16. My birthday was on May 11. So yea, I got married very young. But let me say I am still very very HAPPILY married. But even though we are going for two years, we are not ready for a kid. && we are married. We are financially stable. So I have a really hard time understand why girls who don't even have a boyfriend, who are still in high school, who are still living with their parents want a baby. It is absurd & crazy!!! Yes, there are girls who don't have none of that & are still GREAT mothers. && i have a lot of respect for you!! but I am pretty sure they weren't planning for it. STOP planning to have a baby. LOVE is not going to support it, it is not going to put food in their little mouths. Tamayra is very brave. It is scary especially when you don't know what to do. Just because you think babies are cute & you can babysit one for a day or whatever. It does not mean that you are ready for a baby. Also the risks that come to a baby's health from being born to a teen mom who's body is still growing. Girls abstinence is the answer. Not birth control pills, not condoms...ABSTINENCE!
Posted by Debora 05/08/09 1:22 PM
 
ok im really scared cause i though i was pregnant but i took a test and it says i wasnt but im not sure if it was tru or not cuz i havent got on my period yet and i jus dont kno what to do if i am its goona b really hard to tell my mom cause she dont even kno that am havin sex...how do u think she will feel if i jus came to her and tell her im pregnant she will b so hurt she will not forgive me for this.i just cant work up the courage to tell her. i just dont kno wat to and im very young and so not ready for this kinda of responisibility
Posted by danielle 05/08/09 1:14 PM
 
its completely different from wanting a baby and from getting pregnant on accident! i got pregant at age 17 and had my daughter at age 18. Taimyra dont give your baby up! because you think that you hate kids right now. wait till that baby comes out it will change your life upside down you are going to fall for that baby! i dont know what i would do without my daughter! i was the same way i never pictured my life with a child at age 18! but it happens. that baby is going to change you in every way like maturity, growing up faster! from what ive seen on the show your mom and dad are going to be there for you! the guy that got me pregnant is now my husband! if the guy doesnt want nothing to do with you or the baby thats his lose! you will have so much support!
Posted by samantha vanderplaats 05/08/09 1:11 PM
 
Taimyra, Forget adoption and start figuring out how you can care for your baby. Surrendering a baby for adoption is not the same as not having a baby. Even if it's an open adoption, you will grieve for your child. You're the one nature intended to raise your baby, not people who paid big bucks to an agency. No matter how nice these people are, they who will not share your child's interests, talents, or looks. Your child will always remember that his mother rejected him at birth no matter how he is told about his adoption. Believe me, I've been there. I gave up my daughter 42 years ago and it still hurts. I know many birthmothers -- and all grieve even though most did not have other options.
Posted by Jane Edwards 05/08/09 12:35 PM
 
I know everyone has their own opinion but right now there are alot of teenage girls getting pregnant and the age is getting younger. Its up to the teen girls to be repectable to themself and responsible. I know sometimes you my feel like nobody doesn't love you or understand you but almost every teen feel that way male or female. I am a teen parent. I got pregnant at the age of 17. I was scared to even go to the hospital to see if i was pregnant but i had to face my fears. I know right then my life would change dramastictly. It's hard rising a child when you living with your parents and no job. Its easy to raise a child with love because you don't have to do anything. I didn't tell anybody that i was pregnant, not even my parents. I did graduate from high school but i wanted to go to college but my child is not in daycare. i don't recommend any teen girl to get pregnant until they feel like it's the right time. PLEASE WAIT. If you do decide to get pregnant and have a baby. be responsible and don't give it up you came too far and did alot of hard work.
Posted by Alicia 05/08/09 12:12 PM
 
with my help me go shopping and come help me if my son sick. its a whole different thing. and for the girls that think they wanna have a baby the time will come when its ment to be it will happen give it time when it is suppost to happen it will let life take its course. (sorry everything is all scattered out i have alot of different feelings for this subject) i have more feeling but i need to think how to write them all down to you thanks tyra we all look up to you give alot of girls hope and strength your a wonderful person and have the best heart!!!! too all those girls out there that are pregnant ... have faith in ur self trust in god! the will help you
Posted by brittany 05/08/09 9:42 AM
 
I think it is her choice on what she wants to do. I was given up for adoption when i was born and I have the best family I could ever imagine. It is a closed adoption unfortunately so I don't know my birth family, but she has the option of doing an open adoption and being able to have contact with her baby and his/hers new family. A lot of people look down on adoption and yes it is hard, but I mean you're young like my parents both were. Do what you think will be best for you.
Posted by Anne Brawley 05/08/09 9:39 AM
 
hi my name is brittany and im 19. I got pregnant when i was 17. i had my son when i was 18. when the doctor told me i was pregnant it was the scariest words i have ever heard. i thought it was the end of my life. now my son is one. and i wouldnt change anything now. it was so difficult going threw all of it the pregnancy and being a mom so young. i wanted to let the girls on ur show kno that it is hard really hard but you just take it one day at a time one min at a time even. it gets easier makes u stronger and its the beginning of a whole new life. when my son looks in my eyes its a whole different love i wouldnt give it up for the world. i feel important now he needs me and depends on me it feels good for some one to need you like that. the other thing i wanted to say is yes u do lose your friends i lost all my friends but one and it was hard none of them wanting to hang out with me cuz i was preganat and even now that i have a kid things are still different im not the first person called to hang out with any more. but its all worth it at the same time ive made new friends now that respect me for the mom i have that look up to me for being so young and raising my son they are there for me in so many better ways then my friends were before. my friends before wanted to chill to go get drunk or something. now my friends will come to the docs with my
Posted by brittany 05/08/09 9:37 AM
 
Adoption is such a beautiful thing. In situations like Taimyra's, I believe adoption can be viewed as a gift from mother to child. She believes she cannot give her child everything it needs and deserves. If she chooses to let her child be adopted by another couple, she would be giving her baby the gift of a loving mother and father. I applaud her for putting her child's interests first!!!
Posted by Sofie 05/08/09 9:25 AM
 
i am 33 years old now but i had my first child when i was 18 and it was the hardest thing i ever did. my second child 3 years later at 21, i love my children but i didn't have any idea what was in store for me. girls need to know that yes you have someone to love and they will love you in return but you need to love yourself FIRST before you can love someone else. but mostly you need to know and understand that the guy has the option to leave you and the baby. you however do not have that option once the baby is created. you may think that your part time job will be enough to take care of that child but it is never enough! your parents, if they are going to, will be supportive but the responsibilty is primarily left on YOU. and babies are cute and cuddly but they grow up and you are not done until they are 18. so you have to be ready to put someone else before yourself for 18 years, not just while they are cute little babies. enjoy your youth and allow yourself to get out of high school first and then hopefully go on to college and live your life before you have to live for someone else.
Posted by Brooke 05/08/09 9:16 AM



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