Taylor Swift has been through it too -- find out how she coped.

Taylor_Swift_friend_advice.jpgFriends can be fickle creatures. One minute they're your BFFs for life, and the next they're your worst enemies. No matter how many parents and siblings tell you it will all work out, it's hard to think past the pain you're feeling at that moment. If you can't take tips from mom, how about from Taylor Swift?

She may be at the top of the Billboard charts now, but when Taylor was in middle school, even she lost a group of buddies to the battles of junior high. You might think that the country cutie would feel a twinge of anger when thinking about her past friendships, but Taylor actually is grateful.

"I got to write songs about it -- my first songs were written because of trying to deal with that emotion," she told "CosmoGirl" magazine. Taylor used her experiences to fuel her songwriting and work her way to a fabulous career. It goes to show you that friendship drama can sting, but it heals with time. And, who knows, maybe you'll translate your experience into a recording contract of your own!

Even though she's exorcised her middle school demons, Taylor admits that when she returns home and sees one of her former frenemies, she gets the same feeling of awkwardness she did in junior high. "I still feel like my hair is frizzy and people are looking at me."


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its so funny because the people youre fond of the most are the ones who make you feel crappy most of the time. Some of my other friends and acquintances that knew i was leaving were considering me. I had one friend telling me she was gonna miss me and one who was shocked. I mean im not saying thaty me and her were like glue but we did know eachother for quite a while. She even wnet to attend my school for high school. I thought she was gonna go to this other school and i always liked the fact that i was gonna see her at school and not just in church like it always was. She was even telling me how we were going to be able to hang out and see eachother more. But it was the total opposite, She had a bunch of other friends and acquintances and was too busy to hang with me. It seemed that way. And she did spend her time making me look bad sometimes. And I gave her the pleasure to let it get to me. But depite all of that i still liked her so much as a friend. So now I look back and feel that all of thattime we were friends was just thrown in the garbage because right now it doesnt seem like she gives two s@#ts where i am or what happened. Even her bro who i kinda had something with him doesnt seem to care. I mean he did ask for me but now what. We have access to eachother and i cant even contact him. It was really hard for me to cope with moving and leaving my old school, especially if i wasnt sure whether i was going to leave or
 
well it goes to show that some friends are just there for the season. Because i had one that i really couldnt read much. Like she would say one thing to me but then totally practice the opposite when it came to how she felt. Saying i was like a sister to her and that she adored me. What, do you even analyze what you say. Its one thing to say it but another to show it. She had me confused most of the time. I didnt know whether we were friends or not. Or if it was just a coincidence of an encounter. Because when i told her i was moving which took me guts to say she didnt take it hard at all. It just showed by the way she reacted. Her feedback as a friend was horrible. Nothing i expected. Or maybe i chose the wrong time and place to tell her. Anyways she didnt even ask me why i was leaving. She really didnt know what i was going through at the moment. And lacked knowledge of my feelings. In other words she knew little about me. It was just ignorance. Till this day im still confused about our friendship. Right now she has a myspace and everything and has contact to my sister because she has one too and has talked to her atleast once not even asking for me. Im not saying i need the spotlight but that just shows how little i was a concern to her.to be continued
 
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Hey Taylor! you are a great, pretty and respected person. But why would your friends ditch you? How could they...Well, I just knew how hard it was..I am too was ditched by my own friends. It's hard. I never knew what to do. Huh,, well this is the story. "Just this month of March, my friend and I met this guy, and we fell in love with him. Weeks and weeks to past, he told me that he LOVES ME TOO, but I must not tell anybody else, he is 21 and I'm only 14. Well,I already knew that he and my friend is together but I just don't want to believe it. Maybe because I don't want to get hurt, though I already feel so bad. More weeks to past, we're not txting anymore. This hurt me so much, I was so depress, I did some scratches around my arms. But not that really bad. I cried a lot. And just today, I have made my decision, I'll try my best to forget it and then I opened my friendster account, and I saw my friend's friends posting bulletins against me, which just made me feel so bad. I don't know what to do. I don't want a fight. Help me, please. tell me what to do.
 
this totally has nothing to do with friend issues but i saw taylor swifts picture and i love her so figured i would comment and i'm 15 and i absolutely love taylor swift and her music she is so awesome and you totally need her on your show i got her fearless album and its awesome you should totally listen to it and i would love to see her on your show
 
heyy tyra. im only 15. i just recently actually 2 nights ago, got in a huge fight with my cousin/best friend. she always yells at me. we both said somethings but, ive lost a lot of my friends because of it.she was basically the only true person i talked to. she betrayed me and now i have a tough time trusting people.this article or whatever u may call it. made me feel better and helped me think alittle about the situation. btw i love the show and americas next top model :]
 
hi tyra my names his kathlyn.i dont trust anyone because of those friends that i have in the past.i though that will be change in high school but it still the same. this friends i know fom two years was a good friend but now she got other friends who is more funny then me and more beautiful. now she is with her and other friends. i feel like im alone because i dont have friends because im kind of shy.i dont hang out. saturday night i stay alone in my room and play with my little brother. i have bad relation with boys.they dont do stuff with me. i fell i might be ditched.
 
I had a very traumatic and emotionally abusive time in high school. I'm 21 and I still haven't been able to get over the torment. I cry and get distressed about it day and night. I know how Taylor feels when she says she can't see her former frenemies makes her still feel like that girl with frzzy hair. I understand that feeling. This may be the exact reason I avoid going into my neighbourhood in recent years. If I see my former classmates, I think I may killed myself the next minute. But now, as I grow up and get my foot into the corporate world, I wonder does high school really end? Even though I graduate high school, I don't see the corporate enviornment being any different from high school - the same cliques, back stabbing, gossip...etc. Could this just be human nature? Our desire for power and politics without any morals and principle? If so, where are we going with all this? Aren't we sowing seeds for human destruction?
 
Hi, my name is krystal. I have been through so much from losing friends to getting backstabbed.I had this one friend since diapers and she has been there for me for years but out of nowhere she backstabbed me by going out with my ex boyfriend who she knew I was in love.somewhat I feel so hurt by it but I know that I will always gain more friends in the future but it effects me by me not wanting to trust someone so much now.
 
Hi tyra my name is Ciara and I'm not going to say that I never had a real friend I have, but I choose someone that wasn't a good friend over her. I am a very shy person and that shyness is taken as a target of weakness. A lot of my so called friends take advantage of me. I want to be confident and able to take up for myself, but the problem is I don't know how to say it. I want to be beautiful and have self-confidents. :I
 
omg this has happened to me only once and i hope it never happens again. i hate "my friend " who did this to me and i still do even though she ditched me like two years ago.
 
Im 12 years old and i go to a school of kids who are wealthy. Since i was in 4th grade ive lied to my best friend and have told her i was rich. I told her my dad is a lawyer and that my mom is a designer. The truth is that im not rich at all my dad works for shipping and handling and my mom is a maid. I was so embarresed to say that so i lied. I shop from a thrift store. I am just so jealous of rich people. Im ashamed and i want my friend to know and im scared she wont be my friend just because im not rich. I want clothes from abercrombie and juicy and buy everything i want like her but i dont so that makes me depressed but i really want to tell the truth maybe that will solve my problems i really dont know!! I might be ditched
 
Im 12 years old and i go to a school of kids who are wealthy. Since i was in 4th grade ive lied to my best friend and have told her i was rich. I told her my dad is a lawyer and that my mom is a designer. The truth is that im not rich at all my dad works for shipping and handling and my mom is a maid. I was so embarresed to say that so i lied. I shop from a thrift store. I am just so jealous of rich people. Im ashamed and i want my friend to know and im scared she wont be my friend just because im not rich. I want clothes from abercrombie and juicy and buy everything i want like her but i dont so that makes me depressed but i really want to tell the truth maybe that will solve my problems i really dont know!!I might be ditched and have no friends because im not rich!!
 
I know what its like to be the person who ditches a friend. I totaly ditched this one friend b/c she was REALLY annoying and her mom didnt like me cause her moms like all religious and i was tired of getting a bible lesson every time i talked to her and her mom.
 
This has happend to me so many times since i have been in high school. In middle school everything is different. Best friends forever right? Wrong. All my friends got boyfriends, and are soooo "in love" with them, leaving me behind. this happening to me really made me think who i want to be in life. I have my priorties straight, with no boyfriend, and i like it that way. Ill find love sooner or later. Im just loving myself first.



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