O.K. everyone... as a Black young man(17)... i agree with many of the things mentioned on the show for both sides male and female. This is the problem, as a Black Race we have deeper issues with ourselves than we would like to admit up to. Our whole lives we see being white as right or in other words things like; "Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, Pocahontas, etc., have been forced upon us and have influenced our thinking... our mental preferences. I have grown up in Suburban, majority white, neighborhoods, in which Blonde Haired, Blue Eyed, girls/women have been praised. I do not date white girls but I would! My problem and the problem with the Black Race is that we wanna claim that we are "Black and Proud," and we're not... not really. We want to have straight hair, light green/blue eyes, and light skin for the most part. Yes, I do feel that Black women are beautiful but I am attracted to those things because it was instilled in me. The funny thing is, is that my family is against mixed raced relationships but we all want to be light skinned, with light eyes, and long silky hair! i could go on and on... but that's the gist of it!

I watch Tyra all the time and I was very please to know that this topic was covered today .I think that this topic was not addressed in depth .. The real true problem between black females and males stems from slavery , and the teaching that we are not good enough for each other if you read the willie lynch theory about how we are pitched to hate and distrust in each other you will then see the true problem betwween black females and males. We have to first get right with ourselves before we date other races. Black men that do not show appreciation for all the essence and beauty of a black women will show not show appreciation and hommage for their mothers who birth them. To say demeaning things about the black female by saying she is controlling and not attentive to the black man would be directly spitting in your mothers face since someone that looks just like her raised you fed you and clothed you. You see this is only confirming what slavery has done to us as a people . White is not superior even though so of us have thought that in the pass. In order to know what the real root of the problem is we should very much dive into our history books and then and only then is when we can we begin recticfy some of the damage that has been done to our brothers and sisters.

I just watched saw this episode on Oxygen and I agreed with alot of the things that were said. I just turned 30 and I recently got married, to a White man, before that I was VERY single. I use to hear that I was intimidating and that I look like I don't play games. What does that mean? I think that all of us sistas want someone who is going to be real with us. Also I don't really fit the model that I think appeals to some guys from what I have seen and been told. I have natural hair, I wear a 14, have two jobs, don't curse or drink. I think I come off square to alot of guys but brothers have an idea about me before they get to know me. I think I get pigenhold sometimes. I decided in college that I wasn't waiting for my "Nubian King". I was waiting for a man that was worthy of me and loved all aspects of me. I mean brothas aren't sitting around waiting on us, we should explore our options just like they do.

Why is it always about race? Aren't we all facing the same issues? Don't we all want to find love, be successful, live healthy? White women, asian women, BLACK women, native american women, indian women, who cares what race a women is. All women face hardships. All women face the fear of being alone. All women have issues about raising children alone. My mom is White. Her husband left her with two small children. She was just a kid herself. The system said "Can't help ya, if only you were a "minority". When I went to apply for college I got NO special help because my parents are considered "white" and yet they were too broke to send me to college. My dad fell off a roof and tore his arm out. The person at the assistance office told him that he couldn't get help for himself and my brother while he was unable to work because he wasn't a "minority". Way to reward a vet, right? Each year my grandparents head up a program called "santa express" that helps low income families during the holidays. There were hispanic people driving up in Escalades(multiple women, no men to be more presise), covered in jewelry, demanding more and screaming predjudice when they only got enough for their family and 5k poverty level families, a majority with cacausion parents didn't get the assistance because of the simple fact that they weren't a minority. I understand the predjudice thing from a hypothetical point of view but in my experience its more so the "minority" groups shouting it out against the ones being accused of it. I have seen reverse racism my whole life. I could care less about what color your skin is, what your first language is, or what your religion is.

I do not know what was said on this show.How ever I do know that thier is an intial root of evil that bring about issues that black women and black people have as a whole, and I know that thier is a root of evil actions that I feel a majority of black women impose upon thier own people which bring about the issues facing black women. I have a few breif examples: A very common issue is the hair texture thing. This issue came about when black people decided to let proud white america dictate to what is not a natural reality for the "typical black feature in america". Here in america black people-we call our selves- are not known for having straight or wavy or smooth curly hair. We ended pay more attention to the kinky hair type and developing a hate for it more than "masser" has or could even fathom. eg: name calling,harrasment, shunning,etc... This is one issue that black people have which has led to some of the unnessasary violence a hate amongst us. HOW PITY-FULL IS THAT? Another issue is th respect issue which according to those black women who are guilty, base thier level of respect on either race or if you are on thier individual social scale. For example: The receptionist or sales who is uptight or nonshilant with a black client. Or vice-versa. What happens? the receptionist falls short of giving her best service or showing her best behavior. The same happens with black customers who are guilty:They are non-receptive towards black workers and will point out something wrong with them no matter how excellent they were. As for the social scale; I like to pick on the black woman who is less fortunate in speech/other things and thinks that

WOW! You know I am a white women and obviously dont know what its like to be a black women BUT I CAN indeed say this is being way blown out of proportion. I want to know WHY WHY WHY do some black women find it such a big deal if a black man is with a white women? Why do you take that situation and turn it into "our black men dont treat us right"? How do you even find it necessary to take a relationship/marriage between a white women and black man and get defensive? It has NOTHING to do with you! My husband is black, we have been together 8 yrs. JUST b/c he is black HAS nothing to do with any other black person in this world. YOU ARENT ALL RELATED! Every black man OR women doesnt owe anything to the next black person regarding the way they live life. GET OVER IT! WOW! It is honestly self issues if you do have a problem with it. I could care LESS who some white man I dont even know dates/marries-why would I care? If you just cincern yourself with you and yours all this bitterness and hate wouldnt be an issue. Grow up! WHO CARES what color you are? EVERYONE has their own preferences and we are all intitled to that. NO one race is better then another. Its how you portray YOURSELF as you! FORGET race! It sickens me to see white women getting talked about like we steal ur men and they want us b/c we have no backbone! GET REAL! I have ALL THE BACKBONE I need, I have a 26 yr old man who use to be very premiscuos and into the party life and he settled down for me, a white

Tyra, I am a 25 year old African American female. I have a bachelors degree in political science from a prominent HBCU and am working on my masters degree. I am educated, and God fearing, and have no problems meeting good black men who enjoy the company of good black women. I must agree with an earlier post, and I DO hope that you will read this. I really appreciate what you were trying to do on this program. I am assuming you were trying to shed some light on issues that affect black women of today and perhaps bring some healing to the wounds that so many of us suffer from. Having a deep love for my people, I have always been very passionate about Black issues, and I like to see that forums to discuss Black issues are handled appropriately. I tuned in skeptically because there are always ignorant people who jump at the chance to have their opinions heard on these topics, and often times they do more harm than good, and I am easily irritated when that turns out to be the case. But nevertheless, I decided to give the show a chance. For the most part, I was appalled by what I saw and heard. Even though you had an audience full of beautiful black women, I do not think that the show in general, the topics in particular, especially the panelists served to be of any useful purpose to the cause and concerns of black women. In fact, they did more harm than good. Let me explain my point. The panel to begin with was stacked with black men spouting anti black woman sentiment (always helpful), with the exception of one man who professed his love for weave (as if thats making some significant

Tyra. Have you ever considered tackling the dreaded issue about Black women that all others seem to have been afraid to address? I am talking about Bad Attitude. Often times black women have dismissed the obvious displays of bad attitudes as demonstrations of being "Strong" and/or "assertive". I think rising to the heights of success against many obstacles is showing strength and necessary assertiveness. Yelling and throwing tantrums in a chinese restaurant because the server did not understand what you said; as what I observed in my 'hood, is a display of Bad Attitude. It is a problem that is rampant among black women of all ages and stations and it is encouraged by most of you, not some of you. I am sure you yourself have been guilty of this and black women in the west in particular and the world in general need to acknowledge the problem and change it.

Hello. I wanted to comment on the hair issue and black women also. Some of your blonde dyed audience members claimed that their desire to have blonde hair and one's claim that she though it was so attractive even as a child, shows that deep down in some and superficially in others the black women that dye their hair that color do want to be white like if not white entirely. Furthermore I think if Black women and girls would stop using terms like once of your audience members used; "long flowing hair", or terms like "good", "soft", and "pretty" when they describe wavy or straight hair they would not think so little of their natural hair. The desire to have hair other than what they were born with is pervasive among even/especially sisters in church. That is projected onto young black girls, making them feel within that only permed hair or artificially lengthened hair is acceptable in a house of worship. This self dismissal of natural hair will never be eradicated until black women start to hone up to their prejudices and bad institutions in black culture.

You know Tyra, I notice how although your show talked about hair, and other topics in addressing this state of black women show, the audience seemed to be most riled up by the so called unavailability of black men and the allegedly frequent instances of black male and non-black female interracial coupling. I wonder if you or your audience ever stop to wonder what it means that even though Essence claims 73% of interracial relations involve a black man, have you noticed that for at least 74 years about 95% of interracial relations depicted in film, Television, books and plays have involved white men with all types of women of color including Black women. How do you think that makes black men feel about our desirability to our women?

Hello Everyone well my opinion on the tyra show is that it does give out good tips and also its very fun to watch sometimes tyra might ignore someone but it is that she works too hard i just hope that everyone understands that but either way we all enjoy her show

I am a huge fan of the tyra show, but for many reasons, I do not believe this whole controversy between white/black women should have been addressed. Tyra probably did not mean to appear hostile towards white women who are with black men, but that is the message that she portrayed. My dad is black and my mom is white, and I found Tyra's position and opinions offensive considering the fact that I have two great parents. All women, black women in particular, need to realize that men choose to be with who they want and are not stolen. They are entitled to make their own choices.

I am a huge fan of the tyra show, but for many reasons, I do not believe this whole controversy between white/black women should have been addressed. Tyra probably did not mean to appear hostile towards white women who are with black men, but that is the message that she portrayed. My dad is black and my mom is white, and I found Tyra's position and opinions offensive considering the fact that I have two great parents. All women, black women in particular, need to realize that men choose to be with who they want and are not stolen. They are entitled to make their own choices.

Hi ladies, I havent read all of the comments on this topic. I missed this episode of the show and hate that I did because I can relate to what some people are commenting on. I am an african american woman dating outside of my race....I am dating a WHITE man and have absolutely no problem with it. At first, people were giving me grief about it, black men cutting their eyes at me, but in the end it doesnt matter what people say or think about our interracial relationship. We have to get off of this race horse we seem to be riding on and have an open mind to interracial relationships of any sort. Black men date white women, and we black women seem to have a problem with it. . . a black man dating a white woman is not a mistake...allow him to be happy and stop hating on him and his woman...go find your own happiness and stop worrying about what he's doing and who he's doing it with. My boyfriend treats me like a queen, and I have yet to have a complaint. Everyone is different and everyone has their divine right to date whoever they want. Do you think that your ignorance about interracial relationships make things better? Let Go and Let God! God doesn't shun out his children who are interracially mixing, so why should we? Dating outside of your race is not as bad as we're making it. We're spilling out so many stereotypes- - these stereotypes are the main reason why we as a people are stuck in a box, an ignorant box! If we don't get out, we will self-destruct.

TIHIS IS A MESSAGE TO MISSIRIS. FUNNY you say that! B/c I AM a white women married to a black man who IS INDEED faithful to me and RESPECTS me and knows what I desrve as a person and I am the same for him. AND to clear things up HUN......I grew up with NO "WHITE" DAD to take care of my resonsibilites nor my mothers, and my husband (who is black)DAD raised him ALONE! So when you get to stereotyping us WHITE women like you just did you should get your facts straight. COLOR doesnt decide the way u are brought up and I am sorry to break it to ya but all white girls arent raised Brady Bunch as all black girls arent raised in a broken home. My husband and I put BOTH out incomes together to raise our BEAUTIFUL little boys. IN MY OPINION (as I have many black friends) the ONE & ONLY reason a black girl would have these views of "white women take our men" or howeveryou would like to put it, is b/c they are bitter and insecure. I am sorry for ya. To each his own and GET OVER UR RACISIM!!!