Brian: When Crazy Girls Ruin It
05/08/08 2:18 PM
The past month or so, the two bars I work at have been loaded with ...ahem... loaded girls who, probably, in spite of their better judgment, have courageously approached me with their phone numbers. Now, typically I pass up the advances of the patrons where I work. -- Hey, they're drunk, impressionable and if they're at the bars where I work, I probably don't want to talk to them. However, with two such ladies, I foolishly took down their numbers and have had a couple of dates with each of them.
For the most part the girls were perfectly fun and in the case of one of the girls, "Ruth," we even tested out some new cardiovascular exercises and stretching from the safety of her bedroom. But problems with these two have come to light in the last week. The problems with Ruth stem from the fact that she's an absolute lush who's definitely old enough to know when it's time to call it a night. Yet, instead of going home she'll show up at whichever bar I'm working at and proceed to get more sloshed, drunkenly trying to make out with me and then text me at some ungodly late hour about how she just threw up.
I know, I know, classy is the word I'm thinking of as well. Sadly, I'm sure Ruth, when sober, is an entirely fine human to be around. I've just lost all patience for her pathetic displays and have stopped caring about getting in touch with, or seeing her at all.
With the other girl, "Christine," the big problem isn't even her, just her friends. Well, actually only one guy friend in particular who, on the few oaccasions I've hung out with her, has shown up and had the gall to threaten me if I, "mess with her." And going so far as to say, he'll "totally wreck me" and "trash my reputation."
Now, aside from the fact that I'm a total weakling and also have no reputation worth trashing, what's going through this dude's head? Is he trying to intimidate me? Trying to scare me away? If he's really Christine's friend, wouldn't he want to at least try and be nice to me? Or, at the very least, not be openly hostile towards me on first impression? I have no idea, but basically, his "scare" tactics combined with Christine's general "blahness" have caused me to withdrawal from yet another batch of dates with nothing but utter disappointment regarding women in Chicago. And along with Ruth's antics I've got a whole new stack of reminders as to why dating sucks.
(ED NOTE: Thanks ladies, for successfully causing another man to think we're all just a bunch of crazy broads.)
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Correction I meant Brian
Who's the Lame-o here? You work at a bar as probably an overinflated ego I have all the power DOORGUY and you write a blog for the Tyra Banks show...get over yourself. I know "Ruth" and you have no idea who or what she stands for. She's one of the most passionate, inspiring, loving people I know and the last thing she needs is a DOUGIE DOWNER who is BORING and full of himself. And for your readers...Josh contacted "Ruth" the night after writing this so for him to say he's not interested in her antics or ever contacting her against is bull honky. He's a poser and I hope when I see him at his "super cool hipster wanna be bar" I can tell him this to his face.
Who's the Lame-o here? You work at a bar as probably an overinflated ego I have all the power DOORGUY and you write a blog for the Tyra Banks show...get over yourself. I know "Ruth" and you have no idea who or what she stands for. She's one of the most passionate, inspiring, loving people I know and the last thing she needs is a DOUGIE DOWNER who is BORING and full of himself. And for your readers...Josh called "Ruth" three hours after writing this so for him to say he's not interested in her antics or ever contacting her against is bull honky. He's a poser and I hope when I see him at his "super cool hipster wanna be bar" I can tell him this to his face.
well maybe you should examine the women whom you are attracted to i mean there are plenty of women out there but one thing i can assure you of is that every women or even man has a flaw and its up to you to see if its a flaw you can overlook and just remember with every problem theres someone out there with a worst problem
so dont judge because it could be worst
It's NOT two timing if they aren't boyfriend and girlfriend. If you're just DATING, you can date 10 people at once until you become an exclusive couple -- then no more "dates" with other people from the opposite sex.
I'm with you Brian, I don't think you were cheating, just checking out your options. HOWEVER...girls at a bar? Not the girlfriend type man!
hi tyra... thanks for inspiring young girls like me.....
What a bunch of prudes these commenters are! What on earth do you have against bars? Ever had fun? Ever been laid?
Well forget the fact that he was two timimg thats not event h bigger picture here. It's the fact that you actually took the numbers and tryed it out. If any female no matter how good she looks is in a bar and gives you their number why would you even try it? Usually bar girls tend to not be all there and above all they give good women BAD NAMES!
This is what is so funny about girls going to frat parties to meet guys in college...and people out of college going to bars to meet people - that isn't where you want to meet the love of your life! Sure it's a place to find someone to 'date,' but for keepers if you want someone into fitness, go to the gym, someone into sports, go to a game, someone into travel, go on a trip, someone into wine, go to a vineyard...whatever you are interested in...you know the drill.
Stick to your guns man, don't date these girls!
Wow. That's just, wow. Through most of this I was laughing but seriously what do you expect? Firstly you shouldn't be dating two girls at once, but I understand the need to explore your options and whatsnot. And the whole bar girl thing? They don't really have a good reputation to begin with so yea, you reap what you sow.
And the intimidating guy thing. Ever thought that maybe he has a thing for the girl and perceives you as a threat? Either that or he's got some serious over-protective issues.
Hi tyra,i wil like to start by saying i lov yo show. And 4 guys 2 date two women at the sametime is not good even if u mean them at the bar. am from South Africa
hi tyra....
hi...best advice I can give you is...NEVER pick up a woman in a bar!! That goes the same for a woman picking up a man in a bar. If you find em in a bar LEAVE them in the bar. Don't want a bar fly do ya honey?
That's just crazy, but either way you need to stop two timing these women. Because no matter how drunk they are, they are your girlfriends so you need to only be dating one at once.
How old are these women?
I can't really comment as I'm not from the States, but generally speaking, they seem a bit over the top!??! interesting.
I'm sorry you've had to deal with this.
How old are these women?
I can't really comment as I'm not from the States, but generally speaking, they seem a bit over the top!??! interesting.
I'm sorry you've had to deal with this.