Wed. Jul 16, 2008 | 1:25 PM

Are you guilty of bad breakup behavior?
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Breakups can be tough -- but there are ways to make it a little easier.

Let's Be Friends
If you break up on Saturday and are already having a friendly Sunday brunch, be prepared for it to backfire. Feelings can linger for weeks, months, even years. Make an agreement with your ex to not call, text, or see each other for a month or two. If you still want to be friends after, ease into it then.

Bad-Mouthing
Yeah, he's a good-for-nothing loser. And he was bad in bed. Before you put that in a newsletter to all your mutual friends, let yourself cool off. It not only disrespects the relationship you once had, but it also makes you look like the loser, not him.

Constant Updates
You're Googling his name, stalking his Facebook page, taking a walk past his office, and hitting his friends up for updates -- these habits can do harm even if you're not in direct contact with him. Stop obsessing with his life and start living yours.


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i recently got out of a relationship with this guy ive been dating for 6 months...we were livivng together because i got kicked out my house and then we just started fighting for every little thing.i hated it.then he got abusive and he did this for about 4 or 5 times so finally i called my parents and they called the cops and took him away hes still in jail and his sister and friends are telling me so many things and i feel like telling them off but idk wat to do...help?
Posted by gigi 08/26/08 9:05 PM
 
tyra u are so right because i am in love with my ex i really am and now i dont know what to do. thanks for tellin everbody the truth being friends does more harm than good.
Posted by jonee 07/24/08 9:53 AM
 
two months ago i lost someone i really love, he meant so much to me, he helped with my life.i dont know what to do or how to convince him that i want this realtionship to work, even tho he gave me chances already, this last break up was the worset casue he said you need to change and then ill think about getting with you again, but lately it has been so hard because all i can do is think of him, this past week i would call non stop even tho i knew it pissed him off and because of that i think i lost him for good. i want to change but i dont know how to, he says my problems are jealousy and calling him when he doesnt answer. during our realtionship i had got pregante and got an abortion, and because of it my emotions went crazy, i think because of it i lost him. if only i had keep my mouth shut up and just loved him and arruged i would still have him to love, i dont know how to not think about him or even talk to him, i know its not healthy to always talk to him and go be with him but its the only thing i can think to keep me happy. is him. someone please help me, i feel like my world has fallen apart.
Posted by Julie 07/22/08 4:12 PM
 
Hi Tyra,I was dumped like one and a half months ago(reason being he was not comfortable with our relationship.That is another whole story to tell)and my ex and I decided to remain friends and ever since that day we have never communicated over the 4n,azin no txt,no calls,no nothing.Last week he txt me,but only saying hi.I was thinking of replying but be4 I could reply I had to ask a friend whether or not to reply and she told me NO coz it will give the impression that I still want him back.Yah,pliz tel mi what should I do and I would like to know what could be the reason of him not being comfortable with our relationship.
Posted by Kiki 07/22/08 10:01 AM
 
Tyra I am in a situation that is making me feel so many mixed emotions. I am nine weeks pregnant and the father of our unborn child has gone back to his ex girlfriend. And the twisted part is I don't know what I did for him to decieve our relationship. What can I do. I feel my world is ending.
Posted by Leah 07/21/08 11:29 PM
 
Heyy Well Yeah Tyra I Need Some Help From You Uhmm I'm So Confused Cause My ex Has Dumped Me 2 Times And Now He Wants To Get Back With Me For The Third Time But i Dunno If I Should Cause I Love Him But I'm Afraid That He Is Going To Dumped Me Again Could You Give Me Some Tips Boute This I Really Need Them Could You Please Help Me.? i Have A myspace Could You Please Send Me A Massage Wat You Think About Wat I Just Told You.
Posted by Evelyn 07/21/08 3:52 PM
 
I have a problem. We'll i have no idea what to do. Me and my ex we're dating for 2 years but we have been knowing each other for years. We broke up once for 2 months then go back together. We have our arguements and not speak for a couple ours hours. Anyway we have been threw alot. We are both from dallas i came to houston to finish school and he just moved here to be closer to me. we had a arguement last week and it was my fault and i apoligized but he would not speak to me. So i just figured he was just still mad for not talking to me. But the next day i had a flat tire and he did not come help. i feel this time i have really messed up and that we are over. he went back to dallas for a couple days i have not tried to text or call him. i have no idea what to do? i dont know if i should text him,or call him, or just wait til he gets back and say something or not say nothing at all? I need some advice please
Posted by Angela 07/21/08 2:24 PM
 
Tyra wen u get thz plz reply coz am doomed.I have a boyfrnd en i love him so much.We have been going out for almost 2 years now.We were bestfrnds before en i even know his family.Actualy we are so close with the mum en his brothers en sisters.But last month i found sm wierd texts in hs phone.Lyk'i miss your kisses' whch he had sent to some girl.I askd him about it but he said there was nothing going on en that he loves me en that i forced hm 2 cheat bcoz i had lied to him en that he was tired of lies.Well after his apologies we got bck 2getha.Bt i stil feel thiz emptiness.I find it hard to trust him again.I feel so insecure.I feel like i should do smthng 2 get back at him.You know pay back!Anyway help me.What should i do? Should i continue with the relationship or quit?
Posted by Anonymous 07/21/08 9:17 AM
 
I know how it is to know about break ups becuase i have been in many of them. They used to cheat on me, go out after work and not come home until they are good and ready, plus had one where he use to beat me. But no matter what i did i keep my head up and keep going with my life. Yeah being friends is good but when they want to be more than friends thats when its gets really bad because then you think back about the things he done to you in the past and then next thing you find out you back in the same situation that you was in the first place. I am now in another relationship and its doing good so far i hope and i dont just want to be there for him i really want to be there for him. He has done alot for me and more. I appreciate what he does just to keep it going between us. I just hope it dont last like the other ones did in time. I just want someone that i can get along with, know that he is really there for me, and also loves me for me. Thank you tyra for giving me tips on how relationships really work. Also you helped me with alot of your shows. Keep up the good work. Love you tyra.
Posted by Hope 07/21/08 7:10 AM
 
i told my on again off again boyfriend of two years that i never wanted to talk to him again bc he was very emotionally controlling. when i began the relationship i was very mentally young and very depressed. it felt like he was the best thing i had although i would cry everyday and my confidence lowered constantly. he would tell me my eyes werent the right color, i was a bad girlfriend, i wouldn't be able to find another guy. he would tell me lies over and over. to this day i still dont know the truth. i hope he never cheated on me bc we never used a condom bc we were both virgins....i hope...i didnt know what to do. i loved him and i thought it didnt matter. now that i look back on it, i was extremely stupid to not leave earlier and i almost regret it. however, it did give me the strength to leave, move on, and never have another man treat me like that again. i now kno that i am who i am and i will not be who anybody else wants me to be. there will be the right person later on down the road but right now, even with all the negative feelings, it hurts sooo bad to not have him in my life. im very confused...hurt.
Posted by clarissa 07/20/08 6:55 AM
 
This is for lucy hasbell girl u need to move on u can doo so much better and that guy wow i cant believe u did that for him! he was not worth it and ur still talking to him omg u have lots ur mind!! u should get a nice house get ur son some nice clothing worry about ur son and u and thats it! ur son needs u! and dont goo runnying after a guy! u will find the right one! but just wait for it! just dont go back to ur last man hes not worth it at all u can doo way better!!!! Lots of love Hey tyra i love the tips
Posted by LIL B 07/18/08 9:43 PM
 
i hate dealing with guys that check out other girls wen im around him..it really bugsz the sh&t outt of me. i went out with a guy for a month 1/2 but b 4 we went out i knew him for 6 months i got to kno him real well i even met his mom as we were friends and i knew he kinda liked me..so i waited for him to ask me out..he finally did and when we went out it was awkward..our dates werent that great and we had nothing to talk about..but for some reason i still really liked him.so i gave him sum chances until i went on mysoace and saw some comments he put on some other girls's profiles sayin"ill see u tonight gurl" and wat up sexy"..i talked to him and he said he was jus playing...i got so mad that i called him 5 hrs later b-cuz it couldnt leave my mind he was working and thats wen i told him it was over.....so advice to u girls if ur with someone and u know its not right from the start dont bother sticking around find ur self somebody new..b-cuz connection cant be fixed..in my believing though...
Posted by tiffany 07/18/08 5:20 PM
 
Wow... do you guys really write like that? Aiddah I don't even know what you are trying to say.
Posted by Static 07/17/08 3:59 PM
 
Breakups are sooo hard to do
Posted by christina 07/17/08 3:39 PM
 
Am 21 n married to a 28 yr old guy.we hav had 3 breakups all of them together in a row.he had a son with another woman n we live with him.i take keya of him as a mommy that i do not really even go to work.but the problem with the dude is that he always has r/ships that make him see lyk aint important in his lyf but now its 2painful to stomach the doggin,his violence n beeing underestimated.av made up my mind for good.i wanna move on with ma lyf n career.ready to face my problems as a woman.
Posted by Aiddah 07/17/08 12:40 PM



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