So I watched that show and I has very hurt by some of the things that were said about stay at home moms, and working moms. I am a stay at home mom for 5 days a week and work 2 overnight shifts. I have a one year old and I 4 year old. And I do soo much at home and with my boys!!! I really don't thinks it matters if you are a stay at home mom or a working Mom. Bottom line is just be a Good mom that is there for your kids and loves them!!!! We all have different lives .... so if you work great and if you don't great just be there in your kids lives that's all.....

i just love giving my opinion about these kinds of subjects. Okay firs of all i'm a stay at home mom. I used to work before i got married. After pregnancy things just haven't been the same, for me anyhow i'm a first time mom. I look up to mothers who work full time. They can do it all, but they do lose that time with their kids. And mothers who stay at home lose a kind of freedom, and power at the same time. I don't know how to explain this, but i feel that way. I've been so used to working i feel like i'm just not satisfied with my life. Not that it is bad staying at home but everybody has to sacrifice something in life. You don't know the situation of those moms who work, or those moms who stay at home. I say this subject is just a way to keep on judging people. Thank God that women can work and be mothers at home now a days. Everybody has a choice and everybody should respect that. Now if somebody has to say something about me being a stay at home mom, all i have to say is..ARE YOU GOING TO PAY MY DAYCARE? lol

There was a comment on here about depending on a man. You should know who that man is before you have kids with him. The man is depnending on you to stay home and teach the kids some value. I believe more moms need to stay at home and raise their kids and stop paying daycares to do it. My mom was a stay at home mom and I graduated with an advanced diploma from high school and went to college. Why have kids if all you do is pawn them off on a daycare because all you care about is money and power?? That is one of the problems in society today is the family structure. Both parents want to work and basically buy their kids love instead of living off of a budget, one parent stay home and be with their family. Fathers too need to step up and help the stay at home mom so that she doesn't feel used.

This is a sensitive subject. I've worked as a single parent with dignity,independance,freedom and respect. I am now married and have 4 boys at 31 and a husband. I don't work anymore and feel like my self worth has gone down the toilet. I was a fashion diva, great self esteem. Being a stay at home mom/wife is so much harder then i ever would have imagined.I am not me i am a caretaker.My marriage is failing and i feel like i'm not good at parenting. If i could i think i would love to have a chance to work. I don't believe there is a difference of woman or men who work and raise a family then not.
I believe it's how strong you are as a individuale.

HI TYRA =]
UMMM... WELL I THINK THAT EITHER TYPE OF MOM WORKS BECAUSE IF YOU CAN DO YOU AN BE A WORKIN MOTHER OR STAY AT HOME MOTHER AS LONG AS YOU AN YOURE FAMILY ARE HAPPY AN YOUR KIDS LOVE YOU THAN IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT KIND OF MOM YOU ARE AS LONG AS YOUR LOVED FOR BEING YOU AN FOR WHAT YOU DO FOR YOUR FAMILY.

stay at home moms rock!!! talk about self sacrifice...

career moms - i get it and while financially, you give your child a lot - time (and love) is the most valuable resource you have, and you'll never get it back.

i feel this way because my mom worked long hours away from home and all i wanted as a kid was to be with mommy but i couldn't. by the time, she realized she'd made a mistake by not being there for me, i was already used to her pushing me away. so guess what i tend to do - push her away.

i hope that when i have my children, i can fulfill their emotional needs... i'm scared because of where i came from, but staying at home will be a step in the right direction for me. ultimately, who's going to care for my own child better than me? i've worked at day cares and while i love children and would never hurt someone else's child, i didn't have the vested interest i will have when i'm caring for my own children.

I usually enjoy watching Tyra, but this show was such a disapointment! Enough bashing other women's choices! Every woman is different and every situation is different. As long as a woman and her family are happy with the decision, then go with it - stay at home, work, or juggle both.
I am staying home with my son and love it... but I have friends that couldn't wait to get back to work. To each her own. This is a tough decision for everyone. There is not a best choice - there is a choice that is best for each situation. (And, not all women are lucky enough to be able to have a choice. )
Isn't it time we give other women a break instead of getting on a soap box of one being better than the other?
I was waiting for Tyra to say something to unite the two sides at the end, but there was nothing...

I'm 16 and when ever i have my children I will be a stay at home mom for awhile.As soon as i can work i will.I dont think I will get use to having to depend on a man.My mom is a single mother and i learned this for her experiance.NEVER in my life will i have to depend on a man.I hate when women do that.Men can easily use the money thing against you.Why do that when you can stand on your own two feet?I work and my boyfriend doesn't.Im always going to depend on myself.And for breast feeding.I dont think i want to do that either.Thats way to painful.

Tyra,
I am 12 years old and i dont think it matters if you work are not. There are advantages and disadvantages for both. This is like saying girls are better than boys. If your a girl you'd say girls are better. If your were a boy you'd say boys are better.

My sentiments exactly, Heather.

I can't believe such an uneducated woman as Tyra has a daytime show while Dr. Laura, who actually SUPPORTS and VALUES mothering, is stuck on AM radio.

Tyra, please please please read some medical/scholarly books on extended breastfeeding. Your first one should be "Breastfeeding: Biocultural Perspectives," by Katherine Dettwyler, PhD. Its available on Amazon.

And to all the SAHMs who posted on here who are having such a hard time (the lady in the country with no car comes to mind), find some websites on attachment parenting and homeschooling ideas so you can create an enriching and satisfying environment for yourself and your kids.

well i wish i hadnt missed the breastfeeding episode! lol it sounded like a good one..will it air again?
breastfeeding is a great choice! it helps you bond with your baby, gives them nutrition that formula cant, and its easier...no bottles to warm or formula to mix...now breastfeeding until thier 7-8 is just going over board, by this age they should be eating regular food..would you give your kid who is 7-8 a bottle?! i dont see a diffrence. but to each thier own...i think its wrong

Hello Tyra!
First I wanna say I love your show, the topics are great! I have been a single mother since Ive been 20yrs old..my daughter is now 11. its very hard...but i thank God everyday for my parents...im one of the few lucky ones to have such a great support system, my mom is the best! God has really provided for me, i love my job, but i feel if a woman DOES NOT have to work they shouldnt..if i didnt have to i would not work. kids need thier momthers home with them to monitor them and know what is going on with them. especially as they get older.I think in part that has alot to do with the way kids act today. another reason is parents dont raise thier kids to know God.

For me being a working mom is best for several reasons. 1. I am a single mom. If I don't work who is going to provide for my child? 2. Working gives me a break from my child allowing me to have conversations with other adults, and keep my sanity 3. I love my job not many people can say that. Without my job that would take a piece of me, part of what makes me who I am.

For me being a working mom is best for several reasons. 1. I am a single mom. If I don't work who is going to provide for my child? 2. Working gives me a break from my child allowing me to have conversations with other adults, and keep my sanity 3. I love my job not many people can say that. Without my job that would take a piece of me, part of what makes me who I am.

I think that a good mother is one that loves there children and takes care of them, whether they are home or not. I am currently active duty military and so is my husband. i had the choice to be a stay at home mom or keep my job. i decided to stay in the military because of income and because i love working. every person is different. i did watch the tyra show and i've heard alot of critism from people, but i dont think that people should be bashing on her. everyone is going to have there own opinions and i give moms who stay at home just as much credit as working moms. one thing that did get me was the whole breastfeeding mother. i dont think that you should be breastfeeding a child that old. there is a certain age when the child learns that women and men are different and for an 8 year old to be still breastfeeding from the breast, well it just seems alittle out there. i've had this conversation with alot of mothers and fathers and ive done some research. i agree strongly with breast milk being very healthy and good for a baby, but i think you should stop when your child starts eating regular foods. (Solids). i'd like to hear what other people think about breastfeeding a child that old?

I think that there are pros and cons to both sides. Stay at home moms (which I am) are there with their children to give them the parental support that they need. They can handle everything first hand, and don't have to worry about babysitters or the money to pay the babysitters or anything like that. However, Ican tell you from experince that it starts to feel like after awhile that you aren't you anymre. What I mean is that by being with the children 24-7 you start to feel like that is alllfe is about, and don't get me wrong, your children should ALWAYS comefirst, but sometimes you just need to take care of yourself. As for working moms, I think that people need to give them a break. I know some working moms that are closer to their kids than the stay at home moms. They are doing what they feel is right, and whats wrong with wanting to go ahead with your career? Why have kids someone asked? Well why not? They aren't neglecting kids they are simply doing something for themselves. Everyone needs to get over it and stop bashing working moms. The women who put them down really need to get a life.

IF MOMS ARE GOING TO CHOOSE THEIR CAREER OVER THEIR CHILDREN, THEY WHY HAVE THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE?

I think working moms are just jealous of the fact that they cannot afford to be a stay at home moms. If those two selfish working women on the show were being 100% honest with their views, they are the most selfish women I have ever met. I am sure there kids will be the ones doing drugs and getting pregnant in their teen years.

Keep it up SAHM'S!! Working moms... SHAME ON YOU!

theres no right or wrong. i personally know my patience level and what i can tollerate and i can handle my childern pretty well but there r those times that i wished i worked for that few hours away and with others. but my situation is i dont drive yet! if i could take my son whos 3 to the park ( im in the county no parks around.) with my 3 month which is a bit complicated but manageable. anyways so for me a part time jobs is needed or my drivers licence :D but again that s for me i have been a stay at home more for awhile like almost 4 years now. my 3 yr old was in daycare and i was always worried what if they didnt take care of him how does he feel when i leave what if hes being mistreated how do i know hes to young to tell me. it was uncomfortable for me. especially when the daycare workers are young still in high school. but now my husband and i have agreed to the idea of me working and i feel alot better knowing i might actually make a few friends or have a few hours to socialize with others. my kids are amazing but it is also to provide for them to. we need them money. so based on a persons situationthats how it should be determined. if u can afford to stay home for a few months with ur newborn then do it. but if your in need and dont want to lose your house theres no harm in a part time job. it doesnt have to be full time 24/7 but something. if i had a play date group or more adult around then my mom or mother in law then id stay at home. as long as u love your child and communicate and are open you shouldnt have a problem. one thing i told my mom tho was that i was mad because she worked alot all day alot and i never knew how to do my hair or makeup she didnt teach me how to cook. damn i knew how to clean we had chores so she didnt have to but i feel if i have a little girl i am going to put in my time no matter what. boys are easier (for me) because they play and wont care about girly stuff when there older :D but girls need to know they can depend on mom.
im blabbing. always remember that no matter what your situation is theres always help and ppl you can go to for advice. as long as your a sane loving mother you can work or stay at home. its up to the person not the media or other.
kids are fun but man there are days when u can wish you worked :D