Fri. Jan 16, 2009 | 1:15 PM
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Is stress keeping you up at night?

Is stress getting in the way of your...well, everything? Stress sneaks in to our days regularly and while we're used to handling that, it's a lot harder to handle when it sneaks in to our nights too. We're all on the constant hunt for the perfect way to suppress the stress. Think you've tried everything to beat the sleepy-time stress? Try one more of these and we guarantee a stress-free slumber in your future.

Disconnect
Between all your new Facebook comments and your cock full inbox of text messages, it's hard to put down the gadgets and seriously disconnect your mind for the night. If you spend an hour toying with your technology before laying down, your mind is going to be racing. Shut yourself down at least an hour before bed and let your mind truly unwind.

Been There, Done That
Instead of making list after list of all the things still left to do, make a list of all the things that have been completed. It's much more satisfying to see this ever-growing list of "well dones" and you'll be so stoked, you'll forget there's anything left to do- - for now.

Make the Most of It
Really, really can't clear your mind and sleep? Stop beating yourself up over it. The more you concentrate on how much time is going by, the more you'll get worked up and upset- - preventing sleep even further. Instead, read a book or put on a movie you wanted to watch and we bet you won't remember what happens next- - you'll be too busy in dreamland.


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hi tyra, I just wanted to start out with i love your show and i watch it everyday.i was just righting because i don't know what to do with my self anymore. i feel so ugly inside and out. I don't even think my husband wantes to be with me anymore. ever sinse i got pregnant and gained over 150 pounds i am always getting maid fun of. or put down about alot of things. it herts really bad. and i don't know what to do i have tryed exercising and dieting i even tryed starving my self.but nothing will work. can u help me tyra. thanx.
Posted by Melissa 02/05/09 9:35 AM
 
I am so streesed out I feel like I am the rock(the mother) of my family every one thinks I'm so strong, somtimes I want to be weak but I fear that if/when I break donwn ther will will be no-one there for me and my two kids,everybodys eles stuff has killed my my family with my kids and they'er father,and now it's killing my relationship with my kids, just because I try to be a good sister,cuzin,and daughter. I open my door because I love my family,but then I regret it and then I feel likr a bad person. I really don't know what to do.
Posted by aisha 02/04/09 9:24 PM
 
hwy tyra!i am only 12 years old but i love your show!i really liked the show on snooping mothers but i do know there is a point where they should maybe read your diary because i used to be a "cutter" and so my mom went through my diary so there are only certain times where snooping is a very good thing and if you dont it may lead to something serious.I'm not saying its good to do it everyday but only when you know and your sure somethings going on with your child.
Posted by Kelly Arana 02/02/09 5:19 PM
 
Hi Tyra. I enjoyed watching your show on mothers snooping on their daughters.On my opinion i just wanted to say is that i think that the mom is doing on what they should do best but they are going way too overboard because i could feel the pain from what the girls are going through and i don't think the moms could see that based on what their doing to them by pushing them away little by little that's why the girls feels that their mothers don't trust them. I feel really bad for the 16 year old more because like from what she said about her mom calling her every five minutes that's bad but it's ok to check on her like every hour or two but 5 minutes after the next is crazy it's like an animal that's preying on their meal every other 5 min.If the mom's keep on doing on what what their doing i believe that their not going to have a close mother and daughter relationship if they don't give them to trust or even at least talk to them without having the mom to disturb them you know.Tyra i hope that they could work things out by trusting and listening on what these girls has to say. I can't wait for the updates !!!
Posted by Leticia 02/02/09 4:41 PM
 
Hi im delilah and im 13, i go through stress me and my mom are very poor i live with my sister and ma step father we are trying to move out of this studio apartment but its to much money i have so much pressure because my mom got pregant at a young age {13} i cant handle having to try to perfect in my life no body trust me in my family at all because they think im gonna do the same thing my mom did im very stressed my school work has to be perfect is i get a 90 my mom says pisshh u should of had a 100 if u paid attention i have to get in the top top schools my mom and my dad are sperated and both drive me mad i have a younger sibiling named janel and she gets every thing she wants and when it comes to me i feel like a out cast.my grandmother and father i have not seen until i was on the summer vaction in 2007 i feel hidious in school because im a little bit fat. I always wanted a dog but my mom says we cant even effored our light so might as well not ask my mom is always unhappy and streesed and so am i we act happy in front of my sister so we wount hurt her high expectations there are cracks between every ones smile
Posted by delilah aybar 01/23/09 10:05 PM
 
I watched the episode on skin bleaching and I was more upset with the audience response than with the girls who were doing the bleaching. It's unfortunate but in today's society the lighter you are the better you are. I am a black female who is in between. I am not dark but I am not light but I found that dark skinned girls didnt like me because of the color of my skin. I was told that I thought I was better and I felt dark because I saw that lighter skinned girls were treated better and I heard so many discouraging remarks about dark skinned girls. My grandmother who was light skinned always said not to go out in the sun because she did not want me and my cousin to become smuttty black. This world is just screwed up and black woman are always jealous of each other. We are a race that never sticks together anyway and its unfortunate. African american women should be proud of ourselves and we should stick together and be proud of one another. Instead of putting each other down we should lift each other up always.
Posted by Tanya 01/19/09 1:06 AM
 
hey tyra, all dark skinned women are beautiful and bleaching your is hurting your self. i think they need to stop before it gets worst.learn how to accept you for you and not for what you want to become or look like. dont risk your health for your own beauty pleasure. *BLOSSOM*_
Posted by BLossom 01/18/09 12:21 PM
 
Hi Tyra and fellow bloggers, I just wanted to comment on skin bleaching. At this point in our life time we have a President of African descent, so any excuse of not being able to make it because you are black just flew out the window. We are human not a color. The time has come for all of us to stop focusing on outside appearances and help build our communities and each other up. Life is too short to live in black and white.
Posted by Andrea 01/17/09 10:44 PM
 
I loved your show. When I saw this one I couldn't help but think about all the damage the women are doing to themselves. I think it's wrong that people look down on others because of their skin color. Years ago Celia Cruz, may she rest in peace, put out a song called La Negra Tiene Tumbao. Loosely translated it means the Black Girl has got it goin on. Celia was often criticized by some because of her skin color. When I saw the show I remembered the song and thought about how true it is. Celia always kept her head held high just like many other celebrities who have a dark complexion. No one should be ashamed of their skin color. The blacker the berry the sweeter the juice.
Posted by Spanish Rose 01/17/09 6:03 AM
 
I was somewhat disappointed in the show. It was clear these young women suffer with self-esteem issues. Tyra you did mention that we have a black president, however failed to mention we have a first Lady who is black. You mentioned Beyonce, Halle etc. why not Whoopee, India Arie, or those women in politics such as Condi Rice also journalist such as Gwen Ifill. I know your time is limited, but this information could have been included. These young women really need help as an older woman I felt very sad for them.
Posted by Carol 01/16/09 9:11 PM
 
I was disappointed how Tyra made these women look stupid instead of actually trying to help them and show them how beautiful they can be if they just allow themselves to feel that way. Its pretty obvious Tyra doesn't understand how they feel, being a former model and all, besides she is as light skinned as a black girl can possibly be. She is probably one of their inspirations for their skin bleaching. I personally don't do this and don't know anybody that does but I was surprised to see how these women were practically being attacked. Very disappointing.
Posted by Jessica 01/16/09 5:14 PM
 
well iam 15. i watch your show all the time i love the topics..when i was watchin the one about bleaching ,it touched me because i am dark skinned. when i was young ,guys in my school would always tease me nd make me feel bad.i would go home and cry to my mom and she would tell me black is beautiful. i wondered why the kids didnt know that. The teaseing never stoped until like 4th grade.People dont really tease me and all the guys like me now ,i dont understand why is this now.right now in high school i have a lot of spanish friends and indian friends with nice hair and skin color. they get all the guys they want and it makes me feel bad sometimes because i dont get the ones i want.I seem to love my color but seeing the lighter skin girls in my class wearing the aeropastale and american eagle i just think they look better sometimes.butt then again i wear all the brands and i look cute my skin is smooth and soft no acne or anything but people just like to hate sometimes:O
Posted by Latifah 01/16/09 5:04 PM
 
Tyra, another thing I heard one of the girls say is that its life is easier being light skinned.I disagree. Its actually a lot harder to get jobs, have friends, ect. People tend to judge you before even getting to know you. All I'm saying to dark skinned women who thinks being light skinned is easy, I believe that its just as hard if not worse.
Posted by jacqueline 01/16/09 4:31 PM
 
Tyra, I'm sitting here watching your show about skin bleaching. I'm really surprised at how many women bleach their skin and the measures they go for lighter skin. I am a light skinned female and amazingly as a child I wanted darker skin because the issues I've gone through with peers being lighter skinned and having curly hair didn't make it better. I grew up wishing to be someone different. And that didn't stop at skin complexion. I have such a self esteem issue now because of things people said during my youth. I have an 8 year old daugter who started at the age of two wanting to be white. She didn't like the color of her skin so I constantly tell her how beautiful she is and how beautiful her skin complexion is. She would say she wants to have my skin complexion, my hair texture, and she always tells me how beautiful I am. I'm scared that she may grow still wanting to be someone else regardless of how often I tell her she a beautiful child. The world we live in is so judgmental and as a parent, dealing with a daughter with being darker and wanting to be ligter and a son who has issues with his body, its important that we make a point to tell them their perfect and God made you unique for a reason. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. No one likes the same thing and that's why God made many flavors.
Posted by jacqueline cole 01/16/09 4:14 PM
 
I saw the show today on women of color willing to do just about anything to get a lighter skin color and I think it's sad but a fact in our society. What Tyra said about society brain-washing women of color to think that they were not beautiful unless they have light skin is a sad but truthful injustice. I have a skin condition that causes my legs and arms to be covered with black spots & I've tried bleaching to lighten up the dark spots but the bleaches don't work. So I just stopped using the bleaches and decided to embrace my discolored skin and love every part of myself and I feel very good about myself now that I've stopped thinking the society has programmed us to think.
Posted by Folawee 01/16/09 3:54 PM



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