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We all have a choice.

Unless you've been under a rock, you've heard all the praise surrounding the movie Slumdog Millionaire. One of the most fascinating aspects of the film is actually the soundtrack and the story of its composer, A. R. Rahman. He won two Oscars for his work on the score and when accepting his second award, his words were short and to the point: "All my life I had a choice of hate and love. I chose love and I'm here." Powerful words to be sure, but what do they mean?

For me, it's quite simple. Everyday we have the opportunity to be positive or negative influences in our universe. Each day we are confronted with the chance to build up and support or knock down and destroy. Which course do you take?

When your BFF comes to you with an idea she is extra excited about. Do you quickly point out all flaws and why it will never work, or do you tell her it's awesome and ask how you can help her make it happen? Love or Hate? A co-worker announces that she's getting married and enthusiastically shows her ring. Do you let them know you're happy for them, or do whisper to colleagues that the ring probably is fake? Love or Hate? You are super close with your sister and she gets an amazing job offer across the country. Do you give her a major guilt trip trying to get her to stay (after all, you would never choose a job over her), or do you send her off with your best wishes and a big party? Love or Hate?

We are constantly given these opportunities to choose and the path you choose has an impact not only on you, but those you interact with. Just think about how differently we receive someone that flashes a smile instead of a scowl. Now think of living your life as that smile.

But make no mistake; this is NOT the 80's mantra "don't worry, be happy." Acting with love doesn't mean that you view the world through rose colored Chloe's and act as if our troubles and conflicts don't exist. That would be silly. Choosing love allows us to act in affirmation. To support and love, but to also protest and demonstrate. To lift someone up, but to also let someone know what he said wasn't cool. When I express outrage at the BART police, question Washington politicians or criticize Wall Street bankers, it is not because I hate those institutions. My motivation comes from a love of justice and respect for the human community.

So what does it mean to walk in love? It means support your friend, congratulate your co-worker and be happy for your sister. It means, love and respect yourself while respecting others around you and the space they occupy. It means thinking about how to make things better while understanding that someone else's success doesn't insure your failure. It also means confronting injustice, standing up for what's right and realizing that hate only destroys the hater.

Choosing this path doesn't make you weak. Truly, only those of the strongest character can choose love every time. I am not there yet (especially when I'm behind the wheel, it's very hard to find love there!) and just like you, each day I have the opportunity to do better. Everyday I have the choice between love and hate. Today, I choose Love.

Al Butler is the host of the popular radio show "Al B! In the Afternoon..." where he is known for his unique perspectives, sharp humor and strong opinions. Discouraged by their indifference, Albert calls on the twenty-something crowd to step out, step up and get moving. He'll challenge you to not just call for change, but to actually be the difference you wish to see in your society and the global community. This is his call to action.



 
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why does love make us do crazy things? love blinds us from reality. what we see as good, others see as bad. love makes us trust a stranger come into our lives and take over our heart. love allows us to believe that another person can make us feel happy and complete, so is love worth taking a risk? i took a risk and all it has done is fail...
 
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hi tyra i am jennie i am soon to be 24 i have been with my husband for almost 5 years we have 2kids one is not his but you wouldnt be able to tell he is the only real dad she has ever known... we started havin finacial isues and have slipped a lot in our spritual relationships we need help and he is a hard one to talk to... one day he loves me and we are goin to work thing out and i am tryin so hard and i love him with all my heart i want no one else..... i dont know what to do you always give out good advice and have many friends that are very knowledgable in this area my family needs help
 
Choosing love is more than a conscious decision to just love, it's showing that love by supporting not just offering a "congratulations" here or there. Loving is helping someone achieve their dreams and that is what I am here to do, and I am going to make an even greater effort to show that support as a direct result of this dialogue. Great blog!
 
Hi Tyra, i am Destiny from Nigeria i always watch your show on mnet and i like it.I have a degree in Electrical and Electronic Engineering. Tyra i am into a relationship right now, but she want me to always pay the bill, i can just let her go because i love her; please tell me what to do
 
out of all the things becky's mother said, one thing stuck to me. she said that after the police put the black light on carl's residence, they found blood. the blood was circumstantial. blood is never circumstantial. it is always concrete. why? because it's DNA evidence. it's as good as a confession. if the police found blood and carl was never arrested, it leads me to believe that they found no reason to arrest him. the police don't just let people go when blood is found on a crime scene. Also she i don't remember hearing anything about hospital records or police reports about carl beating becky. did it happen, who knows. but the law can be of no service to you without some sort of evidence. especially when you are accusing somebody of murder. the police obviously had nothing to charge the man with. notice he did'nt die in prison.



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