i watched your video made me cry... i was a foster child til i was 7yrs old. my grandma adopted me but she passed away when i was 15 i had to live with my aunt then. it wasn't so great. when i turned 17 she kicked me out on the street i had no where to go. and now at 18 i'm just meeting my mom. I guess why i'm writin is to tell you that children know cause i knew i used to cry and ask my foster parents why my mom didn't want me. if adoption is the way you're going to go think about open adoption so you will get to she the child and have pictures and when the day comes everyone you and the foster parents can sit down together and tell him/her everything that needs to be said. then him/her will know that you loved them very much not to just drop them off and leave you've been there with them every step of the way. take care!! it's all on you no one can do this for you. don't let anyone make this decision for you.

I typing this because of what a comment said about giving you baby up for adoption. THat child may wonder why you gave them up but they will always know that you loved them enough to not abort them. that even if they can't forgive them that you gave them up because you want them to have a better life then what you could give and a life to boot. I know if my mother gave me up i might not liked it but glad to know she loved me enough to want beter for me. besides you can leave you name so when the child is old enough to find you they can and their are way to contact that child if wanted

Does anyone know why she "had" to drop out of school? I was just wondering. I was in college till i was 6 months along and i had my daughter August 4th of last year. I plan on going back to school in the fall but i've seen girls and women that still go to school when their pregnant. Might i add that i had morning sickness for about the first 4 months

Remember one thing young lady there will be times when you are wanting to go out with friends once the baby is here your baby comes first, your parents are not babysitters. That statement is only applied to you if you decided to keep the baby, if you don't there will be days when you will think of his/her birthday, are they in good hands, once that child is older you question your decision if you ever could see that child how do you explain why you put him/her up for adoption. Now once that child is grown there is info they can't give a doctor such as if cancer, diabetes runs in your family because they don't know, the reason I know I'm adopted, but the parents that raised me are the only parents I know and LOVE and my parents told me the truth from the day they felt I could understand why my mom gave me up. I don't regret or hate, but it would be nice to know what my mom & dad look like do I have brother & sisters that may not know I exist. I had a good childhood and the only child, yes spolied(lol) you decide if you are ready for the responsible choir ahead, your time is not your own once the baby is here. I will pray for you and whatever decision you make, don't let anyone tell you that this is or is not what you should do, only you know YOU. Lv Ya, Lady D from Houston,TX.

hey I just watched your video and I want you to know that your baby is going to be the highlight of your day. I found out I was 2 months pregnant a year ago when I was 18 and I had less then a month left of high school. My parents were so dissapointed they had other plans for me, I mean I did to I wanted to go to college and play volleyball, but ofcourse that wasn't going to happen. I'm very lucky though my boyfriend was happy and me and him were in love so worked out. Now me and him are married and my daughter is 5 months old. My parents became very supportive and gave me and my husband a wonderful wedding and they there grandaughter very much. I do agree with you though, teen girls don't need to be worrying about getting pregnant and having boys around all the time, they need to be focused about school. Eventhough I said i'm happy with my life teens need to understand that it's not always going to work out the way they want it to. And sweety i'm not going to lie to you it's going to be very hard because your going to be responsible for another life. That means no more going out with friends all night and oh yeah you'll learn who your real friends are after you have the baby. But I promise you giving all that up for your baby is going to be worth it I swear it's an amazing feeling holding your baby for the first time. Just stay strong and remember your that childs mother and thats something no one can take from you.

When you have the baby in your arms, it is so much different. Do not let anyone tell you that you cannot do it. Do not let anyone tell you that you wont make it. Friends, if they are true they will be around. If not, F*** them. I lost every single friend. they still text me and say, hey i wnat to come over and see you and Nat, they never text me when the time comes, they never show up. They all know where i live. I sent out 60 invitations to my baby shower, i only had 15 people show, half of them did not get an invite and were family friends from both sides that came for her grandparents. I say that now friends dont matter, if they are going to leave me because i had a baby, forget them, to me its not a big deal. yea i do have different responsibilities now, but that does not mean they cannot come over and hang out. Well, im still trying to get over it, because it still happens. You will not forget to feed the baby or change it. It will cry until you do it, so there is not way to forget. Once you have her you will want to spoil her. I never thought that i would ever want to buy diapers or formula, but now its so different, i want to spend my money on her. Yes i do want to spend it on myself but for some reason i make sure she has everything she needs and wants before i even think about buying the scale i want to see if im losing the baby fat. It is different and you will love being a mother!

I watching this video of you when you first hear your baby heart beats inside you..Makes me miss those day when my baby was inside me...And also on what you said you what your grandma said..I agree with here...when you have the baby it is differents...A baby is a bless..so be bless that you have the baby..and love and cherish the baby as much as you can, because it is all worth it at the end..Believe what your family said..And like I say A BABY IS A BLESS

i belive that you shouldnt put your baby up for adoption because when your child gets older youe child may not forgive you for what you have done....all i have to say is once you had layed down on your back to have sex you shouldve been prepared for the out come of what may happen

Hey! I think your a smart & beautiful young girl. Just go with your heart. Everything will be okay :]

Hey girl... i kinda know what ur going trough..im 16 years old..i lost my virgrinity at the age of 14..me and my boyfriend were together for 2 years and wen i was 15 i got pregnent..unfortunatly i had a mis carige and even though i was young, i cryed a lot for that baby..i know a baby is a big responsability and something that you are going to have for the rest of your life..but its also a huge blessing to be able to creat a life and to have their life in your hands..its only up to you to give your baby in adoption..i know its hard but a baby is a lot of responsability and u got to dicide the best for him..if your not willing to try your hardest to give that baby the best..than its better for u to give your baby to someone that will be willing to give him a good life...girl i really know what your going to and really tink about the desicion your going to take because there is no turn back!!! xoxo

Watching your clip brought huge alligator tears to my eyes, being a BM or natural mother who is now in reunion for the past 13 years now and has opened my eyes wider after 32 yrs of studying adoption, and the LIFE LONG damage it causes. I am now ademently against Adoption, as the only winners are the agencies for the money they collect, while ruining everyone else's lives. Back in the day I was single, scared, unprepared, unsupported and wanted to keep my baby, my mom and the rest of my family shunned me, pushed me far away, allienated me. (still do even today). I was thrown a curve ball in the hospital the day my daughter was born with my mother coming there, announcing to me that arrangements had been made for the best interest of my bastard child and telling me that I was a disgrace to her reputation and ruining our family name, and that she would disown me for wanting to keep my own Bstrd child. I ordered her out of my hospital room, upon preparing to leave the hospital, I discovered my baby was GONE.My mother had succeeded! Adoption was "their" option and it ruined my life and the life of my daughter's from that day forward, even after being in reunion our wounds will not heal, for either of us, my child acts out against me with a desire to punish me even after being told my story, in her subconcious mind she still does not want to believe it, and feels like I did not fight hard enough to keep her. On the other hand She and I are also very happy we connected, ( as I searched for her for 21 yrs until that day I found her post online looking

I'm a 30-something woman in California. I was adopted by "nice middle class people". By society's standards I was raised in a good home and given everything I wanted. But I never felt connected to my adoptive family. I often have dreams where I am crying and wailing for my mother... my first mother. I haven't spoken to the adoptive family in over 15 years. Honestly, I think that I would have been better off growing up in an orphanage or having been aborted. Please don't believe all the myths about adoption being the best solution. It's often not the case.

hey my name is tiffany, i got pregnant wen i was 15....i was told i could never get pregnant and that hurt me more than anything in this world but when i got that news i didnt care about my body anymore and end up bein with more guys than i had in mind...i lost my virginity at 14 and was pregnant by 15...it changed my life big time and sometimes i wish i could have the time alone again like i did before but when i get sad i realize the only thing i want is to hold my baby boy...when u feel as if everyone turned their back on you, you know that they will always love you no matter what and that those people are imature and were never there to start with...my real friends were there when i gave birth and i couldnt have been more happier and the ppl i was mean to even showed up...you cant let the words they say seperate u from the blessin rite n front of you just simply look down and you'll see that wat seems like a burdin really is something to pull you on your feet trust me!!! and when you get to the hospital and give birth do you really wana hand it to someone else to take and never return do you want some one else lovin the angel you help create??? if so thats not fair to the one growin in you! PLEASE STOP..thinkin about the affects of what it will do to you and think just do that 4 me think...i know i dont kno you and you dont know me but i was n your shoes once and i thank myself everyday 4 givin it the chance!! love matters babe.....

I lost my baby to adoption when I was 16. That was 50 years ago and I still think about her and miss her every day. The grief never goes away. Adoption is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You are young now, but you won't be forever. There is support available for you to be able to keep your baby and continue your education. Good luck, dear girl. Your baby needs YOU, not a stranger.

Hey Girl, I just wanted to tell you that I'm a birthmother so I know what you're going through! I noticed your considering adoption but PLEASE do some reading and research before making such a huge decision. I chose adoption for my son and I regret it 100%. Please email me if you have any questions! If you would like an insiders peek to what the life of a birthmother is like please check out the birthmother forums on Www.Cafemom.com there you can talk to birthmothers and post about your questions and concerns. Please don't hesitate to email me! There are resources out there to help you keep your baby. I know SO many teen moms and SO many birthmothers and all I can tell you is that every teen mom I know has NEVER regretted keeping their child, but every birthmom I know HAS regretted giving away their child. The pain is SO real and so deep, and you never just "get over it". I'm here for you!!! -Lillian