sex for girls is emotional no matter what they say some girls deny it but its a proven fact so throwing yourself out there to a random guy that doesnt care about you, or doing it just to keep a guy you like only hurts you plain and simple makes you look bad too and dont expect the guy to understand cause in the moment he's just worried about feeling good not worried about how it affects you, you're the one that has to deal with the emotional consequences later while he's out with another girl again only worried about how he feels, guys dont feel as connected as often as girls do so they don't even realize that they hurt you, they are thinking that it was a pleasurable experience for YOU too, with no strings attatched. some girls like the idea of a hookup no strings attatched but they feel the emotional damage later so to make a long story short all girls are emotionaly hurt by casual sex at some point it leaves them feeling empty, lowers their self esteem (again most girls wont admit this either) and makes them feel like they're not worth love i wish guys would stop for a minute and think while they are getting a moment of pleasure they are causing soo much hurt in the long run. So if all women were being honest they would tell you that there is realy no such thing as sex with no strings attatched if they dont feel it now it catches up to them eventualy

sex for girls is emotional no matter what they say some girls deny it but its a proven fact so throwing yourself out there to a random guy that doesnt care about you, or doing it just to keep a guy you like only hurts you plain and simple makes you look bad too and dont expect the guy to understand cause in the moment he's just worried about feeling good not worried about how it affects you, you're the one that has to deal with the emotional consequences later while he's out with another girl again only worried about how he feels, guys dont feel as connected as often as girls do so they don't even realize that they hurt you, they are thinking that it was a pleasurable experience for YOU too, with no strings attatched. some girls like the idea of a hookup no strings attatched but they feel the emotional damage later so to make a long story short all girls are emotionaly hurt by casual sex at some point it leaves them feeling empty, lowers their self esteem (again most girls wont admit this either) and makes them feel like they're not worth love i wish guys would stop for a minute and think while they are getting a moment of pleasure they are causing soo much hurt in the long run. So if all women were being honest they would tell you that there is realy no such thing as sex with no strings attatched if they dont feel it now it catches up to them eventualy

Im so glad i watched yesterdays show i have been waiting all day to watch that and i wanted to let Tyra know that i learned alot from that and i love the topics you have for every one of your shows that you have but this one was the It one. Oh and when that guy proposed to that girl woooooooooooooooooooooooh that was cute but ya almost every advice you gave those women were unbelievable and i hope u have an up coming show just like that one!! Keep it up Girl !! And dont let no one put u down!! Boy i wish i came to your show some day!!

I believe both men and women should wait until marriage. If they go by Bible priciapals they will respect thire bodies,form thier youth up.

Dear Tyra,
I watched the hooking up program yesterday.
Strong relationships are very hard to come by.
I am a guidance counselor for teens.

It has been shown that the best way to build a relationships is from the ground up--get to know each others hopes, dreams and who you are. Then the physical part of a relationship including sexual intercourse is the gift that you give to each other in marriage.

We are not animals. We have a mind and self-control. Animals don't have the ability to make choices and that makes humans very different in their sex drive. We know as psychologists and counselors that having sex is a very small part of a healthy relationship in marrriage. People don't have to have sex and especially at l4 years old to be happy and fulfilled.

You need to think about doing another show on waiting until marraige to have sexual intercourse and show young women what a loving relationship really is. and how that love grows and develops without hooking up.

Talking or not being able to talk to ones parents or teachers about having sex is not the reason kids do or don't have sex. It is their need to be loved and they can learn that love does not include sex until they are married. Love is holding hands, kissing gently, sharing dreams and goals and making the world a better place.

Please think about doing a show that really shows young woman what true love entails. It is hard work=but worth it. Jason Everett and his wife have a national program that helps young people make loving choices and build strong families.
It can be found on the internet.

Good luck with your ability to affect lives for the good of their future.

Mary Easterday

Hi. Tyra, I hope you read your emails and see how upset you made some mothers like me with the show hook ups. The way you and the show handled the mother of the fourteen year old was so disrespectful. I admit the communication barrier must be broken down for future generations. I am a product of old school methods and I am trying to change that for my daughters. What happen on your show with that family was so nasty(thats the way I see it). Its like you made it worst for that mother, because you are a role model and that girl is proably given that mother grief thanks to you. I am a mother of three daughters and I teach them that they can talk to me about anything but they also know how special they are, their virginity is priceless and how they do not have to look for love and feel touched by a man to make them happy. I recently found out about a disease that I may have and its not funny. That mom is correct on how she feels. This world as modern as it may be is also corrupt. So many different diseases, I want to protect my kids because condoms do not protect you from diseases that you may think . The Dr was so nasty to her. He proably knows nothing about raising a child. Please, stick to what you know or atleast have people on your show that have more respect. You may have your own views on life but do not put someone else down for theirs. You are not psychic. You dont know whether she will come to her mother or not about whats going on in her life. Its not just about the 14 year old, its about trust, respect, standards and morals. I pray that what you and MR. know it all said doesnt tear up a home. I hope that girl still respects her mother. Be careful tyra of how you claim to be a role model.

Tyra,

I watched you show on "hooking up" and it shows the world alot of truths about it. I am a 16 year old girl who has had sex. I lost my mom to cervical cancer December 22,2005. So i live with my grandma and I haven't told her that I am sexual active because I know she would be anger with me. She has always told me sex is something that should be saved for marriage. I don't agree with her on that. Sex doesn't have to wait til marriage but it should involve emotions. I lost my virginity almost a year ago to someone who I didn't love but I do care for him.It wasn't planned and we didn't use protection.I know it wasn't what my grandma wanted so she doesn't know. So the mother of that 14 year old girl needs to be careful and be open to her daughter because most teenagers are having sex but are to scared to tell their parents until it's to late.
XOXO Gabby

hey tyra ok here is my story im 13 years old and i have been dating my boyfriend for 1 1/2 years.we didnt ask each other out my bestfriend dates his best friend and they made us go out with each other.at first we were both like what is going on and then like a week later we couldnt even be away from each other. ever sense that day we have never faught, called each other names, or anything.this arrange relationshis is the best relationship i ever will have.it is a mature relationship. we hang out at the mall and everything when i go over to his house i tell him that i need to see the tyra show he saids that im obsessed with your show. I TOTALLY AM.so thats how me and him hooked up

lol....i had a happy hook-up! i had gone through a horrible divorce, followed by an abusive relationship. then i just went to hang out with a guy i had only met twice and ended up spending the night the first time we went out....we've pretty much lived together ever since! we've been together for a year and a half now and eventhough we've had our ups and downs, i've never been happier!

hey Tyra,
I just wanted to say I'm one of those one in a trillion to be a happy hook up, I never had a boyfriend growing up just cause i had 3 brothers and my oldest brother always would tell me about how sleazy men can be and not to bother with them until i knew (he said I'd understand it inside.)I was 17 when i first "hooked up" with my boyfriend and he was the first and only man I've been with, Carson and I met when I was 14, he was one of my brothers friends. Now I'm 19 and were two years together have our own apartment together and two cats which are our babies for now, only because we set goals and a plan for each other, we wanna buy a house then take a month to travel through 10 different countries and somewhere in there get married and then settle down and then have kids. It was just kinda crazy how everything fell into place. were happy and in love! It can happen which i think is meant for those two people that wonder around wondering if there is that other person our there for them. because they were meant to be. and that's Carson and i perfectly!
I love your show and the topics you pick to expose and it's the topics other people are scared to even touch.

Thanks so much for all you do!!

Tyra
I am a 16 year old high school girl, and I just got done watching this episode. I think what was said with the young 14 year old was handled very well on your and your Dr.'s part. I started having sex over a year ago. My mom always told me not to have sex. She mad it sound scary, she told me not to have it until I was old enough, when is old enough? I was so scared to tell my mom I was having sex because I knew she would yell at me, but by the time she found out it was to late. I was a pregnant high school student.
Yes, there is a line between your mom being your friend and your mother, but what is so bad about her being both? Why cant she be the mother who is your friend you can go to and talk to, isnt that what friends are for? Girls AND boys should feel safe talking to their parents about anything, even sex.
Sex is a natural thing for every living being, people think about sex, SO WHAT! And guess what people even have sex OMG. If the young people werent so affraid to talk about sex, we could educate them, and they could have safe sex. And the people to blame about them being so scared are the people who make sex sound so bad and horrid. Guess what! You had sex once to.
I love Tyra and I am so glad she brought a younger person into this episode! ROCK ON TYRA

Hi Tyra
I loVe watching ur shows, i also think that ur a wonderful roll model. But i need ur advise or ur opinion. I was watching ur show(the one that u invited Ray j). Well i was wondering is it ok to date or hook-up with ur brother's friend/roommate. Or should i just not go there and not do anything with my brother's friend. I am a flirtatious girl but i am scared that he will tell poeple and somebody with tell my brother.

I like your shows coz they are electrifying
and I always can not afford to miss even one.

I agree w/ 4real and MANY MANY others. You are not a mother, you never talk about having a dad, so I assume that's why you and your mom have the typical "best friends" relationship instead of the normal mom. Having a mom that acts like a mom is ok. GOD FORBID a mother get mad b/c she doesn't want her daughter to get knocked up, std's, or maybe even have *GASP* standards.. oh no... there needs to be more parents like that mom. You will be ashamed someday if you ever get married or have kids and watch your own show later in life.

I'm not watching your trashy show anymore.

hi tyra my name is mikal can you please tell me how to be a real model like beauty and the best. please i want to be like you and i have this wish for about a years.i have the the height and the body and since i live in addis i couldn't get any one who can give the wide and big advice like you. please please tyra help me to be a supermodel.

hi tyra my name is mikal can you please tell me how to be a real model like beauty and the best. please i want to be like you and i have this wish for about a years.i have the the height and the body and since i live in addis i couldn't get any one who can give the wide and big advice like you. please please tyra help me to be a supermodel.

Tyra, I am one of your biggest fans, EVER. But Ma!! You had no business encouraging that fourteen year old to have sex. Maybe you felt the need to have sex but that is way inappropriate for a 14 year old. Again, TYRA!!! I AM BY FAR ONE OF YOUR GREATEST FANS. I understand that sometimes we make bad decisions. But when you raise your child to respect you and your wishes that child often times will not disappoint you. The doctor made a comment that the Samara's mother was making it up herself. Which I disagree. She has an expectation of her daughter. It was inappropriate for your show to undermind this parent. We teach our children to trust our judgement because we are older and wiser. We teach our child to trust us as parents, the child then knows the parent will not advice he/she to do anything bad for that child. When a child is raised with self confidence he or she will not participate in an activity because it is popular amongst ones peers.

Again, I LOVE YOU. But Ma, that wasn't a good look.

OHHHHHHHH
And I hope your hate mail viewers are redaing this like I know you are TY...
Blaming the rich and famous for the way teeenager acts now is not the soultion to the problem! T.V. and music is not your childs influence!!!!!!!!!!
It's the lack of being "uneducated"
Hear me out befoe you think i'm being RUDE I wouldn't want to do that? LmAO
SORRY!
You say it's important to talk to teens now about sex?????? How if your so uptight about it?Will you son or daughter even feel comfortable with you if they are ready?Lack of understanding = no knowlege!Take a good look around and tell me if your raising your child or is entertainment!
Mabye your daughter will have more in comon with TY since she seems so easy to talk to???Damn girl even your talking to her?

I hate HATE MAIL!!!!

Soooo True girl....
I personally think that a friend as a lover is the altimate pleasure package because you feel comfortable with him?(TRUE)
He becomes the ear as well as the security along side the intamacy.... eveything follows kind of naturally! Cant even begin to explain the level of emotions that elavte your heart! I know from experience because i'll never forget falling in love with my best friend! The only thing that makes this situation difficult is if you break up and cant remain friends! Which most of the time doesnt work out well? But if you were true friends indeed, you'll remain true friends in the end! Right?

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I have never been more disappointed in the TYRA show. That one show should have educated teenagers on the emotional, spiritual and physical consequences of sex. I'm 25 and had sex when I was 18 and even now regret that. The one gift that I wish I had to be able to give to my future husband is sex. Sex is meant to be shared with somebody you LOVE not some random stranger. Your show just validated women having casual sex. How do we expect kids today to be leaders tomorrow if they're too busy "hooking up"! We think today that mother's need to be their kids best friend. It's called tough love for a reason. I agree that a teenager should be able to talk about sex with their parents but they also need to understand that it is not okay. I'm wish I knew what the point of that show was because it definitely gave out false perceptions of casual sex and the consequences. The audience was laughing half the time as you were TYRA acting as if it's a joke. This just proves that society is seriously losing grip on reality. I am happy to know that many viewers agree with me and that there are still many people out there that haven't lost their mind. We all need to go back and look at the bible. In the bible, you had sex to marry a person. What if it was like that today? And that one lady was right, what man is going to want to be with a woman if she's been with half the country?