Kiss and Tell

Would you tell your best friend if their BF/GF was cheating?

Uh-oh. You caught him red handed. There's no denying that your bestie's boyfriend is cheating on her, the only question is -- do you tell her? It's not an easy load to bear and it's hard to decide what to do.

To tell or not to tell?

If You Do, the Pros & Cons:
If you decide to tell her, obviously the pro's are that she will have the truth and ability to do with it what she will. Also, the lie that he's telling her doesn't infect your relationship with her. It is important to remember one thing about confronting her, though -- she might not be ready to believe it. Be prepared for the truth to hurt -- the both of you.

If You Don't, the Pros & Cons:
Some might just opt to mind their own business in this case. If the risk of ruining your friendship is too much for you, then it might be better to stay out of it. The downside is that if she finds out that you did in fact know about this, there may be no repairing your friendship.

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Most definitely yes I would tell him/her. If they are truly your friend, how could you not tell them. Just in case they do not believe you, show them proof. A picture is really worth a thousand words.

Posted by Kerri 03/07/09 11:18 AM

hell naw i wouldnt, and have an enemy? id first tell the cheater to break up with that person then if that person dont listen ima open ma mouth. sex is free rite now its everywhere so cheating is just as normal as login in to your myspace. it also depends witch friend it is. im not to close wit all off them just a couple.

Posted by alexander 02/19/09 10:46 AM

I just found out that I had been cheated on , months after it happened. I reccommend that you tell you bff that it happened so that they can get on with there life. Don't let them live a lie thinking that there life is all happy and roses when it's not. It's a horrible thing to do especially when you find out that you are the only one that doesn't know, and everyone is tiptoeing behind your back. Always tell!!

Posted by Ginger 02/19/09 4:30 AM

heyYah i hav dis friend nd shes one of my closet friends she went out wif dis guy nd dis guy was cheating on her behnd her back wif her own sister. who does daht! i wuldnt want daht to happen to meh.

Posted by caroline matalave 02/18/09 1:37 PM

stay out of it. Unless there is hard evidence, pictures, and hella details. Stay out. Sometimes (much too often) people shoot the messenger when they hate they hate the message. Maybe a better course is to drop hints, and indirectly plant the seeds of doubt so that the BFF takes a hard look at their partner & "discovers" the transgressions on their own. As a general rule I stay out of people's affairs. I don't butt in when times are good, so why should I butt in when times are bad? And be the bearer of bad news. The truth will eventually come to light.

Posted by art_hustler 02/18/09 12:01 PM

I would definitely tell my best friend if i found out her bf was cheating on her. From personal experience i know what its like to be cheated on and its something you just need to know whether or not you like it so you can face the truth and decide where to go from there.

Posted by jocelyn 02/18/09 11:34 AM

I've told a friend and she thought I was lying to her. So now I honestly don't even get involved with their relationship. When she tries talking about how she just got in a fight with her boyfriend I tell her I don't even want to hear it.

Posted by Rizz 02/18/09 10:59 AM

I would definitly tell my friend about the cheating guy or girl, cuz I would want the same thing to happen to me if my guy was cheating on me.

Posted by Kerr Lynne 02/18/09 8:21 AM