Tue. Jan 20, 2009 | 2:09 PM
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You might be a player hateHER if you do any of these:

-You hold back employment opportunities from her because you might want to check out the job.

-You never, ever compliment her.

-You refuse to let her meet your new boyfriend.

-You're out at a bar and a cute guy comes up to talk to your friend. When she goes to the bathroom you tell the guy your friend has a boyfriend and start flirting with him instead.

-Your friend gets a new job and instead of going out to celebrate with everyone you make up an excuse so you can ditch the festivities.

-You've slammed her outfit repeatedly- - but that didn't stop you from going out and getting an exact replica for yourself.

-When she told you she got promoted, you dismissed it and dove in to a story about your own latest, greatest moment.

Tell us: Are you a Player HateHER?


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I do have to say that the girl who was making her best friend chose over her or her brother must have a jealousy issue. Even though she claims to be very happy in her relationship with her boyfriend theres something with it that is making her jealous. I am 24 and have a best friend who I've known since we were 5 yrs old. I've known this girl almost 20 yrs and can honestly say tyhat if she wante to date my brother who is a year and a half younger than us I'd be happy for them. Maybe this girl needs something more important to stress about that her friend and brother being happyh with eachother.
Posted by Erin 01/21/09 6:05 AM
 
RE: JESSKAH AND LAUREN--I am Jesskah's mom and I've been reading the comments. The show was not "scripted". Whomever said this was misinformed. And I'm discouraging friends and family from defending Jesskah's character. Let's face it--it takes more than a segment on the Tyra Show to explore the dynamics of a relationship. And much longer to explore the character of the participants. I've learned one thing from this experience: NEVER AIR YOUR PRIVATE PROBLEMS ON NATIONAL T.V.! It polarizes everyone and creates even more pressure to "defend" oneself. When you are in a relationship and it is painful, it is hard enough to deal with your own emotions without the nation commenting on it. Don't get me wrong, we appeared on the show and everyone has the right to express their opinions. I made the problem worse by allowing my daughter to appear on the show. I'm guessing Lauren's mom feels the same. Tyra cannot resolve this "problem"--it will have to resolve itself. It will take time to heal.
Posted by Carol Wiggins 01/20/09 9:58 PM
 
Ok, after reading comments from Lauren and her mom, I'd like to point out also that the people who committed suicied were both of our friends, not just mine. The show shows the truth, but they cut out some stuff and some things just weren't said at all. Lauren and I have our differences and are completely different personality-wise. There's just some people that don't mix and we might be two of them...
Posted by Jesskah 01/20/09 9:36 PM
 
hey guys it's jesskah from the show. i just wanted to say thanks for all the support BOTH have us have been getting. i think the doing the show was a good experience but proabably not the best way to fix a friendship. we never went to dinner but we aren't fighting either. we both were at wrong at one point or another. everything was true on the show though, that's for sure. we both have made mistakes and i'm sure we are both embarassed to have done this on national television. it was fun to do it though and see what would happen. thanks again.
Posted by Jesskah 01/20/09 9:21 PM
 
I've been friends with Jesskah for years. She's one of the sweetest persons I've ever met. Lauren did put Jesskah through hell. She never once really cared about Jesskah's feelings. However, there is a part to the story that no one saw. The show was scripted, and younever got to hear Lauren's side. I love Jesskah to the death, but Jesskah was also at fault. Knowing both of them, they're much different "off camera". But their friendship is Player HateHER all the way. (Lauren is at fault for most of it though)
Posted by Me 01/20/09 8:59 PM
 
I'm not a player hate HER i think it to much work that in the end that is JUST NOT WORTH IT. I don;t have tons of friends and i cherish all the firendship i make because i'm also picky on who can be my friends.
Posted by Jessica 01/20/09 8:47 PM
 
yeah, i lost 7 of my friends about a year ago, and it has taken such a toll on my life. One of them was my best friend. & i know that at times like that you need your friends for support and if lauren thought thats jesska was being whiny about well, im sure we know who the real friend is
Posted by cass 01/20/09 6:50 PM
 
My kids and I watched today's show, all I can say is that there are an awful lot of shallow people in our world. I have very few friends simply because I don't have time to feal sorry for people who have no repect for themselfs or their friends. I have a reputation that if you don't want to know don't ask. I am a very straight forward person, sometimes with tact, sometimes not. And if you tell me that I can trust you and you end up hurting me, you and everyone else wll know that you have a big mouth. But be my friend and respect me, we will be friends forever. I may not like what you have to say, but if your honest and straight forward then you'll have my respect for life. If you call one another friends, real friends, then nothing or no one could ever come between you, and never ever give ultamatums because you just may not like the out-come. The sister who gave her brother and best friend a choice? Who better to have as your sister-in-law if it ever gets to that point? My best friend married my brother and if anything, we are closer then we were in high school. You would think that the happiness for your brother and best friends should be more important. But, I did like your ultamatum about not being put in the middle with their relationship.
Posted by Jacoleia 01/20/09 6:39 PM
 
No, I'm not a hater. The one thing on the list that I do (not introducing a new boyfriend) is because unless I know it is going to get serious or long term, I don't allow him to enter my inner circle of friends and family. If it ends up just being a fling, there is no point in anyone meeting him. Haters all have the same emotional problem. They are very insecure and try to tear other women down so they can feel better about themselves. We are all better off cutting these type of women out of our lives and surrounding ourselves with healthy, positive people.
Posted by Lili 01/20/09 5:45 PM
 
I AM A PLAYER HATEHER BCUZ I FEEL UGLY
Posted by TALISHA 01/20/09 5:35 PM
 
I just watched the show on ch.11 and I compeletly feel for I believe her name is Jammie. I just resently was in the exact situation as Jammie my bother and my best friend. I felt exactly as she did, its very hard to explain all my emotion, its a such a confuseing place to be(it may seem like jealousy from the outside in, but for some of the ppl that has experienced it know exactly how it is). We grow up together and she is also 3years older than him. My bother and I had such a close relationship I mean if he chipped his finger nail I new about it, and my best friend we were pretty close you know inside jokes and all. When he was about 16 my bother started to be a little friendlier than usual and so did she once I noticed that I realized I had to say something. I told them how i felt and I wouldnt like them to be together at this age and said i accept it if they were older and he would be completely matured, and dated around. They went behind my back and started a relationship and i notice so i disconnted myself from both of them i felt betrayed. He got in contact with me and told me that how it happened I appericated it, and just stop talking to my bestfriend and told him i was happy for him and wish him the best. Later on crazy emotion hit me i felt as if i was going crazy because I just didnt understand why I felt anger, disgusted, betrayed, in the middle, sad, disappionted. So i switched and got mad at my bother for not caring about the way i felt and being selfish.
Posted by izzy 01/20/09 5:24 PM
 
THE SAME THiMG HAPPEND TO ME, MY BEST-FRiEND HOOKED UP WiTH MY BROTHER AT MY HOUSE iN MY ROOM, AND WHEN i CONFRONTED HER SHE DENYED IT TO MY FACE WHILE MY BROTHER TELLS ME OTHERWiSE AND SHE GOES AROUND TELLING PEOPLE THAT SHE DID HOOK UP WiTH HiM.BUT IF ANYTHiNG iF THE WERE TO GO OUT i WOULD OF STOP TALKING TO HER CUZ THE SAME THING ALREADY HAPPEND TO MY BROTHER,MY FRIEND PLAYED WITH HIM AND FAMILY IS FAMiLY
Posted by SECRET 01/20/09 5:14 PM
 
Britney and Corey are engaged now.
Posted by Bridget 01/20/09 4:51 PM
 
well , the blonde girl ,I had a friend that put me throught the samething .Just because she wanted to be better and she picked them over me, I didn't think just because I had a shroke I would lose my best friend and she was like a sister to me. Also, she stated makeing fun of me . Then everyone at school did it too. Then beat me up like it was a kicking game. I hid it from my family . Till on day she saw it . But I always tryed to talk to that friend and she didn't want to talk she said she had better things to do. Just because she was so mean to me.I was still nice to her.
Posted by michelle 01/20/09 4:51 PM
 
Hey Tyra, Great Show and looking real fierce as always. Love ya Tyra. Steve
Posted by Steve 01/20/09 4:48 PM



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