Girls, stop wondering when that cute guy is going to ask you out -- just do it yourself!

Asking a guy out may sound like one ticket you won't be buying for the scary-go-round that is dating, but it's easy -- and more women are making the first move. So, here's how to do it!

Flirt
It's our greatest weapon -- utilize it! Laugh at his jokes, compliment his clothes, bat those beautiful eyes. Some guys love the attention, even if they won't admit it.

Be Direct
You could hold a sign over your head reading "Would you like to have dinner tonight?" and he still might say, "Huh?" Be as clear as you can, especially if you were pals beforehand.

Be Confident
You're unique, charming and beautiful inside and out -- what's not to love? Approach him knowing you've got something special -- and nothing to lose. If he doesn't see it, someone else will.

Find Common Ground
As you're showing off your infinite charm, get him to open up to you about his hobbies. If you find something in common (think movies, surfing or tennis), ask if he'd like to do it with you!


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