One book says extreme mommy makeovers don't send a bad message to kids. What do you think?

momsandplasticsurgery2.jpgEven mommies get the body blues, but what about when diet and exercise just will not get the baby weight off? Of course, it's your call when it comes to going under the knife -- but what kind of message do kids get when all the worry lines they worked so hard to give mommy suddenly disappear?

In our eyes, our moms are the most beautiful women in the world and don't need any changes. What does it say if mom wants to make a drastic change in order to feel her prettiest? As kids grow, are they going to think that "beautiful" means young, thin and wrinkle-free?

Some feel it might not be a blip on their child's radar -- while other moms think going under the knife will cause permanently damage their kid's body image. So how will the kiddos cope with seeing a mommy who suddenly looks completely different? Well, one doctor wrote a book to help the wee ones cope with the transformation.

mommy.jpgDr. Michael Salzhauer wrote "My Beautiful Mommy" -- and yes, we do know that it's a little hard to believe. But the reality is that we do live in a world where plastic surgery has become so common that there is a children's book dealing with how to cope with your mom's new look.

You tell us: Do you think a mother's choice to get plastic surgery can have a damaging effect on young kids?


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My mother had gotten breast implants after going through breast cancer and the surgery to get rid of it. I would have been absolutely fine with her decision if she didn't decide to go from a nearly B cup all the way to a DD. She was already superficial to begin with, but this just really upset me. I've lost a lot of respect for her because of her decision. And now all she does is complain that she has trouble fitting into clothes and that her breast stretch everything out. I will never be able to understand her now and I honestly don't think that I want to.
 
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Hello Guys, Greetings. Introducing me. By the way, I am looking for book I ching translated by Kerson Huang. I cannot find those book anywhere. Do you know where I can find those? Thanks
 
hi everyone.hi tyra.you know this is all about persona choice.i personally am going through something so hnrrible.i only have 1 child.she was a big baby and this had traumetic consequences on my body.my stomach stretched out so much that it dropped downwards.i am now left with terrible excess skin and strechmarks.i breastfed until my daughter was 2yrs.my breasts are so big and droopy they hang up to my navel and they hurt my back.i live in constant pain.i have lost all the baby weight but my breasts still hurt me and my tummy has the excess skin.i wish and desire and yern for help to correct this.im a 27yr old young woman but my body doesnt look it.this hurts me to the core.i dont want to be perfect.i just want to look a little normal.as for the funds,they are litteraly non existant
 
This is a very difficult subject for me. I am a mother of 3, a 6 year old girl, a 4 year old boy, and a 1 year old girl. I put on 100 pounds all together, I breat fed all 3 of them, so the twins aren't where they use to be, I have a horrible self image and therefor I do not want to take my kids to the park because I am emberassed to be in public. I want plastic surgery to boost my confidence. This would also help the kids, they would have a mother that would take them to the events they are wanting to attend and not be ashamed, but on the same foot, recovery from any plastic surgery is a long hard road which is not fair to my children at all. It all boils down to personal decision. If it is affecting your life like it is affecting mine and will help your children in the long run. Go for it and love yourself again.
 
I THINK THEY SHOULD WAIT UNTIL THEYR'E CHILD GETS 16 BECAUSE TO YOUNGER CHILDREN IT CAN SEND A VERY BAD MESSAGE >AS FEMALES WE ALL WANT TO FEEL OUR BEST AND ESPECIALLY WHEN UR "UP THERE IN THE AGE COMPARTMENT" : ) I SAY JUST WAIT UNTIL YOUR KIDS ARE AT THE POINT WHERE THEY CAN UNDERSTAND AND DEAL WITH IT
 
Yea I think surgery is great and don't see anything wrong with it all my boys are grow and I would have it done tommrow if I had the money to do it,I would even do expermental surgery just to have it done thats ha=ow despreate I am of gettting it don because I look bad trust me and I use to be a half way decent looking women.So yes I would love to be on the show.
 
Hi, My name is Tracy and I am a mother of two girls, a 16 & 5. They are my whole life of earth. I have never been married not that I would like to. My body has been through a lot in the last 6 years and I would love to have plastic surgery all over my body. I believe that I would feel better about my self and be able to give my girls more love and a better life because I would be able to love Tracy.
 
I think plastic surgery can make kids grow up thinking that looking good is the best way to be happy. I think that if their mommy comes back and is more happier, the kids will think that beautiful is the best way to live. It may or may not have an effect since most kids don't care about looks, but when they're in the ages where thay start developing and thinking "Why are they skinny and not me?" or "He has girlfriends because he's better looking than I am," that's when you should think about your kids' mind and how they think. You were a kid once, how do you think you would handle it? Before you do anything, put yourself in their shoes. A lot of kids and even seemingly mature pre-teens and adolecents will appreciate it.
 
I am a 33 year old mother of two, and most days, I feel TERRIBLE about myself. I am thin, but have significant premature aging, and would definitely get plastic surgery if I could. As a woman, I know that my "stock" is only going down the older I get, and since I'm single, that IS a concern for me. I happen to be fairly accomplished in other areas, but the simple truth is, looks matter!
 
I just had a baby 12 weeks ago. I don't know how most mom's feel after having a child, but I feel unsexy. I would not go as far as going under the knife to fix the problem, but I have started to work out again. That in itself makes me feel better. I love my boy and my husband loves me for who I am. I think more since our baby came along. My husband watches our son while I go out for an hour to work out. I feel good about myself when I do this. I plan to celebrate with a friend when I lose all the baby weight by going dancing. If I could give advise to mothers who do not feel sexy after there children are born... it's go and do something that will make you feel sexy. Go get your hair done, your nails a pedicure. All of these things made me feel better about myself without going under the knife. As mothers we should be proud of how we look and embrace our bodies after all that we put it through. It does not hurt to pamper ourselves or to be pampered. We are all beautiful.
 
I am in full agreement with that book. I dont think plastic surgery can have a damaging effect on a child. In fact I am a mother of 4 and am considering plastic surgery, the only thing actually holding me back is the finances. I have my childrens blessings on this issue already(well the older two, 14 and 12) the other two are small. If I can get it done tomorrow I would. A mother should have the right to look and feel beautiful after bearing children. If plastic surgery is what will make her feel that way than by all means I am for it. However, I think a woman should consider it after they have beared all the children they wanted. I am happy with my family size and am totally done having children which is why I think I am a perfect candidate. I do wish to have several procedures done and look forward to the day when it will happen. My pre child measurements were: 5ft 7in, 110lbs, size 0 and a size 32D. My post child measurements are: 5ft 7in, 118lbs, size 2 anda size 30DD. The two areas affected the most were my stomach(stretch marks) and my breast(they are still there but can use a lift). Many people look at me and think I look fab after having 4 children and I am in agreement as long as I am fully clothed. I think Tyra should really do a show on this topic, I wouldnt mind being a guest.
 
How are children supposed to get the message to love themselves and live a healthy life? Why bother exercising if you can go get liposuction and a tummy tuck just like mommy? While we may not be able to afford a trainer like Heidi Klum or Jennifer Lopez, who dropped their baby weight in a sickeningly short time, there are still ways to get the baby weight off. Sure, it will take more than 3 months, but use the exercise as a way to give yourself 20 minutes of personal time! Children learn by example, so be a good one!
 
I have 3 kids, and I am 24. I think I am fine as hell. I weigh 175 and look great. The only thing Id need to do is tone up a little and I'd be the next Beyonce "TRUST". But the stregth on my stomach bother my from time to time, but it's a beauty to me. Because I have had child birth wihch is a beautiful thing. But some mothers may need that extra make over. Depending on their health issues. And for the children to understand what's going on, you need to sit down and have a talk explaing what's going on, and that there will be a little changes in mommies appreance but mommie has not went any where. The attitude the personality and all the good is still all good. Just a little alterations done.



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