Tue. Mar 31, 2009 | 12:21 PM

Do traditional dating rules still apply?

Is it okay for a girl to ask a guy out on a date? Should you always expect the guy to pay?

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HEY IF I SEE PEOPLE WEARING COOL STUFF SHOULD I WEAR IT BECAUSE PEOPLE JUST STARE WHEN I DONT HAVE AND THEY DO???
Posted by JENNIFER 11/19/09 3:54 PM
 
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Posted by Bayjchly 07/13/09 4:47 PM
 
Good Day, My belief on this is that a woman would be wise to be with a man who is willing to front the bill. It says a lot about the man. But when you take a man out (as I have done before) she should pay. But massage his ego also. What I do is give him the money or my card so that it appears to others "in public" that he paid. What I noticed about women (especially being one) is that we can tend to strip away a man's ego: Especially if we are independent and have our own success stories. We can do it unknowingly. Some men feel uncomfortable with allowing women to pay for their meals. Not for insecurities but simply due to his beliefs. So if I pay, I've always given it to him when no one notices and the waitress is gone. So I believe in paying but it's when, why and how I pay that I recommend.
Posted by Edwina 06/04/09 8:57 PM
 
If you just started dating, then he should pay. After a few dates, a girl should offer to pay, and later on when you're in a relationship, you share the expenses.
Posted by missy 06/03/09 3:32 PM
 
My boyfee and I go out every weekends. And it's like a dinner-movie-coffee date every now and then. WE EITHER SPLIT BILLS or he buys the movie tickets and I buy the lattes. I just want to show him that I'm not too dependent on him. :)
Posted by LIZ 06/01/09 9:36 AM
 
Thank you Rebecca! I am very independent and I dont believe I should be spoiled by a man but I do believe that a guy should ask a girl out and should pay! I love when I know a guy is willing to go after me. I feel no satisfaction in the relationship if I am the one who initiated it! How do I know he is even into me if he didn't do anything to get me? Also, I see that guys like to chase girls and if we just give it to them, they often lose interest, just my personal observation from my past experiences.
Posted by Laurel 05/30/09 10:01 PM
 
i think whoever does the asking should pay for the date.
Posted by CYNTHIA 05/29/09 11:46 AM
 
hello. well actually i have a question. well my dad just found out that i have a boyfriend. weve been together for 3 months. and before my dad knew we were together i would go over to his house and see him. Now that my dad knows he wants josh to come over here. well he has came over and he didnt really feel comfortable so i asked my dad if i could go over to his house and at first he said okay if i bring my little sister but now he says no. and you know my dad says that josh should come over if he cares about me but I DONT like it when hes over and i really want to know how i could get my dad to just let me go over to his house. And really theres only girls there and a his brother. but hes never there so idk what to do tyra can you please help me. and my dad is really traditional I REALLY HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO!! :\
Posted by antonia jimenez 05/18/09 7:03 PM
 
I am 25 I have a volunter job looking a paying job. so i get money for my dad. when i go out with friends or my guy friend he payed for ice skating then I payed for starbucks after ice skating. when we go out for lunch something yes he does pay. but i payed for concert tickets for the both of us. i was willing pay for school dancei invited him to but he didn't like idea me paying $60 for both us. any way i just went to the dance while he stayed at school and work. so i do agree does go 50 50 when was in high school i was out going person and still am with some guys wasn't affried to ask guy out on a date
Posted by Aaliyahlauren@yahoo.com 05/08/09 10:00 PM
 
if he loves me hez gonna pay and also if he invited mehh but most of the guys dont do it
Posted by Graciie 04/22/09 10:36 PM
 
POSTED BY SHIRLEY: This is what's wrong with the world. "Equal" does not mean "the same." Men and women are DIFFERENT. Shocking, this I know. We each have different needs and roles. The gender lines are becoming completely blurred because of these women who are so "independent" and "fierce" that they can take care of themselves. I ask you, what is so wrong about having a guy ask you out? Or, pay most of the time? CHIVALRY is so beyond dead and we have the feminists to thank. Men need to feel like men. Period. 100% agree! :)
Posted by Rebecca 04/15/09 10:03 PM
 
i dont belive that the guy should pay they should slit it
Posted by cathy 04/15/09 8:11 AM
 
Yes........ I think MEN should pay all the time, for dates n certain occations... when u see he's all there 4 u paying for everything and caring... then thats wen U,,,, US girls come n and share.. 2 be equal 2 each other .... I «luV» tyRa
Posted by V.Elly 04/14/09 1:36 PM
 
YES!!! gentlemen should always pay for like dinner and dates. except if she is taking advantage of him like making him pay for $1000 purses.
Posted by l 04/13/09 5:30 PM



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