Fri. May 08, 2009 | 3:13 PM

Part 3.

Last week Taimyra talked about how her life has changed since becoming pregnant. Everything has changed. She feels completely alone and like no one understands what she's going through. She has even lost friends over her teen pregnancy.

This week Taimyra is weighing the idea of adoption. Does she want to give up her baby?
Plus, find out her message to teen girls who are actually trying to get pregnant.

Check back Friday for the latest installment of tyrashow.com's teen pregnancy diary. And if you're a pregnant teen and want to share your personal story, click here.


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Hi, Taimyra I am 46 years old now and I was just barely 17 when I found out I was pregnant the 1st time,I ended up leaving my high school not because of others girls but because of the threats from boy classmates. I did not drop out of school I went to a school just for girls in the same situation. Do they have a school in your area like that?. Most of them are setup so even after you have the baby you can bring the baby to school with you if that's the choice you make.At 26 weeks I went into labor, they could not stop it and my daughter did not survive. I have to live with that. A month after my 20th birthday I had my daughter. For the most part I raised her myself. about 19 months later I was pregnant again and things were not good between my daughters father and I, so I made the choice to end the pregnancy. I have to live with that. When my daughter was 7, I was pregnant with twins or triplets and I had a miscarriage. I have to live with that. My advice to you is no matter what choice you make or the outcome of a situation is you are the one who will have to live with that choice or outcome and no one else. Please find a way to get yourself back in school and make the best informed choice you can. Your mom is right about one thing you can do, no matter the choice but you need to believe in yourself I bet you are stronger than what you think. Best wish to you for what ever choice you make, take care of yourself and the baby. Kammy
Posted by Kammy 05/09/09 8:01 AM
 
Okay i know this is a hard time for you. I am 18 years old and 9 months pregnant. I know you are scared, and you have every right to be. It is a very scary thing having to grow up and care for someone else. But I think it is worth it, because you will have that child's unconditional love. I believe that you can do it. It seems as though you will have your family's love and support throughout this. I know im just one person leaving one comment about your life but i believe that it makes a difference. If you want/feel that you need to give the child up for adoption or keep him/her thats all your choice. You have no one to impress or satisfy but yourself. Dont let others make your decisions for you. I was scared when i found out i was pregnant, because of how young i am but i realized that i made the choice to have sex and this is my consequence and to be honest i couldnt ask for more. people critisize me because i am so young and pregnant, but i just let it go in one ear and out the other and you should do the same. and about the whole friend situation. just think about it, most of them were going to drift off anyways. and if they judge you because you are pregnant then they arent your friends. but if they were in your shoes they would have expected you to be there and support them through it. but like i said just do what you feel is best. make your own decision, and make sure its the one that you want. im not telling you what to do im just voicing an opinion. i
Posted by Judy 05/09/09 7:56 AM
 
I want to say as a teen parent i got pregnant at 16 and gave birth at 17, i am 27 years old now and i can say i NEVER should have had a child so young no girl should. My life has been filled with regret and what if's, I could have and i wish i did! I Had no adult tell me my options or help me towards any other then giving birth and raising my child. The father has been around buts its been alot of ups and downs. i am married now with other children and the separation some times within my own family is difficult. Yes number one we should try to not get in the situation period. But second if someone wants to go for adoption or termination of a pregnancy its an individual choice. There is nothing wrong with adoption if you are young do not feel bad for considering it. you need to think about the rest of your life and there is soo much more living to do at 16 or 17 we think we have no time i guess, so we wanna experience it all. but the truth is the real time to learn about who you are is between 17 and 27 years old. And trying to raise a child before you come into your own is not fair to the baby. Or yourself. Good luck with whatever choice you make but just know it is going to be a very bumpy road and if you do not have an adult who will support you and guide you it will be hard. I am sorry to any teen who gets pregnant i do not wish it on anyone. I know we all want to be loved and feel loved
Posted by Alisha 05/09/09 7:46 AM
 
Before taking the advice of people who don't know you, don't understand the normal range of feelings and fears that birth mothers experience and all of the options that are available to you and your family, I'd recommend looking for an adoption support center. These are different from "agencies" because they and their counselors are not in the "business" of (and don't make money from) placing children. They are there to help you (and your incredibly supportive family) work through this challenging time together. Check out www.adoptionsupport.org - if they're not close to you - call, they can help you find someone good!
Posted by M 05/09/09 5:59 AM
 
I don't have sympathy for your or your situation, cause if you are going to have sex, you should know what the consequences are. Whatever you choose to do will be something you have to live with for the REST of your life, so think long and hard about that!! If you keep the baby though, just be a good mom, and if you ever feel like you can't do it, THEN give them up. Don't be like those young moms lately who want to party, and kick it, that they kill their kids. THINK about this HARD!! Give this child a good life if you keep them, or find a great family who will. Peace and good luck!
Posted by me 05/09/09 12:05 AM
 
keep ur bb,it will b d best tin dat eva happen 2 u.
Posted by ronnie 05/08/09 11:34 PM
 
You know Being a mom is the best thing thats ever happend to me. . .I have been in your shoes before. . .Im 19 I just turned 19 on the 2nd of april and I just gave birth to my 2nd child on the 27th of april. . . Its hard yes at times but i wouldnt trade it for the world. . . I lost friends but that just made me realize who really were my friends. your true friends will stay by your side. . . I promise. . . One of my friends gave her baby up for adoption and she says it was one of the hardest things she had to do. . . she had the baby for 9 months in her heard the first heartbeat felt the first kick. and then when she had to hand over the baby the 3rd day at the hospital she just cried. . . and she regrets it big time. . . really think about it.
Posted by Deziree 05/08/09 10:57 PM
 
girl keep it if you can...it's so rewarding...being a mom is awesome!! =) Good luck and Congrats!
Posted by Niki 05/08/09 10:16 PM
 
okay sweetie reading every ones comments may give you a little insight on what choice u should make... but ultimately the choice is yours u have to live with whatever decescion you make today or tomorrow at this point, and u dont want to regret anything either!!!.... my opion is yeah i know ur scared but would you rather know u chickened out of beign a mommy or would you rather know you gave it your all and u put all your fears a aside and just stuck in there the baby is growing and is almost here if u feel like no one will be there you two will have eachother forever....
Posted by egypt 05/08/09 9:46 PM
 
I agree with Janet how could you tell her to keep the baby Reanna? She is so young and has so much to do with her life please do not tell her to make the same mistakes like you did with your life. I m sick in tired of dumb christians telling her to keep the baby and destroy her life. The only responsible thing to do at her age is to give it up belive me you well reget it if you keep it Taimyra.
Posted by Anna 05/08/09 6:45 PM
 
i think you should so keep the baby. Because it's so worth it and that baby is apart of you and i know evrey one says this but how would you feel i mean just think about all the little kids who go through adoption its not just a place that you go to,to picka kid out its also going through foster care and thats not the most joy ful thing. And ya it will be hard at first to get used to it but from the stuff you said i'm sure your smart enough to make it work :) :)
Posted by Moriah 05/08/09 6:37 PM
 
Ok this is for the girl on top of this page Reanna you told Taimyra do not let any one tell you what to do but what did you do then because it looks like you are telling her what to do. You need to just keep your mouth close, because you sound very dumb. SHE DOES ENT WANT IT!
Posted by Janet 05/08/09 6:31 PM
 
hey u should definitely go back to school just try to finish. in order to support your baby you have to be educated. and dont give up your baby if you do you will regret ot forever. PLEASE just think about it.
Posted by sixela 05/08/09 6:05 PM
 
IM A 17YEAR OLD MOTHER AND TO THINK THAT YOU WANT TO GIVE YOUR CHILD UP IS THE BIGGEST MISTAKE OF YOUR LIFE . I KNOW YOU MIGHT THINK THATS IT HARD AND IT IS BUT, AS YOU GO ON YOU LEARN HOW TO DO IT. YOUR CRAZY TO DROP OUT OF SCHOOL. TO GIVE YOUR CHILD EVERYTHING THAT HE OR SHE NEEDS YOU NEED TO CONTINUE YOUR EDUCATION. IM A JUNIOR IN HIGH SCHOOL AND I GOT PREGNANT MY SOPHMORE YEAR AND I STILL WENT TO SCHOOL. IM GONNA GRADUATE ON TIME THARS ALL THAT MATTERS. I DONT THINK THAT YOU SHOULD DROP OUT WHO CARES WHAT PEOPLE SAY IT YOU NOT THEM
Posted by Reanna 05/08/09 5:54 PM
 
and one last thing dont compare a baby to a damn dog r u for reals?
Posted by nathalie 05/08/09 5:50 PM



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