Hi Tyra, My opinion on this entire thing is going to me sort of different than others because I don't live with my mother. My father has full custody of me and my two sisters. It's been hard on my dad and us because he doesn't quite understand most of the time where we are comming from. My Grandmother lives with us and all but she is older and doesn't understand us either. My dad sees it from his point of view he can't trade places and see what we go through and talking to my dad about guys and sex and everything is really awkard and hard to do because he is so moody and if you don't agree with him your wrong is his whole attitude. He doesn't hear us out, my Grandmother on the other hand her motto is "Just Forget about it" and she assumes everything will be okay. I never saw a happy home in this house. Someone is always arguing, fighting, there is always something going on. My parents were going through a divorced while I was being born. It was so bad that my dad wasn't there during the birth of me. They got divorced in August 1991 I was born May 1991 so I have never seen a complete happy home. I get jealous sometimes when I see my friends with there mom and dads but my dad is doing the best he can and I can't complain. But I really would like it if I could come home to a mom and dad together and happy but hey we always can't get what we want.

This is a very hot topic for me because I am currently 35 years old without a child and the clock keeps on ticking. The man that I am currently dating wants to marry me and have a child with me, but I know I am not in love with him and he cannot financially afford another child (he already has 3 children and two of them have special needs). A part of me wants to marry him and give up the dream of meeting prince charming who wants to take care of me and our future children. Then another part of me is afraid that I will always regret just settling. I know exactly how this lady feels. Single motherhood a a viable option has crossed my mind too. I do not want to get pregnant after 38-it is just too risky. On the other hand, I do not want to bring another child into the world without a good father. As a teacher, I have seen what happens to a lot of boys when they do not have a good male role model to lead and guide them. I understand her frustration with the current dating situation too. I went from dating doctors, engineers and lawyers to dating handymen. Men of stature proved to be far too much trouble for me. Either they had too many other women, preferred dating white women or spent too many hours at work or travelling. In all, I did meet one wealthy man who was sweet and wanted what I wanted. Unfortunately, he was short with stinky breath and I could not muster up an attraction for him. It is a painful realization that Prince Charming may not exist for me and settling for "Mr.OK-but not exactly what I wanted" may not

I think it could be selfish in a way and not. I think the situation depends on the mother and the father because is the mom willing to have a man in the house and someone to help her take care of the baby. I think if not then the mom can survive because I hope she knows that when you have a baby it changes your whole life.

i am a 27 yr old single mom and me and my husband were together 6 yrs then got married and seperated 6 mon later cause he turned abusive and cheated on me with my best friend. we have 2 girls and 1 boy they are the best thing that has ever happened to me and now my new fiance has took a big role and took care of my kids like they were his own

Hi Tyra! My name is Tanisha and I am 11 years old. My mom is a single parent and I don't think that her raising me by herself was selfish at all. My mom is the strongest person I know, and she doesn't need a man to show that. It's better to be a strong, lovinng, caring single parent like my mom than a stressed out, busy, mom in a loveless marrige. Thanks!

This is to what "shawn" say about looking at it from a God fearing point of view, science has evolved in such a way that is sometimes unexplainable a woman can have a baby now without a man physically having sex with them and can repent and can absain from hang sex. So for you to judge in that manner is WRONG. In todays society I believe that some woman can give more to a child wih both parents, with that said if I feel if a woman makes the decision to have a child single or not as long as that child stays healthy and happy I honesly see absolutely no problem with it.

Tyra, Hey im a 15 teen year old african american and im a child to a single mother. My mother has given my strengh on saying I don't need a boyfriend or a "man" unless I want one to take care of myself. I feel my mother has given me the love of bht parents. My fathers around and now more back in my life and my mothers trying to make us have a more close relationship but I feel its too late. I think to myself where have u been and now I tyring to be in my life. I feel loved by my brothers and siser and my family. ANd to me I would like to have a husban and children and to be a family but if I happened to become a single mother I would embrace it and take care of my children. So thank you Tyra for this show and shedding some light onthis issue.

Its not that single mothers are being selfish. Im 24 and a single mother of 3. Though all of my children have the same father, I still cant make him be there for them. So there for I have to take it upon myself to be strong and do everything by myself. And to be honest after doing it by myself for so long when he comes around, I put on this whole protective mode of my children. I dont want my kids to get hurt because HE decides that he want to run in and out of there lives. I have 2 daughters and 1 son and yes my son needs to have a male figure in his life, but all I can do is do what i can do.

I am a Christian woman who got pregnant as a teen and was left holding the baby by myself. I had two other children after that and was married twice and both times left to be a single mom again. I believe that God intends for us to have children while married, but he also intends for us to stay married and work out our problems and not leave the children feeling battered and confused. God does not want us to take his job of supplying the child in our own hands by artificial insemination, but there is nothing wrong with takeing some of the children that have been displaced as a single mom and love them back to life. I have all boys and it very difficult for a woman to raise boys on her own, even though my boys and I are very close there are things only a man can do for them, and only a man can teach a boy to be a man. I will admit that. My boys are not perfect, but they are still God's gift to me even though it would really be a relief if their dad's would grow up and be fathers. Boys need a man around more than a girl would, but all children deserve the love of both a mother and a father. When woman keep their children from the father it is very sickening, because even though your children may never say anything to you they want that closeness with both parents and it hurts them deeply not to spend time with one or the other.

Tyra, I find it amazing how you talked about this issue throughout the whole show, yet, never mentioned what God says. We all know we should not commit fornication, so that means you should be married before having sex, and that means only a husband and a wife should have children. Outside of this situation, we should abstain from sex. I know that no one is living like that today, but that is exactly why the world is in such sad condition, because we fail to live by Gods standard. Now, I promise you that most people on your show would say that they believe in God, yet no one on your show exhibited that belief. Cause if they did, they would not think it is alright to have children being single. No, I am not a preacher, but, I do believe in God, and I try as best I can to follow Gods will. Look at the attitude on this comment page, everyone thinks it is ok to be single and have children. Bottom line, it takes a man and a woman to raise children. The value of the impact of each sex is priceless.

I think that children deserve to have a dad in their lives many people of this generation especially black have been brought up without fathers. And i personally being one of those cases due to physical an drug abuse was left without a father an i feel like my mom worked hard but that was not the way it was meant to be. Raising a child all on one parents shoulder is not the way god intended parenthood to be. I have a beautiful baby girl now and her dad is in the services so he is out on deployment an its not an easy task to take care of her all alone but i'm comforted knowing that he supports us an that he works hard for her and me an that he will be there soon. I remember what it was like being alone all the time when my mom had to work 2 and 3 jobs to take care of us an i don't think any woman should have to go through the agony as a mother not being able to enjoy your children. And not having their father there to enjoy their own child as well.

I do not think that it is selfish for a woman to take matters into their own hands and have a child on their own. I'm not being rude but the single mothers I know and meet have done any and everything to try and hold their family together but a man is going to be a man no matter what. Therefor creating a family without a father figure. I am a young single mother of a two year old. I'm 22 work full- time and attend school full-time. I do believe that a child does need a male figure in their lives but sometimes you are left with no choice but to step up as a mother and play both roles either way so why not start off on your own without a man.

i think that being a single mama is much much better than involving an innocent child in his/her parents issues.....the child in this situation suffers more than the parents do....

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