that's scott's storch baby mama! She real cute..........

this message is to Tasha Anner. i think you should pop the Question to your boyfriend since you have a Daughter together, and it sounds like to me, you both love each other, and you have been together for 6-1/2 years. so again i say YES you should pop the Question to him. and if he is afraid of being married. ask him why and do whatever you can to help him be more comfortable. that's what i would do. and if he still dose not want to get married. then i think that's ok too. because you both still have each other and your daughter. and your ok with things the way they are right now? then i think that's great. Good Luck to you and your family.

I don't think women should push the issue marriage is very important but pushing marriage will only end in divorce if your man isn't ready ask him why if he's scared help him be comfortable but don't make him pop the question, He will end up leaving you or cheating men don't like to be pushed to do anything.

I have more of a question than a comment. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 1/2 years and we have a 1 year daugther together (my one and only child).I want to get married, should I pop the question?

Hey Miss J. How are you? I hope this is the Miss J. from ANTM. YOU'RE THE GREATEST! I love all of you guys. I'm VERY familiar with the lyrics. Again, I'm not impressed, nor empowered. That's like having Paris Hilton singing about the virtues of holding onto your virginity,while shaking her butt at us. LOL. I see so many little girls singing the song and shaking their fingers AND wiggling their butts. LITTLE GIRLS (under 18). They're too young to understand relationships. They're lickin' their lips and wigglin' their hips, in 3rd and 4th grade, right? These little girls grow into women. As John Mayer sang in his song Daughters, "...girls become lovers/who turn into mothers..." If you haven't gotten your ring, then simply move on. Have faith in yourself, not someone else to define you.

Men just don't understand how important this topic is, do they?

I Have never been in this situation. So I can't say I relate Sorry ya'll. But I have been in the opposite........I have been engaged twice! and from both of them I decided to walk out........is there something wrong with me??? In both of my situations I have felt somewhat pressured and i just run the other way.

ok, I have been married for 5 1/2 years now and I can honestly say that there is actually no difference between being boyfriend and girlfriend and husband and wife which leads me to my question....why is marriage such a big deal for women? I believe that women who are super pressed to get married are really insecure cause the truth of the matter is all marriage does is issue a consequence for no longer wanting to be with someone. Its like the woman is saying," I want to lock you down now while I can so it wont be easy for you to leave if you decide you don't want me anymore!" So what happens is people stay in marriages that they are unhappy in because the cost of leaving is too great. The anxiety of that alone is enough to make men choose to stay single. As a woman, why would you want to trap someone into staying with you? Thats sick!

Hey Tyra, my situation is sort of similar and different than Daylene's and Michael's. My fiance, Scott and I have been together for only 3 months now and the day after our first encounter (not sexual) I knew he was the man I had been looking for my whole life. He too felt the same way and proposed Dec 19. Now here's the problem, I want to go through the process of planning and throwing a wedding and Nov 13, 2010 is the date we have set, but Scott wants to go do it now at the justice of the peace. He keeps giving little hints that that is what he wants but I absolutely cannot do it that way. I want to live the fairy tale and be the beautiful bride. What should a girl do when her man wants to run to the justice of peace instead of to the altar???

I can't believe what I just heard!!! I was watching the show today more as background noise than anything and they were talking about how one gentleman has told his lovely lady he would have a baby with her, but hes not ready for marriage. Tyra made a comment about how she didn't understand that beacuse a child is a responsibility forever, but "if you don't want to be with anybody 'snip,snip, peace'!" THAT IS AWFUL!!!! That is the kind of attitude that has helped to raise the divorce rate in this country so significantly. People with this attitude condone giving up when times get bad, or when the fire is gone. This is the kind of attitude I cannot stand in people! Marriage is FOREVER!!! how many people say in their wedding nows they promise to love honor and obey until I don't feel like it anymore??? NO!!! You make that promise til death do us part! When times get tough you work together, you find a way to make things better, you support each other! You don't drop each other! She is talking to people about getting their man to propose and making it sound ok to marry them now and leave them later!!! TYRA!!! This is the wrong way to get people to listen to your opinion!!! watch what you say, you have a lot of infulence over the women of the country, mostly the young ones getting ready to enter into a marriage or thinking about getting engaged... this is not the attitude to promote in this society! Get it together and watch your comments and opinions!!! Marriage is a sacred commitment! There should be no "Snip, Snip, Peace" unless there is some dangerous situation! Get it together Tyra!

I missed part of this show...can someone fill me in or tell me where I can find the full show clip? Reason I'm so interested in seeing it is because this topic really hits home for me. I've been with my boyfriend for 9 years, and I'm still waiting for him to pop the question. I've read some of the comments on here, and I just have to say that getting your man to pop the question is different for everyone. While some people are comfortable waiting till the time is right and others can't help but give their boyfriend the ultimatum, it's a subject that a lot of people like to talk about. Unfortunately for me, the only talk I hear about it in relation to my relationship is when family members and friends ask me when the big day is. I don't know when the big day is, I can't tell you when I think the big day is, and I can't tell you why I don't know when the big day is. What's hurtful and troubling about my relationship is that I'm actually happy, and my boyfriend and I often open up conversations about marriage...almost every day in fact. I'm not always the one that brings it up...I truly believe it's something we both dream of. He's seen me in tears from the pressure I get from my family and friends to get married, the loss of words I have from not having any answers, and the aching desire to see myself fulfilled in marriage. So I don't understand...why string me along? He tells me he wants it to be a big surprise, but when do you stop eagerly awaiting this so-called big surprise? When is it too much? The only burning question remaining in my heart

Hey Tyra, So my man HAS put a ring on it, but wants to now wait 3-4 years until we get married; why he asked ?? HELP. We have been together for 3 years, lived together for 13 months, and have now been engaged for 8 months. I have not pressured him at all. Now what.

Everyones a critic!! Shame on all of you who are judging people without the whole story and without walking a mile in their shoes! I think 3.5-4 years is a great time frame for knowing someone, ecspecially when they lived together for most of it. One year, maybe a little too soon... but not close to 4. And from the show it doesn't look like she even brings up marriage, so the pressure is not there. Grow up people. seriously, Think before you write and click POST!!!!

Women need to stop pressuring men into marriage when you try to force someone into marriage it makes the relationship go bad and thats when you get those late night calls from other women and your man starts acting strange. Three years is no time your still getting to know a person wait as long as you can try subtle hits but dont make it an everyday conversation. Trust you'll do a damn good job of runnin your man away if you pressure him. One more thing if he never says anything about it he maybe scared or never wanted a wife in the first place or waiting for money and the right time.

I can't help but notice how sad it is that people resort to hating on other successful black women...yes i'm talking about BEYONCE who's doing a fine job. If anyone really LISTENS to the song...and I mean-like listen to the words... you'll see she said "you decided to dip and now you wanna trip cuz another brother noticed me..." not "if you want to stay with me, then you need to marry me right now"...But that's how we "sisters" are...we don't get anywhere because we hate on the successful ones too much. Yes, beyonce does a bit of shaking and dancing, but that's a part of the job-ALL of her songs are woman empowerment songs...from "me myself and I", to "Irreplaceable" to even "Put a Ring on it"....if she wasn't so beautiful I'm sure the fellas would hate her because their women actually quote her (I'm sure you sisters have quoted the 'to the left to the left' at least once!)...but overall she's positive entertainment. No one's perfect, but I believe that she does fine. But just a memo for the ignorant parties that continually trash her songs, her entertainment, her performances, here's a tip-listen to the words next time, think a little further, and make sure you're not just jealous!!!