Taylor Swift has been through it too -- find out how she coped.

Taylor_Swift_friend_advice.jpgFriends can be fickle creatures. One minute they're your BFFs for life, and the next they're your worst enemies. No matter how many parents and siblings tell you it will all work out, it's hard to think past the pain you're feeling at that moment. If you can't take tips from mom, how about from Taylor Swift?

She may be at the top of the Billboard charts now, but when Taylor was in middle school, even she lost a group of buddies to the battles of junior high. You might think that the country cutie would feel a twinge of anger when thinking about her past friendships, but Taylor actually is grateful.

"I got to write songs about it -- my first songs were written because of trying to deal with that emotion," she told "CosmoGirl" magazine. Taylor used her experiences to fuel her songwriting and work her way to a fabulous career. It goes to show you that friendship drama can sting, but it heals with time. And, who knows, maybe you'll translate your experience into a recording contract of your own!

Even though she's exorcised her middle school demons, Taylor admits that when she returns home and sees one of her former frenemies, she gets the same feeling of awkwardness she did in junior high. "I still feel like my hair is frizzy and people are looking at me."


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Hey Taylor! you are a great, pretty and respected person. But why would your friends ditch you? How could they...Well, I just knew how hard it was..I am too was ditched by my own friends. It's hard. I never knew what to do. Huh,, well this is the story. "Just this month of March, my friend and I met this guy, and we fell in love with him. Weeks and weeks to past, he told me that he LOVES ME TOO, but I must not tell anybody else, he is 21 and I'm only 14. Well,I already knew that he and my friend is together but I just don't want to believe it. Maybe because I don't want to get hurt, though I already feel so bad. More weeks to past, we're not txting anymore. This hurt me so much, I was so depress, I did some scratches around my arms. But not that really bad. I cried a lot. And just today, I have made my decision, I'll try my best to forget it and then I opened my friendster account, and I saw my friend's friends posting bulletins against me, which just made me feel so bad. I don't know what to do. I don't want a fight. Help me, please. tell me what to do.
 
this totally has nothing to do with friend issues but i saw taylor swifts picture and i love her so figured i would comment and i'm 15 and i absolutely love taylor swift and her music she is so awesome and you totally need her on your show i got her fearless album and its awesome you should totally listen to it and i would love to see her on your show
 
heyy tyra. im only 15. i just recently actually 2 nights ago, got in a huge fight with my cousin/best friend. she always yells at me. we both said somethings but, ive lost a lot of my friends because of it.she was basically the only true person i talked to. she betrayed me and now i have a tough time trusting people.this article or whatever u may call it. made me feel better and helped me think alittle about the situation. btw i love the show and americas next top model :]
 
hi tyra my names his kathlyn.i dont trust anyone because of those friends that i have in the past.i though that will be change in high school but it still the same. this friends i know fom two years was a good friend but now she got other friends who is more funny then me and more beautiful. now she is with her and other friends. i feel like im alone because i dont have friends because im kind of shy.i dont hang out. saturday night i stay alone in my room and play with my little brother. i have bad relation with boys.they dont do stuff with me. i fell i might be ditched.
 
I had a very traumatic and emotionally abusive time in high school. I'm 21 and I still haven't been able to get over the torment. I cry and get distressed about it day and night. I know how Taylor feels when she says she can't see her former frenemies makes her still feel like that girl with frzzy hair. I understand that feeling. This may be the exact reason I avoid going into my neighbourhood in recent years. If I see my former classmates, I think I may killed myself the next minute. But now, as I grow up and get my foot into the corporate world, I wonder does high school really end? Even though I graduate high school, I don't see the corporate enviornment being any different from high school - the same cliques, back stabbing, gossip...etc. Could this just be human nature? Our desire for power and politics without any morals and principle? If so, where are we going with all this? Aren't we sowing seeds for human destruction?
 
Hi, my name is krystal. I have been through so much from losing friends to getting backstabbed.I had this one friend since diapers and she has been there for me for years but out of nowhere she backstabbed me by going out with my ex boyfriend who she knew I was in love.somewhat I feel so hurt by it but I know that I will always gain more friends in the future but it effects me by me not wanting to trust someone so much now.
 
Hi tyra my name is Ciara and I'm not going to say that I never had a real friend I have, but I choose someone that wasn't a good friend over her. I am a very shy person and that shyness is taken as a target of weakness. A lot of my so called friends take advantage of me. I want to be confident and able to take up for myself, but the problem is I don't know how to say it. I want to be beautiful and have self-confidents. :I
 
omg this has happened to me only once and i hope it never happens again. i hate "my friend " who did this to me and i still do even though she ditched me like two years ago.
 
Im 12 years old and i go to a school of kids who are wealthy. Since i was in 4th grade ive lied to my best friend and have told her i was rich. I told her my dad is a lawyer and that my mom is a designer. The truth is that im not rich at all my dad works for shipping and handling and my mom is a maid. I was so embarresed to say that so i lied. I shop from a thrift store. I am just so jealous of rich people. Im ashamed and i want my friend to know and im scared she wont be my friend just because im not rich. I want clothes from abercrombie and juicy and buy everything i want like her but i dont so that makes me depressed but i really want to tell the truth maybe that will solve my problems i really dont know!! I might be ditched
 
Im 12 years old and i go to a school of kids who are wealthy. Since i was in 4th grade ive lied to my best friend and have told her i was rich. I told her my dad is a lawyer and that my mom is a designer. The truth is that im not rich at all my dad works for shipping and handling and my mom is a maid. I was so embarresed to say that so i lied. I shop from a thrift store. I am just so jealous of rich people. Im ashamed and i want my friend to know and im scared she wont be my friend just because im not rich. I want clothes from abercrombie and juicy and buy everything i want like her but i dont so that makes me depressed but i really want to tell the truth maybe that will solve my problems i really dont know!!I might be ditched and have no friends because im not rich!!
 
I know what its like to be the person who ditches a friend. I totaly ditched this one friend b/c she was REALLY annoying and her mom didnt like me cause her moms like all religious and i was tired of getting a bible lesson every time i talked to her and her mom.
 
This has happend to me so many times since i have been in high school. In middle school everything is different. Best friends forever right? Wrong. All my friends got boyfriends, and are soooo "in love" with them, leaving me behind. this happening to me really made me think who i want to be in life. I have my priorties straight, with no boyfriend, and i like it that way. Ill find love sooner or later. Im just loving myself first.
 
I think that friends are forever because you only have one best friend too many then everybody knows your business love patricia
 
hi tyra. i go to a high school where most of the kids are hispanic and im african american. a lot of the people i know are hispanic or other races and sometimes thats hard for me to find my place. a teacher made a comment the other day about how when she goes to the cafeteria she always sees all the people with their own race and that really didnt apply to me. for a while i struggled to find my own place and i still do and a lot of times i think i stand out because im not with the black girls in school. but i think that being friends with different people is a good thing and it still makes me uncomfortable to see a group of black girls and look at me with my friends and see that im the only one among a group of hispanics but i learned to accept the people who im friends with and whoever else comes along that i think is good friend material i can accept them no matter what race.
 
hi Tyra, i have been watching your show since it began, granted i have missed quite a few of them, but i still watch it when i can! i keep watching your show about bullying. i am being given a very hard time at school over the last 2 years. i am 14 and in middle school, in kenya. when i was in 5th grade this girl came to the school, she was very pretty, but she did alot wrong as far as lieing and trying to pin things on others...when we got into 6th grade i was her friend, probably one of her only friends, but she turned her back on me a few months inato our friendship. a group of girls including me and some boys had had enough of her lying that we went as far as makeing her life miserable.on the last day of 6th grade it was her last day in africa and there was a huge blow up between her and me and the other girls...i had realized how wrong we had been to do it so i appoligised. then in 7th grade the begining of the year was ok then when we got to the end i started to get a bff so i thought.as we came into the 8th grade recently i had 2bff and was gaining another one who i could tell everything...but she started getting far to bossy.we have a girl talk every once a month, and i asked 2 teachers whether me and the other 2 girls should tell her, and they said i should if i thought the friendshp was strong enough, which i thought it was.so all 4 of us got together and we talked. she was hurt when we told her...so we gave her some time.there



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