Love the show Tyra!! You should do a show on black women and white/latino/asian men being in love

I don't really see What the big deal is. A Black person is dating another person who just happens to be outside of their race. So what,that's their business! How come Halle Berry can get knocked by a white guy and get away with it? How come Seal can marry a white girl and not get chewed out for it? We can't help who we fall for. I see plenty of it at my high school.I see Blacks dating Samoans, White and Filipino, Alaska Natives and Mexicans, some date their own kind otherwise Interracial dating doesn't matter here. I don't care what race a guy is. There alot of fine men from all around the world.

Hey tyra,
I am a young 18 year old mother. I got pregnant right after high school. I do feel as though I could hav waited however I think that things happen in life and the only to be happy is to deal with present and stop trying to fix unchangeable situations. Yet everday that I take my son for a walk or go anywhere with my son i get snaps and stares. I heard some one say that Younger women cant be good parents and to be honest most our parents or grandparents was bumping butts well before we are now. They may have did it in a better or different approach but the actions and results were still there. Everytime I turn on the tv or the radio all i hear is teen pregnancy. Yes its happening more often than before but instead of talking down to them and making them feel less than I feel like people should encourage good parenting because the damage is already done their is no way to go back. Even when you try to finish school sometimes you are looked at differently or felt sorry for. Women with children receive the most empathy in the world. For example I went enroll in college. Yes, I took my son right along with me. Because to me thats my inspiration. However, there were many other people in front of me yet they seen me and the baby and came right for me. They allowed me to do many other things that others could not do such as take test without paying up front like everyone else. I am forever grateful for their kindness but I want to be treated the same. Yes it is a struggle raising my son and I am happy to say that unlike others his father still stands right by my side. We struggle through it together but he is well taken care and a very happy baby. And although people believe that we should be married and go through all traditional crap. We are happy just the way we are. one day we may progress to marriage when we are ready but right now Im happy being baby mama. I say all this to say yes teen pregnancy may be an issue but work on a solution for those whom have not crossed that bridge yet. For those who have love your little angels with all your mind body and soul and regardless of what any body says strive to be the best mother you can be. and even though they may stare, snap and comment. Guess what sweetie, you and you only have to change diapers and wake up at 3 in the morning to feed the baby. only you will be their to rock them when they cry or hurt. Quit hating yall, it may not be the best decision I have ever made but I made and I working with it.

Hey tyra,
I am a young 18 year old mother. I got pregnant right after high school. I do feel as though I could hav waited however I think that things happen in life and the only to be happy is to deal with present and stop trying to fix unchangeable situations. Yet everday that I take my son for a walk or go anywhere with my son i get snaps and stares. I heard some one say that Younger women cant be good parents and to be honest most our parents or grandparents was bumping butts well before we are now. They may have did it in a better or different approach but the actions and results were still there. Everytime I turn on the tv or the radio all i hear is teen pregnancy. Yes its happening more often than before but instead of talking down to them and making them feel less than I feel like people should encourage good parenting because the damage is already done their is no way to go back. Even when you try to finish school sometimes you are looked at differently or felt sorry for. Women with children receive the most empathy in the world. For example I went enroll in college. Yes, I took my son right along with me. Because to me thats my inspiration. However, there were many other people in front of me yet they seen me and the baby and came right for me. They allowed me to do many other things that others could not do such as take test without paying up front like everyone else. I am forever grateful for their kindness but I want to be treated the same. Yes it is a struggle raising my son and I am happy to say that unlike others his father still stands right by my side. We struggle through it together but he is well taken care and a very happy baby. And although people believe that we should be married and go through all traditional crap. We are happy just the way we are. one day we may progress to marriage when we are ready but right now Im happy being baby mama. I say all this to say yes teen pregnancy may be an issue but work on a solution for those whom have not crossed that bridge yet. For those who have love your little angels with all your mind body and soul and regardless of what any body says strive to be the best mother you can be. and even though they may stare, snap and comment. Guess what sweetie, you and you only have to change diapers and wake up at 3 in the morning to feed the baby. only you will be their to rock them when they cry or hurt. Quit hating yall, it may not be the best decision I have ever made but I made and I working with it.

Although I'm a black female, I'm not nesscarily attracted to black men - that doesn't mean I don't find some attractive, I do, but I don't date black men because it's some 'unwritten law' that everyone should stay in their own race. I find myself attracted more to white, Latino and Asian males. This doesn't mean if a good black man shows up I won't give him a chance, like everyone I have preferences, but they're not carved in stone.

I think there's nothing wrong with interracial relationships and that true love is colorless in the eyes of those in the relationship. Sure, there's the culture shock and the disagreements coming from opposing people, but that doesn't mean it should be avoided. Opening the doors to the other races and different kinds of people equals the chance for love and more life experiences.

Indeed, a good man is a good man. Race really shouldn't make someone turn the other way, otherwise that person could've been your true love or soul mate. You never know until you try. Just dating one person outside your race and it not working out shouldn't be the only factor since many date in their race and meet disappointment, yet continue dating within their race anyhow. Like that asparagus or broccoli we feared as children, sometimes trying new things can be good and not always leave a bitter taste in our mouths.

I am reading some of these comments and it is so ridiculous to me some of the things I am reading. Such as "You know why black woman want to be with black men, because they can relate". Are you serious? Its funny b/c I am a 24 white women married to my 26 yr old black husband and we have 2 wonderful, precious little boys. So since Im white & he's black I cant relate to him? Well thats odd b/c we are actually closer then any couple I know. We actually relate on MANY, MANY thing. We can sit and talk and laugh and have fun, we can cry and be so serious. We are there for eachother in every aspect. I think its funny to hear SOME black women on here posting things that pretty much insinuate you all may have dibs on my husband b/c he's black and so are you! He even laughs at that. Just b/c you happen to be black doesnt BY ANY MEANS give you rights to a black man like you all are intertwined in some circle of life. Get a grip. Black men, white men, etc DO NOT belong to their race. They are just people who can do and be with whomever THEY DECIDE! I can sure not see myself giving a care less what some random white man wants to do with his dating life and you all shouldnt make it any of your concern about a black man. Focus on your own lives and how you can better your esteem. The one and ONLY reason there would be an issue with who all the black men have married is your own self esteem

i need your help

hi tyra, everytime i watch your show you always talk about women being overweight. well i have be struggling with my weight all of my life. i'm the opposite i have trouble gaining weight. and being tall doesn't help. my own family calls me too sinny. and it's begining to get on my nerves. i'm begining to hate to look at myself in the mirror. cause i don't like the persin looking back how can i handle tis? mel

TYRA

I am a 15 year old African American girl with natural hazel green eyes. My older brother, father and grandmother all have them as well and it is all because my grandmother's mother was the result of a rape. Sometimes its weird to think about it and it feels like they aren't even my eyes; they were from some bastard that raped my great great grandmother. Also, my natural hair is a sort of curly fro but I have been getting relaxers since I was nine and my ends used to break off really bad but now it grows very fast and is getting longer. My cousin, aunt and other people always tease me that I got the "good" hair. I HATE THAT! To me there is no such thing as "good" hair and "bad" hair. HAIR IS HAIR! It does hurt my feelings sometimes. Because of these features strangers always think I am mixed or biracial. I'm not both of my parents are black. TYRA PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE email me back with some advice....amorris789@hotmail.com

ALICIA

its really sad to hear that there are so many women whose sole focus is 'their man'and whats going on in his life. if they focused the same energy on themselves they would find that beauty .My mother always told me that theres no woman more beautiful than a secure one. Because.. Physical beauty fades,stupidity stays. Theres is nothing more ignorant than looking at yourself the only one you will spend every waking moment with hate. I loooovvvvve myself eventually you realize that no one can fix it but you. I realized that it was soooo much wasted time. Now I live LIFE... And I love it !!!! Thank you for being a positive role model

its really sad to hear that there are so many women whose sole focus is 'their man'and whats going on in his life. if they focused the same energy on themselves they would find that beauty .My mother always told me that theres no woman more beautiful than a secure one. Because.. Physical beauty fades,stupidity stays. Theres is nothing more ignorant than looking at yourself the only one you will spend every waking moment with hate. I loooovvvvve myself eventually you realize that no one can fix it but you. I realized that it was soooo much wasted time. Now I live LIFE... And I love it !!!! Thank you for being a positive role model

Hi Tyra, I wanted to say that I watched your show today and I think you are a very sweet person. Like the women on your show I feel that my husband is the hottest man I know. I wish I felt the same way about myself, he is always telling me that I am pretty. We have been together for 10 years and I love him dearly I just wish that I could see what he does. I grew up with a lot of issues, sexual abuse and other stuff. I am 34 and a mother of 2 beautiful girls, I want to feel better about myself for all of us. I want to thank you for the topics that you bring on your show. It makes me feel that just maybe there isn't a sign posted on me somewhere that tell what I have been through. Thank you for bringing things out in the open that anyone can relate to. Sorry I got off of topic, but God bless you and I hope that you are able to do what you do for many,many years.

hey tyra i am manal from syria 19 years old i need your help

plz help me

naughty-lilly@windowslive.com

Tyra this is courtney and i just wanted to say i love your show i watch you every night at 11 o'clock you are so crazy and you have such a great personality. I think the only time i ever saw you cry is in i think june you were talking about your mom or something and it brought tears and then you went on a commercail break it was so exciting because i had never seen you cry it was wiered sad and exciting at the same time. I just wanted to tell you you inspire me so much to go out and reach my goal and im proud of you. All of your topics are so great everytime a show comes on about a guy or how to get over a guy or something to that extent i get excited because it teaches me ways to help myself through strugles but i have to hall my fat booty (lol) out of her see you tommorow night plz email me ttyl.

i have wrote to you so many times and i actually thought of giving up,
but then i watched your show today. you were at i think it was called
Lincoln highschool and you talked to a group of kids. you told them
to not give up on their dreams no matter what jus keep fighting for it. so
im not going to give up. i know my dream is going to happen and im going
to keep writing to you until it does. even if its me letting you know that my
dream came true. thankyou for the boost. hope you respond soon. heres my letter:

hi tyra,

my name is monique. i am from baltimore, md(born & raised). i am christian
meaning i am striving to be more and more like Jesus Christ everyday and i am
dreaming of me living as Monique La'shon Rushing the 1st 5'3 Supermodel Ever!

i am also 19 yrs. old and praying to do this all day everyday. i do not understand
why models have to be a certain height and weight. models should represent
real people no matter what color, weight, or height. i want to be the first
5'3 supermodel that weighs 113 pds and is from baltimore, md. it is really
unfair to me that models are suppose to be really tall and really thin or
really tall and fat. there is no inbetween. i want to change the worlds views
on what models should be. i think and know it would stop girls and boys,
males and females from commiting suicide and dropping out of school
and just not feeling normal because what they see on tv is not what they
look like. anybody should be able to model if they can walk the runway,
pose for pictures, and be respectful to any and everybody. it should have
nothing to do with how they look. for example if they are 5'3 it should'nt
matter, if they weigh 165 pds{less or more} it should'nt matter, and it
shouldnt matter what color they are or where they are from).
models should represent humans. all types of people buy clothes why
cant they all model them.

please try to see where i am coming from.
God Bless You,
Monique L. Rushing

my measurements:

SHOULDER TO ELBOW? 35.5
ELBOW TO WRIST? 25.5
WIDTH OF NECk? 7 circumference = 13 1/4
WIDTH OF BICEP? 24.5
WIDTH OF WRIST? 6
WIDTH OF CHEST? 33 1/2
FROM ARM PIT TO WAIST? 19 1/2
WAIST TO THIGH (RIGHT ABOVE KNEE )? 21
WAIST TO KNEE ( RIGHT BELOW KNEE )? 22 1/2
WIDTH OF WAIST? 26 1/4
WIDTH OF HIPS? 37 1/8
WIDTH OF THIGH? 21
WIDTH OF CALF? 12 3/4
LENGTH FROM CROUCH TO TOP OF FOOT? 30 1/4
CUP SIZE? 34 DD

weight: 113 pds

Tyra,

I have read most of the comments on this show (about 10 pages) and I found a prevailing issue of black women's hair. Some women feel like it is ok to have weaves and others feel like it's shame because it shows that black women are trying to follow standards of beauty which contradicts their claims of being "strong and independent".

Tyra, would you please have a show on black women's hair? I think there is a lot to be discussed, from both points of view. Hair is a big part of our lives because we're being judged on it, we spent time and money on it, sometimes we even suffer for it. So I think it would be worth it.

Peace and Love.

Hello everyone.First off, I just want to say that I love and respect you, Tyra. You inspire women from all ethnics and from all walks of life. I appreciate you covering touchy topics. Anyway, I have not been keeping up with the comments, but I have watched those shows about the black men and black women, etc. I fount those shows disturbing and I found most of the people on the show ignorant.

I was watching one episode when they were judging people based on their names. It bothered me when a grown man from Harlem commented that " She's from the Bronx, I'm from Harlem, most of the Chinese people we see are in the chinese resturants." That comment was absurd and it showed ignorance on his behalf. I, myself is 14 years old and I do not think like that. First off, I don't categorize all asians to be only chinese. Their are many forms of oriental descent besides Chinese.

Also, living in New York, with such diversity, there should be no reason why these people are still going by inaccurate cliches. Many of the diverse wealthy people come from this city, so it was such a disappointment to hear such profound things coming from adults that represent the city I'm from. Secondly, to still be judging people on their names in 2008 makes no sense. Especially when we have Barack Obama running for president. I wonder what those folks would say about his name.

I've lived in New York all my life, Brooklyn to be exact and I've heard some ignorant things and seen some horrible things. But never had I heard someone make a vivid accussation about someone being "a terroist" or a "smelly taxi driver" based on their name. All those folks who starred on the show should me ASHAMED of themselves. First off Tyra, where did you find those fools from?

I would love to be a guest on the show and assure people that all New Yorkers don't think like that and I am one of them.

HEY HEY PEOPLE AM FROM SOUTH AFRICA AND I DIDNT WATCH THE SHOW BUT FROM THE COMMENTS IT WAS HOT VEEEEEEEEEEEERY HOT, plz write to me babalwa1@gmail.com......and if you got the tape plzzzzzzzzzzzz send it to me plz plz plz

First and foremost I would like to address to the women who were offended that I feel sorry for you that you felt that this show was about you (Don't take offense because once you are not in the spotlight)! This show was about myths...do you understand what myths mean? It is a untrue statement that has been passed down for generations. Yes...maybe the verbage could have been presented better but after all it is a TV show with ratings..so I will clear it up as best as possible. There is no such thing as a white women taking our men, it is about black women who choose not to seek outside of there race an seize the opportunity of love. And in the study of interacial relationships it is embedded in the souls of the afro-american community that dates back to slavery. The past was unjust it still haunts the very root of us and only time will dilute the encryption. The darker skin was used for breeding, rather it be white, black, or any other race. We were a tool, our bodies were no longer sacret. So for years the mind,soul,was not prevalent. So we started making a stand to be heard and not desired...independant or others used what was taught to them; their body as a vessel. For the afro-american man he was taught to breed as well, but he didn't have to take responsibily for a family that would be sold or used by the dominant race of that time. He was also taught that it was okay for white man to have belly warmers even if was the one he loved. The black man could have as many as black women as he wanted but there was something left to be desired a white women who he could not look at. He wanted and desired to be "The Man" with equality. This is just the tip of the ice berg...there is so much more that history explains the everyday thought process of a human being. And I would love to share it! Also if you look at it the rise of unwed/with children ethnic women is started to be diluted by caucasion women with children by afro-american men. Their are so many single caucasion women with children outside of there race. Wake up everyone it is not a color issue, it is a mental health issue.

Now... for the people who made ruly comments I understand the show embarrassed you on national airwaves but this is not a debate on who is the better woman-black or white because everything that one says can be debunked by truth.
(Myth) Black women are not on the rise of teenage pregnacy or diseases because they are "easy". It is the absentee of a positive father figure in their life. The want and need of being loved by a male. Statistic shows that ethnic families dating back to when different cultures come to this county that it was a high percentage of a 1 parent household.

About Weave (Myth): It is not that Black women don't have long hair or is insecure without a weave, most don't know how to take care of their hair and it is now that companie$$ are just coming about where research has wanted to tap into a market for hair care for women of color. Ethnic women love to be versatile beit short or long. I have been in a line of business that statistics would show other wise...More Caucasion women wear weaves then ethnic women. More caucasion women are not afraid to step outside the box, more caucasion women are not afraid to have life alterations, such as cosmetic surgery. Caucasion women is the highest percentage of plastic surgery (lips, nose, butt, tummy, and just over weight). (A weave for moment or a alteration for a lifetime?) This by all means is not to bash Caucasion women, it is to bring light to the truth. That their should be no blame, just more ethnic women not afraid to take risk! Learn from history, Date outside the box, If you are unhappy with your the situation, alter it (Maybe natuarally).

P.S. I embrace that my highest bidder is Caucasion men, I am not afraid to have a black man not by my side in fact there are few and far in between that arouse my intellect. Not because they are black but because history has not taught them enough yet of who we are as a culture and where we have been to make up our genetic DNA

And yes...I am Brown

Thank you

I am a white girl dating outside of my race. My boyfriend of 5 years is black. I'm not dating him because he is black, and he isn't with me because I am white. We were best friends for five years and we fell in love along the way. I do understand some black men date white girls because they don't do this or they don't do that... but more now then ever white girls do the hair extensions and the nails and everything, all the things the one man on the show said he disliked about black woman. I don't get what the difference is there?