Awon, who was born to a single mother, says it's selfish for a woman to choose to have a baby without a father.
I think children should be raised in a two parent home for a lot of reasons but if for some reason that's not possible..i don't think its selfish.
I think children should be raised in a two parent home for a lot of reasons but if for some reason that's not possible..i don't think its selfish.
I think children should be raised in a two parent home for a lot of reasons but if for some reason that's not possible..i don't think its selfish.
I can definitely see the point of the woman onthe show.I am 26 and have dated but they never seem to be right,or they just want sex with no commitment. I meet a lot of men who want to date me just because i am childless. Its frustrating to want to be a mother but feel like youll never have the dream of a husband,kids and a house!!!A lot of women are making the choice to get themselves together financially,emotionally and mentally to be a single parent.I feel it is my purpousein life to be a mom.I work with children and have people tell me everyday that i have a gift with kids and when will i have my own??!!!Beats me?Am i suppoused to give up on that because most black men wont settle down or get it together???
I'm a 23yr old single pregnant African American woman. And this is my first child.(a boy at that).The father wanted me to have an abortion,realizing he didn't want to ruin his relationship with someone. I had no clue of this! When I found out I was pregnant..he also confessed that I was the 5th woman that he got pregnant. As you're probably wondering what happen with them, they all were asked to get an abortion and they did so.He said I was selfish for keeping the baby. Do I think it's selfish..NO! Not only is there a lacking in fathers but there are tons of women that are in "relationships" and these men are saying to themselves "well if I slip up she's going to handle that". I believe in choice but...Gentlemen, abortion is not a birth control. I would've preferred the truth! Also I bet you tons of Single mothers are not willing to stay in an unhealthy relationship for there children. They know what's best! Children can tell. So you tell me would you rather see your mom hurt crying or abused all the time because the choice of staying with child's father or alone and happy? P.S. for the people that say single mother are selfish. Why don't you look at the many successful african americans. Especially in the entertainment business that many of you idolize so much. I don't hear them showing their fathers recognition. Nope! there Single mothers had there backs. Now what! ;o)
Hello Tyra I am seating at home watching your show and wish I could be there to share my story but that is not my point of writing. What I wanted to say, why is hard for we black women to find relationship. we rush and always quick to judge the black men from their appearance or there career without given them a chance. Also we Black women have to learn to love ourselves first before letting any man love us. We have to learn and understand ever man is different and don't judge one from their past mistakes because it takes time before that man could trust you and not judge you as one of those typical "Black Woman." We have to learn to let go, forgive and always try something new!
Hello Tyra I am seating at home watching your show and wish I could be there to share my story but that is not my point of writing. What I wanted to say, why is hard for we black women to find relationship. we rush and always quick to judge the black men from their appearance or there career without given them a chance. Also we Black women have to learn to love ourselves first before letting any man love us. We have learn and understand ever man is different and don't judge one from their past mistakes because it takes time before that man could trust you and not judge you as one of those typical "Black Woman." We have to learn to let go, forgive and always try something new!
My mom is a single mother and an immigrant. We came here when I was 4 years old with nothing but $200.00, the clothes on our backs, and the rosary my abuelita gave me. My mom is the most giving, kind, and caring person I'll ever know. She worked full time cleaning houses and went to school full time. She had two roomates living with me, my sister, and herself in a two bedroom apartment. She was making about $7,000 a year which was nothing. I don't know how she did it. She took care of us, gave us good food everyday (even though there were times when she would eat paper instead of food to fill herself up, so we would have something to eat), made sure we went to school everyday, got her bachelor's, masters, and PH D. She is now a doctor at Kino and paying our tuition. She bought a house for us all to live in, because of her decision to come here and sacrifice; we will never have to worry about poverty again. No more eating paper, no more dirty looks (being poor in Mexico is considered a bad thing), and we will never have to worry about a place to go. That will never be selfish.
TYRA, BEING A SINGLE MOTHER IS THE LEAST SELFISH THING THAT I CAN THINK OF. I AM A SINGLE MOTHER AND ALSO ACTIVE DUTY MILITARY. I WAS MARRIED TO MY DAUGHTER'S FATHER BUT HE WAS ABUSIVE. I WAS FAR AWAY FROM MY HOME, MY FAMILY, AND FRIENDS, ALL I HAD WAS THIS BEAUTIFUL BABY GIRL. I HAD TO MAKE THAT DECISION, WHICH WAS LIFE OR DEATH. I CHOSE LIFE AND FOR THE BOTH OF US. NOW I WON'T SAY THAT I HAVEN'T STRUGGLED ALONG THE WAY AND STILL SOMETIME STRUGGLE WITH WHY DID HE TREAT ME THAT WAY, WHY COULDN'T I FIND THE ONE, WHY CAN'T I GIVE HER THAT "FAMILY" THAT SHE REALLY WANTS. ALL I KNOW AT THE END OF EVERYDAY IS THAT I LOVE HER AND SHE KNOWS HOW MUCH SHE IS LOVED. SHE IS MY WILL, MY STRENGTH, MY AIR, MY WHOLE EXISTENCE. EVERY MORNING I FIGHT TO LOOK AT MYSELF IN THE MIRROR, WHEN I DO, I DESPISE WHAT I SEE, UNTIL I SEE HER SMILE AT ME OR SAY MOMMY I LOVE YOU. I MAY NOT LIKE MYSELF, BUT I DO LOVE THE FACT THAT I MADE HER.
Hello Tyra, I have never written to any show to comment on anything before, but today's show changed that. I saw when you started to cry during the single motherhood segment. I know you would prefer not to dwell on it but I'm glad you commented on why you haven't married or had any children. I feel the same way. I am two months away from my 30th birthday and I have never been married and have no children. I witnessed my mother fall apart after her second divorce and I saw what it did to her and I don't want to go through that. Many people have suggested I have a child before I get too old but I don't want to bring a child into the world with, in my opinion, the disadvantage of not having a father. I know what that is like and the mistrust of people it produces. I lost my biological father at age 8, to death, and my stepfather at 12, to divorce. These events affected who I am and at times hurts even today. So thanks for giving the world a glimpse into some of the effects that result from girls growing up without daddy's. I was raised by a strong woman too and she is awesome. I know this sounds sappy but my mother and my heavenly Father have helped me come out strong and happy. Just like you. THANKS TYRA!!
First just let me say...." I am a single parent and i don't regret a thing!!!!" My son father asked me to abort i chose not to...he's stalking me as we speak trying to get into my son life. I'ts not that i'm making him suffer...but i wondered what made him changed his mind all of a sudden 8 yrs later!!! I feel i made the choice to stand up to a great responsibilty that we both made that night, used protection but it failed.. it was one of those things that happened. MY son is the love of my life and i wouldn't change or give him up for no one...because he was god's plan!!
I do not believe it is selfish to want to be a single mother as long as you can take care of your child. When people say that women dont cater to their men and that's why they leave i think that is trash. I believe that boys think they are man enough to have sex but then when a child is concieved they aren't man enough to be there. my mom did every thing for me without a man and even when my brother father was there she was still a single mom. so if boy will really be men it would work, but dont ever insult single mothers like that because that kind of thinking is horrible.
I was a single parent for 7 years. I met a man who is God fearing loving man. I know I struggle from pay check to pay check to take care of my child. No I did not think it was selfish of me. Let me start from the beginning, I know we should not have sex with out being married if you read your word and practice what you are being taught. Me & mom I had this discussiong she stated if I lived with her I wouldn't become pregant with my daughter. Which is truth, but it happen the other thing is sometimes you want to experience things for yourself, I did not have to do this. I had a good paying job at the time for about 6 yrs working for the government. I met this guy I worked with. He didn't want the child didn't want anything to do with her. Well any way make a long story short. I still married to someone other than my daughter's father. I love my husband God sent him my way. I am thankful every day.
Hi Tyra, I personally feel that if a woman happens to become a single mother it is not selfish, because of the fact that most women do not intend for this to happen. And the reason that they became a single parent is because the father lacks the morality and responsibility to step up for the children. In my life my 2 children's father has chosen to abandon them, and still to this day lacks the responsibility to take care of anyone, even himself. So for those who view me as selfish, I say that I am just doing what I have to do for my kids and refuse to settle for some deadbeat who will never step up to any kind of responsibility.
Hi, Tyra I watch your show all the time and I always wanted to write you but never knew about what. But when I watched your show today and one of your guess said it was "selfish" for a woman to have a baby without a father figure and I saw you break down I knew it was time for me to write. Tyra I am 20 years old and god has blessed me with twin girls Trinidy and Timari, at the time of my pregnacy I was with their father but shortly after when I got bigger he left me for someone younger (Can you believe that). But I'm taking care of my kids to the best of my ability and I love it everyday. But you know what Tyra I feel if a woman wants a baby then she should have one. You shouldn't have to wait on a man to give you something that will make you happy then theres a chance that he wont be there afterwards. But to you Tyra I know you'll be a great mother cause your already a great person and mentor to may girls and women all over the world. If having a baby will make you happy then girl go head and have one a man will come later and he'll love both of you. And it's hard now to find men that don't already have kids of there own anyway. But I'm going to get up out of here before I take up all your space just thought I write you. Love you Tyra keep doing what your doing Tiff
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