Tips on coping with five sources of single-mom stress.

singlemom.jpgRound of applause for the real superheroes out there: the single parents. When Solange Knowles came on the Tyra Show, she talked about the stresses of being a single parent. It's a task many parents can relate to. But with a few tricks of the super-mom's trade, you can catch a little break on some of the biggest stresses out there.

Financial Woes

With today's gas prices at head-spinning heights, a practical mom might cut back on some of the family's favorite treats. But before canceling the weekend trip to the "good" park -- the one that's twenty miles and half a tank of gas away but has the swirly slide the kids love -- consider cutting back in other areas, like using your microwave more than your kitchen range on weeknights. It's less expensive to run, with the added bonus of quickly cooking up healthy, frozen meals.

Multitasking 101

The single mom's mantra is clearly "two birds, one stone." Tasks like laundry and gardening are time consuming and take away from precious playtime. Try routing your washing machine to drain outside, watering your lawn or garden. This way both your family and yard come out fresh as a daisy and you've only spent time on one chore.

Single-Handedly Combating the Picky Eater
At the end of a long day, the wrath of a child who just will not eat his broccoli at the dinner table can be a little difficult to stomach. But as the fearless ruler of the roost, there is always a plan in your repertoire. Have your kids assist you in the kitchen. The pride they'll feel for helping create what's on their plate will surpass the squeamishness of trying new foods and dinner will be happily served.

Battling the Bad-Weather Blues
Summer is a piece of cake, what with camp and plenty of outdoor fun to occupy kiddos. But when winter break rolls around, activities are limited -- and the cooped-up meltdowns start to occur. Luckily, salvation comes to you in the form of the local library. Most offer reading or arts and crafts classes, not to mention the added bonus of borrowing books and movies rather than buying them. Gotta love free entertainment!

Dining-Out Dilemmas

It's always nice to hit the town and treat the wee ones, but who says it has to be a dinner date? Just opt to eat out at lunch rather than dinner. This way, dining only involves a few kid's meals and an inexpensive lunch deal for yourself. Plus, lunchtime is less crowded in many restaurants, so it won't be as overwhelming and you can make the most of your quality time by actually talking.


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Hi tyra my name is jontae and I love ya show I was watchin tha one u had on about single moms and I am also a single mom of 2 gurls I wud have had three but my middle child nala passed away at 1 and a half in 2004...I am 25 now and that was tha hardest thing had ever had to go thru...I am raisin 1 year old eniah and 7 yearold jayla....I have had a lot of difficult things happen in my life things u couldent imagine....omg tyra it is so hard bein a single parent and not bein able to get tha kids tha things they need let alone the things they want o and as for me please I own one pair of sneakers that I wear all year around....because there needs r first....I made a lot of mistakes in my life im have never been perfect and sumtimes I wanna just give up im not workin I have no income at all...its just a mess..and im only surviving thru tha grace of god...and I thank him everday and night for tha lil I do have and for whateva else he has instore for us....tyra please just write me bac so I can atleast know that sumone here's my story and ill know sumone was listening....good luck with everything u do u are truely blessed...happy holidays....and I'll try to have one also...love tae...
 
hi tyra. i am Evans from kenya we are vert great of your shows ,i have read the comments on these ladies and the problem they have go its great to hear them .wish them a merry xmas and a happy new year Evans
 
Hi))) I left my husband and a father of my child a year ago because he was extremely abusive and i just couldnt take it anymore... I was beaten almost every day...in front of my son.... who wants life like that?? Thats why i left with my baby and became a single mother with no child support. I am happy at some point because he can no longer beat and humiliate me but.. i am raising my son all by myself.. Thats so hard!! God bless all single mothers and God help all of us!! PEACE..
 
Yes im a stress out mother,but let me just said im 28 in age and will be 29 on 01-31-09.I was with my ex-baby daddy for 6 years and out of 6 years i have 3 kids that i love with all my heart.Yeah oh my kids is who im talking about who i love.I have put him on child support but there is not no help still.He was ask to pay me $475.00 a month but we haven't got a payment yet.I have been doing it on my on 4 about 5 years now on my on.
 
hey tyra i love you well i saw this how very sad well aim not a single mom but aim a teenage mother aim only 17 with a 1 year old daughter its very hard for me i basically do it on my own
 
hi tyra i just watched ur show about single moms. It really touched my heart. It made me cry. Im also a single mom of 3. My oldest is 12 nd he has been diagnosed with diabetes, high blood pressure, bipolar, nd he is also losing his eye sight in his left eye. Its really hard being a single mother. Louisa
 
hi tyra i just watched ur show about single moms. It really touched my heart. It made me cry. Im also a single mom of 3. My oldest is 12 nd he has been diagnosed with diabetes, high blood pressure, bipolar, nd he is also losing his eye sight in his left eye. Its really hard being a single mother.
 
although i am not a single mom i would like to extend my prayers to all single parents, my husband and i had a beautiful baby in July. l could not imagine raising her on my own. the reason for my comment though is when i first met my husband he souly was responsible for a child that was conceived in high school. her biological mother left when she was three months old. she continued visits but they quickly dwindled to a couple days twice a year that is if something like Vegas wasn't more important. I, like society was naive to the amount of single dads out there. I am now trying to bring this to the attention of America. i think you, single mothers, can appreciate the work that goes in to raising your special child and i ask you pass on your knowledge to both single moms and dads. and together lets level the playing field. my husband is the most amazing person i have ever met. the hard ships hes gone through although avoidable have made him who he is today. and i cant help but wonder how much stronger he would be if he had the support and appreciation of the community .
 
okay. I have a pretty good idea that tyra or tyra's people, probably wont read this. but here goes... basically, this is a "single mom" story. i was just watching the single mom bit on the tyra show, and i highly respect those women, but it reminded me of my mom. if you wanna talk about having it hard... talk to her. my mom married the love of her life, a man named darrel, when she was i think about 20. they were very happy together. when my mom was about 21, she became pregnant with my oldest brother, cebastian. they lived in Germany, and they were having financial troubles because my father was having trouble holding down a job. my father's family was awful, they encouraged my father to drink to suppress him emotions, and they strongly disliked my mother. anyway, a few years later they moved to new mexico to move in with my father's family. they were highly abusive to my mother, physically and emotionally. this is where i don't know the story too well, my mom hasn't told me much because she doesnt want me to know... so ill skip ahead until my other brother was born, three years after cebastian. they were struggling, still, i know that at least. my father had severe alcoholic issues, and pawned several of my mothers things to buy himself more booze. my mother was having trouble holding down a job, because of her children. about five years of financial troubles and alcoholism, but darrel was really starting to look better. he had a job, and he had stopped drinking. my mom had been wanting another child, so she decided that then was a good time to have another baby, me. darrel was really shaping up, until i was about
 
My mom has been a single mom for the last 6 years. My biological dad walked out on my mom when she was pregnant with me, and my step-dad turned to drugs leaving us behind. My mom is 34 years old, she has twin daughters that will be 8 next month, 12 and 14 year old boys and me, I'm 18 and pregnant. My mom doesn't get enough credit for what she does, from time to time we struggle along, with every other single mother, but she continues to stay strong and do for us before she does for herself. She works full-time and still makes time to attend school activities with us. She has helped me, through everything I am 7 months pregnant and the only person I can turn to is my mom, she never complains about the things she may have to do, and because of that I hope one day I can be a strong mother like her. She pushed me to go back to school to get my diploma, and guess what I will be graduating next month, but that's not it she also, wants me to continue with my dreams of going to college and because of her help, support and encouragement I will be starting school in August! I see how hard it can get for her, and I'm almost positive every single mother feels like giving up at times, but don't!! Because there is always someone looking up to you and wanting to be just like you! I'm thankful for having strong independent women like you all and my mom, so please stay strong and say thanks, every chance you get!
 
who is watching the show now? i am at work and watching tid-bits of it who is marshae? was that her baby's father?
 
hi, my name is shaquana im a single mom raising four kids i have one girl and three boys which are 7,12 and 17.Day to day its a struggle raising my kids in this terrible economy, now and days we dont have money to do anything,my twelve year old suffer from diabetes and i cant pay for his insuline.Im currently out of work and the foodstamps can do but so much,I TRIED numerous of times to get help else where and nothing yet.I watch ur show almost everyday or when I can see u help people an there crisis can u please help us ,forget about me my kids it would mean so much to me tyra.thanks for listening
 
I have been a single mother for the last 3 years to wonderful and beautiful little girls Mackenzy and Makaila.Starting out a first time mother and having my children premature was the scariest thing in my life. Mackenzy being born at 1 pound and 7oz and Makaila year later at 1 pound and 13oz. I didn't know where to start with having children that have spent most of their life in the hospital.But God has gotten my whole family through those rough times. That why everyday I stand strong to be that positive role model for my girls everyday in their life. I just want women and man that are out there being single parents stand strong and be proud that you have a wonderful blessing no one can take from you.
 
Single mothers DESERVE more recognition,its hard being a single mother and no one knows what Daily stuggles we go though. Its hard enough that my baby daddy does not want to be in the picture but for the fact he does not pay child support is even worse! People should help other people!
 
Hi Tyra, I just want you to let the single mom who lost her husband that she is not alone. I was 6 mos. pregnant when I lost my husband to pancreatic cancer. He and I were both 23. It was so hard to loose my sole mate. But tell her that life does go on, although very difficult at times. I have raised a beautiful young woman that her father would be very proud of. She is 28 now. He lives on in her. I still miss him everyday, but the more you can talk about him, the easier it gets. He is always in your heart. Love, Kim



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