Stop fearing tough chats with your folks.

tell_parents_anything.jpgThe people responsible for your care and upbringing can quickly go from loving benefactors to frightening lawmakers when you have to confront them with less-than-pleasant news. But keep in mind: They do love you, and as hard as it may be to blurt out some things, they are only there to help you. Here is our guide from coming clean with your parents.

You Don't Want to Tell Them That: You're failing a class.
How to Share: When it comes to the subject of failing a subject, you need to approach the situation with as much concern as your parents will ultimately have. Address this topic with a desire for them to help you, not bail you out. It is also best to have spoken to your teacher before sitting down with them, this way you can identify the next step and how they can help you -- getting you a tutor, finding a learning center, etc.

You Don't Want to Tell Them That: You had a fender bender in their car.
How to Share: For this one, you've got to take the "no-nonsense" approach. Because it was a fender bender and there is only minimal and cosmetic damage, don't wait for them to find the dents and scratches on their own -- their anger level will just soar sky high because now you didn't just damage one of their belongings, you also kept it from them. Come out straightforward with what happened, and again be prepared with any information that will ease their questions. If they ban you from using the car for awhile, grab a bus ticket and take it in stride. Once you prove yourself again, approach them about using the car once more.

You Don't Want to Tell Them That: You've contracted and STD.
How to Share: As scary as it is to admit you're sexually active, we realize telling them that you are now sick because of it is crazy difficult. This is a time you absolutely have to bite the bullet. While you can get confidential testing without their help, chances are that you'll want their support anyway. And while you should tell them when you're ready, don't wait too long. Their help and guidance -- even their ride to the doctor's office -- will be crucial in helping you get help as soon as possible. Just remember: Even fully grown adults who live in their own apartments often need the advice and support of their parents and friends when it comes to health issues. They may be hurt, frightened or shocked by the news, but they will love you no matter what. And, trust us, you'll need their love and support to get through this.

You tell us: What are YOU afraid to tell your parents?


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its ok girls strut your stuff, the way you tell your parents somethin is to approach them in a respectable and understanding manner... then they'll listen. so good luck girls -love tyra
 
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