Get That Rock!
08/05/08 1:34 PM
Our not-so-subtle ways to let him know you're ready to walk down the aisle.
Tired of waiting to hear "Hear comes the bride"? If you've spent ages dropping hints -- leaving bridal mags on his nightstand, tossing random bouquets of flowers, popping "Wedding Crashers" in the DVD player any time he's around -- you've got to face facts. He's not getting the memo. Most guys pick up on hints about as often as they pick up their dirty laundry. So if you want him to pop the question before you're wearing dentures, you've got to put on your game face.
Set a deadline. We know what you're thinking. Deadlines are meant for work and pointless school projects -- not for your sweetie pie. Wrong! If the boy hasn't picked up on your hints by now, he's clueless. (Or worse, he's picked them up and is ignoring your needs completely. If so, dump him immediately.) So give him a deadline. Tell him you'd like to be married within the next year or so. That way, the ball's in his court. If he refuses to get his cute butt off the bench and make the game-winning shot, you'll find another man who will.
Get out of town. Sometimes, the pressure to pop the question in the most romantic, movie-worthy way can cripple a guy. Your man might be scared of not giving you the fairytale proposal you've dreamed of since before you got your first big girl bike. Help the guy out. Plan a dreamy weekend getaway -- preferably in a location that gives him plenty of opportunities to drop down on one knee.
Be prepared to move on. The sad truth? Some guys just aren't the marrying kind. You've got to be honest with yourself. If you're ready to run down the aisle -- and he'd rather sprint in the opposite direction -- he's not the one. If the deadline runs out and you still aren't sporting a sparkler, he's Mr. Wrong. Giving him the boot will be painful. But what's worse: moving on or sitting around and knitting sweaters for all 20 of your cats? Yeah, that's what we thought.
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LADIES, LADIES... WAKE UP!!!!!!!!!PLEASE DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES MADE. I WAS SO IN LOVE, I GUESS I WAS STUCK ON STUPID. I BELIEVED EVERYTHING THIS MAN SAID. I WAS WITH THIS GUY FOR 15YEAR. EVER SINCE I WAS 21, THE PROBLEM WAS HE HAD BEEN MARRIED BEFORE, SO THERE WAS NEVER ANY RUSH. HE WOULD ALWAYS TELL ME, WHEN THE FINANCES GET BETTER, OR I NEEDED TO IMPROVE MY CREDIT. I WENT AS FAR AS BETTERING MYSELF GOT EDUCATED, BOUGHT A HOUSE. ETC, ETC. AND GUESS WHAT LADIES, HE BROKE UP WITH ME AND MARRIED SOMEONE ELSE, AFTER ALL THOSE YEARS OF MY LIFE. BUT, I DONT BLAME HIM NOW, I BLAME MYSELF!! I ALLOWED HIM TO DO THIS TO ME, IT WAS LIKE I WAS IN SOME KIND OF COMA THAT I COULD WAKE UP FROM. ALL THE SIGNS WERE THERE, HE HAD KIDS, SO HE NEVER WANTED KIDS. BUT, NOW I TELL ANY YOUNG WOMAN, IT ONLY TAKES 1 YEAR, FOR A MAN TO DECIDE IF HE WANTS TO COMMIT TO YOU. AND TRY NOT GIVING UP THE GOODS BEFORE MARRIAGE, I THINK WHEN YOU GIVE UP THE GOODS BEFORE MARRIAGE THEY HAVE NOTHING TO LOOK FORWARD TO. THEREFORE, THEY TAKE THEIR TIME GETTING DOWN THAT ALTER. I HAVE LEARNED FROM MY MISTAKES, I HAVE MET A BALLER AND I PLAN TO DO THIS ONE RIGHT. I AM GIVING HIM 1YEAR TO POP THE QUESTION. NO EXCEPTIONS!!!!!!!! AND LADIES YOU NEED TO FIND A MAN THAT LOVES GOD BECAUSE IF HE LOVES THE MAN ABOVE HE WILL NO DOUBT LOVE YOU!!! HOW CAN HE LOVE YOU IF HE DOESNT LOVE GOD? HE WILL NOT UNDERSTAND HOW TO LOVE YOU!!! GOD BLESS.
I have been engaged for almost a year now and my fiancee is in the navy. When he popped the question he told me that we would get married in 2 years, well a whole year is up and it doesn't seem like he is really thinking about marriage. We haven't made any plans and it doesn't look like he is any time soon. He is about to be deployed to Hawaii and be on a sub so there will be very little contact with hime for 5 or 6 months. So should i kick him in the butt and set a date or should i wait and feel things out a little longer. I want my "dream" wedding so i don't want him to say he's ready and set a date 3 months later, thats obvoiusly not enough time to make plans and have the weeding i want it to be.
ive been with my bf for almost 2 months and as nuts as it may sound, i luv him enough to see myself being married to him. we have been friends for quite some time before our relationship though. I think ive found mr. right after all the previous losers in my life and hope that some day... soon, he will pop the question when we are "both" ready. 1 thing for sure is that marriage isnt a rush, everything happens at its right time. And definitely, having a possitive credit score is a plus at a successful marriage as im working on "fixing" mine now!
Hey tyra i have been with my man for over five years now, we have a child together and we own a home.He knows i have always dream of getting married and all he tells me we will, how long do i have to wait for him to pop the question?i dont know what to do anymore.Should i move on or should i give him more time.
I have been in a relationship w/my man for about 2 years and he already knows that I am not going to be around for years waiting for him. I love him dearly, but I want to be married. We have talked about it a couple of times within these 2yrs.He asked me to be patient w/him. Because I love him I am giving him sometime. Then I have to think about what I want. The way I see it, a person only needs at the most 2 years to know if they want to marry a person because all of the baggage is out, the problems have started, you see the good/bad part of your partner, the honeymoon has been over for awhile. When you go through these things and you still love the person more and more each day and you work through the problems as they come and your still together. You are ready. I don't know if he is afraid, not the marrying kind, or may be I am not the one for him when it comes to marriage. All I can say is that I will not wait years to find this out.
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TYRA! i need help i've been with my man for over 7 years already, have two kids of his and still no ring on my finger, what can i do to get him to marry me? i really love him and i know he loves me, we talked about getting married but he just says "latter on" how much latter on should i wait?
by the way I'm a big fan :)
Thanks, kizzie!
Sorry i meant liz
Alex, yes you are wasting your time. Move on to someone who can't wait to marry you.:)
I think people need to take a serious look at what they deem as ready for marriage.you just had a very interesting couple on tv that were headed for disaster if their relationship contined to nuptials being exchanged. she does not have just a shopping problem but a money management problem and according to the national bar assocation 90 percent of all divorces in the last tenyears are the direct result of a money issues. 36 percent of women and 40 percent of men have lied to a significant other regarding a purchase deemed exorbitant. this, to me, needs to be an issue fully vetted before one goes down the isle. The author of " I Can't afford to marry you: a guide to understanding the true cost of love" marilyn - the money lady- logan is a financial therapist that can help shed some light on this very topic. inside the bell curve, money mismangement is insidiously destroying relationships and families. so, i say to the ladies trying to get their proposals, i propose they get their money right, credit in order because cut is important but one can become real ugly in the eyes of pursuer if you are viewed as a potential liability. i know it sounds crass but when you ar e cutting edge it sounds that way initially and as we know Tyra is cutting edge. le's do a show on an issue that is destroying relationships. financial transparancy is a must. certainly, there are other issues that cause marital and relationship strife but lets remove one that is manageable with candor and discipline. Get your man to marry you by having a sexy credit score!
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This is so right. If he doesn't want to marry you, you should find another man who will treat you right. I did! I've been married for 5 years and he's still the man of my dreams. You'll find him too!
Tyra, please help. I've been with my man for three years and I still can't get him to propose to me. When I ask him about it, he says that I'm pressuring him. But I'm starting to think he doesn't want to be with me. Am I wasting my time?