Considering Adoption

Fri. May 08, 2009 | 3:13 PM

Part 3.

Last week Taimyra talked about how her life has changed since becoming pregnant. Everything has changed. She feels completely alone and like no one understands what she's going through. She has even lost friends over her teen pregnancy.

This week Taimyra is weighing the idea of adoption. Does she want to give up her baby?
Plus, find out her message to teen girls who are actually trying to get pregnant.

Check back Friday for the latest installment of tyrashow.com's teen pregnancy diary. And if you're a pregnant teen and want to share your personal story, click here.

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I got pregnant at 17 and had my beautiful little girl at 18. The father left when I was 6 months pregnant because another girl had his twin boys just a month before and he wanted to be there for them. I took care of myself and my little girl alone 2 months after she was born just to have him show up again. My daughter is going to be 9 months and I just turned 19 today and I am 2 months pregnant again with the same guy. I am getting my associates degree for librarian by this summer and a teachers associates this fall. I am in the process of getting my own place and he says he will be around and of course I'm not confident so I am doing all I can for only me and my children. It is not easy, but it is possible to be a parent. I do not encourage anyone still in high school to get pregnant. In matter of fact I always suggest to young women to wait until they have an education, a home, a job and everything for a child. I never encourage them to do things like that. I am struggling I will admit that, but I will not lower myself and sell my body nor will I give my my life or children. I will work and do all I can to support and give them what they need. I am a mother now and I will do my best for them!

Posted by beka 05/11/09 12:14 PM

Being pregnant at the age of 17 is not a good thing to do because you are only going to spoil up your future.I have a friend her sister got pregnant at the age of 14 and she was drop out of school and when she reach 16 she have another baby and she could not maintain the kids so she had to sell her body which is not good for her and the chidren, so am advising all teen to be carefull of what they are doing

Posted by Sue-lee Edwards 05/11/09 11:52 AM

hi i am ahlem of algeria i'm very fan to tfe emission tyra.

Posted by ahlem 05/11/09 11:24 AM

Hey, a baby is not the worst thing that can happen. Have your baby, be a proud mother.

Posted by Tia 05/11/09 8:39 AM

To the person that said she has never been pregrant. How do you know until you walk in a the life of a pregrant person. Responsible is only half the issue, will she be along,is the babies father around will she have the support of her family,will they have a safe place to stay when the baby is born. Responsibles isn't in just keeping your child. But doing whats best for your child. Giving up the baby isn't always the best thing for the mother but in some cases it's the best thing for the child.

Posted by Camille McMillan 05/10/09 8:27 PM

hey girl, i became a mom at 18. IT'S HARD BUT NOT IMPOSSIBLE!! the best thing for your baby is YOU! that way you'll care for him/her the way he/she deserves! Hey don't let me or anyone else influence your decision just think about what's best for your beautiful baby. think about what you would do if you DID give it up...what would you do then? what would be your reasons? so that you could continue partying and hanging out with your friends? and if you decided to keep it...would it be for the best of the child or because it makes you feel less guilty? God will never give you a situation you can't handle if my opinion means something keep and love your child YOU CAN DO IT!

Posted by vanessa 05/10/09 6:39 PM

Hey Taimyra, I am 24 and I was just like you, 17 when I was pregnant with my first baby. I felt the same way scared out of my mind, and lost friends, and felt alone in the situation. Fortunately, I later felt a bond with the baby later on when I started to see the belly grow...I still was scared and many first time moms feel the same! I think wait until after you see your son or daughter and look at your baby and realize that, they are you!! Yes it will be hard but stay in school and if there is a will(your new baby) there will be a way! I have a beautiful 5 year old daughter that calls me mommy and loves me unconditionally! Something you will never find in anyone else. You will gain strength and wisdom from this..Sooner or later when you are older you might have another child and you will feel regretful that, you kept that child and not your first born. This new baby will help you grow and become a real strong woman. Keep your head up, this baby, if you choose to keep it, will be there for you forever.

Posted by Exandra 05/10/09 6:32 PM

I think you should take responsibility and not spread your legs. You knew the consiquences before you started. and why were you hanging out with older men at an after party when you should have been in bed. I know plenty of teen mothers that continued high school and kept their jobs! This to me sounds like you wanted to have child and collect a paycheck! Easy way out is all this sounds like. You should consider adoption!

Posted by Brittnay 05/10/09 6:23 PM

well i'm not a pregant teen but i think u should be responsible for your actions

Posted by tabrika allen 05/10/09 5:41 PM

well i'm not a pregant teen but i think u should be responsible for your actions

Posted by tabrika allen 05/10/09 5:39 PM

Sweetheart life is a learning process Dont let this take over your life yes it is hard but you have to let this make you a stronger person I was pregnant at 17 and had my child at 18. Yes my friends had things to say but they arent my friends now when things like that happen you see who is in your corner. Have your baby and dont let it stop you GOD makes no mistakes please hold your head up and let the sun shine through and live each day for the future you cant change what you have done but you can change what you do. A teen parent who didnt let it stop her.

Posted by Alexis 05/10/09 3:43 PM

Hey! I got pregnant at 17 and had her at 18. The father left me when he found out i was pregnant, and i knew i couldnt give her the life that i wanted her to have. I adopted her to a family friend , they are amazing, they love her soo much and they still let me see her. If you consider adoption, there are ppl that will let you see the baby, just look. Though you do have to have an extremely strong mind to do adoption. It hurts, its really hard, i cry a lot,and i have breakdowns a lot, but i know it was for the best for her. W.e you choose , will be a good decision, either way the baby will have love! Just remember you have to think of what is best for you and the baby!

Posted by elizabeth 05/10/09 2:30 PM

hi tyra i really love your show and i think that u r a good person. The best thing that i like the most about your show is how you deal with the teenagers cause I'm a teen myself and just siting at home watching your show it encourages me to talk to my friends about the great ideas and views you give to the young girls and even boys on how to deal with their issues.

Posted by Natifa Shepherd 05/10/09 10:51 AM

hi tamyra,God has a purpose for u and ur kid so try n keep it.it wouldnt be easy but it will be worth it in the end.never commit dat mistake again that is, NO ERECTION WITHOUT PROTECTION.stay blessed.

Posted by abena,Ghana 05/10/09 6:03 AM

when ever possible i would advice you 2 stay in school....it is always a good back up and foundation. It will be hard, but you can do it...and you know what once you accomplish something you think would have been hard hard..you will be very proud of yourself...think of it..how would like be without a challenge? would u ever feel accomplished?

Posted by Jonnelle 05/10/09 5:04 AM