Hi Tyra, I too watched your show yesterday and it was right on time. I am a 22 year old African American female with a B.A. in Spanish Education from a Big Ten School and I often wonder why it is so hard to find a young single black gentleman. I'm unsure as to why your male guests think there are no good black women out there because obviously, we're all posting on this site! The question is, "Do you really think we are not there, or do you choose not to see us?" We are here and I think the disconnect may lie in where black men are looking for us. Most of the time, we are not the girls slow gridin' on the dance floor at the local club. We are at coffee shops, bookstores, libraries, work, etc. We may even be your closest friends. More importantly, one of the biggest reasons why I think we go unnoticed is because most of us will not go out of our ways to ask YOU (guys) for YOUR number. We wait patiently to see if you will take the initiative and many times because of this, we are seen as the shy girl who "just isn't your type".

Hi Tyra, I too watched your show yesterday and it was right on time. I am a 22 year old African American female with a B.A. in Spanish Education from a Big Ten School and I often wonder why it is so hard to find a young single black gentleman. I'm unsure as to why your male guests think there are no good black women out there because obviously, we're all posting on this site! We are here and I think the disconnect may lie in where black men are looking for us. Most of the time, we are not the girls slow gridin' on the dance floor at the local club. We are at coffee shops, bookstores, libraries, work, etc. We may even be your closest friends. More importantly, one of the biggest reasons why I think we go unnoticed is because most of us will not go out of our ways to ask YOU (guys) for YOUR number. We wait patiently to see if you will take the initiative and many times because of this, we are seen as the shy girl who "just isn't your type".

Hello Tyra,my name is Rashied and I saw the show yesturedy and I thought it was a very good show. The one thing that I would like to say is I heard someone on the show say that black women are so demanding.Well the reason why I think and know they do thatis because they want these men to ACT like men.So many men now a days think it is cool to liveof women and have 2 and 3 girlfriends. Plusthey mis treat women. I look at me like that asbeing punks. What a real man is some one that supports and protects his family. To me that is what men are suppose to do. That is why men are stronger than women because they are suppose to be the protecters and mantainers of their family.Now a days you have men running from their duties so it is left up to women to take the place of men which in my eyes is not right. This Tyra Ithink why more black women are single because all the black men are running from who they are suppose to be. Its crazy.

I watched your show Tyra and I thought it was very good. I am a young black woman and the message to "us" on the end really touched me. I also dont understand what is the problem with weaves...Personally i dont wear one but they are cute and I actually want one. And Tyra what u said about men wanting a girl with long hair but no weave is so true. Most Black women don't naturally have long hair so i think men in general should get over the weave thing. We wear them and we love them....can we MOVE ON

I saw your show yesterday. I think some black women are having trouble finding black men because they are ugly. Now I am not saying all black women are ugly because they are some beautiful women like you Tyra. Overweight black women should not try to feel special because they know they wouldnt date a fat black man like themselves. Unless all overweight black women have an illness that led to their weight their is no need for them to be stuffing their faces with food all the time. I love my life and I love being a black male who loves beautiful black women WHO TAKE CARE OF THEIR PHYSICAL LOOK AND INNER LOOK. P.S. This is coming from a new yorker's perspective.

I saw the show last night and my frustration that came back was how true the issues addressed were. I'm 28 and never married, single mother, finished my BA in media and now I'm working towards becoming a certified teacher but the truth remains...my dating experience have been a nightmare. Its not because the men are horrible but it has a great deal to do with commitment, loyalty and respect for me as a person with goals who wants a man that will know past my strength....I'm still a woman who need to be held. Friendship is something I think is important but the relationships I walk into recently don't want to put the effort in without having something on the side. I don't mind dating several people but why should I bother getting to know you if you decide to sleep or become intimate with another person while I'm dating you. I'm I asking too much?! I don't want to settle & I don't believe in telling people how to live their lives, but do guys date like this anymore or am I out of luck? Its assumed because I had a child out of marriage I will just do anything to keep or get a man....why is that? P.S- thank you for the show and I hope you continue to address this because the fact remains....if 70% black men are marrying outside of their races...why isn't that the same for marrying black women? I'm all for marrying for love but why are black women at the bottom of the barrel in the picking?( If this is just a love thing and not media driven to make us seem unworthy of marriage or commitment.)

i personally don't understand why people are criticizing black people for wearing weaves. i'm nigerian and i've lived all my life there and its the norm for any woman to wear a weave, its no big deal. the truth of the matter is that black people do not have long hair only a few do. God created black people with short hair 2 withstand the heat since every black man originated from Africa and white people with long hair to withstand the cold. so if a black woman wants to wear a weave, whats the big deal.. white women also wear weaves to make their hair fuller. And concerning the issue of black women being better wives, i do not totally agree with that because black women are too used to suffering, a white woman would make her husband cook and do stuff around the house which is not bad at all, while a black woman would want to do all the chores and become a maid. i have witnessed this in Nigeria where i see women doing everything for their husbands. God created man and woman to live together and complement each other not for woman to forget about her life and worship her husband. Black women have a lot of positive characteristics and i'm blessed to be black but they should not let anyone control them or have the mindset that we have to do certain things to be perfect because men can be domineering.

tyra why do u always talk about your booty

Tyra, Black women love to wear weaves. I, sometimes, wear a ponytail weave because I like to wear it, not to build my self-confidence. I have a beautiful face so it doesn't matter what hair I wear, I'll always be beautiful. I believe that hairweaves are a cultural thing in the african ameican culture. When white women, not all, wear breast implants no one criticizes them but because of a cultural thing black women are always critcized and made fun of for wearing weaves. I hate it!

On a part of your show, you were complaining about black women such as Halle Berry, and sometimes yourself are shown in a negative light. You said that the tabloids focus on the negative things that black women do such as getting a ticket for drunk driving. Apparently we do not see the same tabloids. I see plenty of white women on them being shown in a negative light. Then you talked about how black women do not get the pay they deserve in Hollywood. Who really cares what they get paid in Hollywood to do movies? They are making above minimum wage and are able to support themselves. What about ALL women who are not being paid what they should in the real world outside of Hollywood? I am a women in engineering fighting to prove to the men around me I am good enough to have this degree. Many times women with the same degree as a man will get less pay than man would. Other times if a woman is not attractive she won't get the job. Black women are not the only ones that face diversity in this world. It does not matter if you are white or black women as a whole face diversity. This show made me so upset that you feel that you have it so much harder because you are black. I have it hard in a different way. I have to prove myself every single day. If you want more pay as a black women do something about it. If you want people to look at you differently then do something different. Everyone has to face diversity. Think about that!

I'll put this out there first: All black women aren't gold digger; if you'll not careful white women have been around checking out a lot of things from the time. I'm glad that you done a show Tyra, but most disturbing to me was as conversation were going on the more I thought that I was watching or seeing: The movie or the play, Why did I get Married? Being as looking for a good black woman. For setting the standards out there; what are willing to do for that woman when you have a (GOOD, dependable, loving, caring, kind hearted) BLACK WOMAN. I was married to a black man that told me; he'll NEVER date out of his race. I was a housewife for 2 1/2yrs. before starting to work. My thing that I felt and with any man; is that if his out there working, paying bills...taking care of home; then the best thing for me to do is take care of him. Cook, clean, have his bath ran when he gets off from work, give message whenever....and make love to whenever: etc., but now then when you do all of that and you have him thinking or feeling that he can criticism you when and where ever he wants then what are you suppose to do? But to make this story alittle short by me not fighting back for awhile things was just as he wanted and I still did all the things that I was raised to do for a man. After 5yrs. I left. He married another beauty black woman that had two of his kids: which in turn she was good enough for him either.....now his with a white woman and getting hell from all angles, because what we done for him; he miss...and

TYRA IF I MET A WOMAN LIKE YOU I TRY EVERY POSIBLE TO MAKE YOU HAPPY

HI TYRA IM A BLACK MALE LATINO IM FROM PUERTO RICO.I THINK MOST OF THE FEEL INTIMIDATED TO MARIED THE WRONG PERSON AND ONLY THAT THE LOVE IS COMES IN DIFERENT COLORS.WHEN YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH SOMEBODY YOU FORGET THE AGE AND THE COLOR IS ONLY SOUL TO SOUL I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY IS SO IMPORTANT THE COLOR AND RACE .I THINK IS ONLY HERE IN UNITED STATE. IN PUERTO RICO WE ARE NOT LOOK EACH OTHER FOR COLOR OR RACE .WE ARE BEEN MIX FOR 500+ AND IS THE SAME IN ALL OVER THE CARIBEAN. DOESN'T MATTER IF YOU BLACK OR WHITE YOU ARE BLACK BECAUSE OUR MIX. WE ARE SPICE AND ROMANTIC . MOST OF USLIKE TO MAKE OUR WOMAN HAPPY.FINALLY I TRY TO SAY FOR LOVE THE COLOR NOT HAVE NOTHING TO DO... LOVE IS COLOR IS BLIND .

Tyra, I am a 25 year old African American female. I have a bachelors degree in political science from a prominent HBCU and am working on my masters degree in seminary. I am educated, a strong Christian, and have no problems meeting good black men who enjoy the company of good black women. I must agree with an earlier post, and I DO hope that you will read this. I really appreciate what you were trying to do on this program. I am assuming you were trying to shed some light on issues that affect black women of today and perhaps bring some healing to the wounds that so many of us suffer from. Having a deep love for my people, I have always been very passionate about Black issues, and I like to see that forums to discuss Black issues are handled appropriately. I tuned in skeptically because there are always ignorant people who jump at the chance to have their opinions heard on these topics, and often times they do more harm than good, and I am easily irritated when that turns out to be the case. But nevertheless, I decided to give the show a chance. For the most part, I was appalled by what I saw and heard. Even though you had an audience full of beautiful black women, I do not think that the show in general, the topics in particular, especially the panelists served to be of any useful purpose to the cause and concerns of black women. In fact, they did more harm than good. Let me explain my point. The panel to begin with was stacked with black men spouting anti black woman sentiment (always helpful), with the exception of one man who professed his love for weave (as if thats making

Let me start by saying that I enjoy both your shows. You are doing what I have always said that all industries show doing if they don't want to see their industry die out or go through shortages and that is be willing to into the next generation, whether it be models, business people, etc. It's how things stay alive. So keep up the good work and stay encouraged. Now for my comments on today's topic (and I have several thing to say). 1) If you examine every ethnic group, you'll that the men in each group are more likely to date outside their ethnicity and the women are expected to remain loyal and keep the home fires burning. So that double standard remains alive and well. 2) I remember watching another show you did about the complaints that black men and women have about each and as a single African-American woman of 41 yrs. (my age), I can see that not much has changed. What I mean is that each group is still saying the same things to each other and I really believe that it is time to break the cycle of complaining and actually do something about what it is we ain't liking. The Bible says that " faith without works is dead". It is time to change our mind set. My statement of faith is that as long there is only one me there will never be a man shortage because there will always be more men than me. Matthew 6:33 says to "seek ye first the kingdom of God and all these things will added unto you". Jesus also said that if He will lifted high above the earth, He will draw all men unto Himself". The reason I am sounding so preachy is because