"Women use the term 'slut' to describe any number of different kinds of behavior. Where is the line between sexy and slutty, and how do guys really differentiate between the two?"

- Leila

Bachelor #1 - The difference between slutty and sexy? That's a tough one. Personally, I don't find the word slut to have negative connotations. I've been called a slut myself and it doesn't bother me one bit. Usually, the people who are using the word as an insult are the ones who aren't getting any, so I say let them do or say whatever they want to make them feel better about their lack of sexual prowess.

Being a woman is sexy, so men are the ones who have their work cut out for them. Guys aren't sexy the way women are. Now, I know this is coming from the perspective of a straight guy, but women are the definition of sexy. Men, on the other hand, burp and fart. We have hair everywhere, hence I will not just be shaving my face. My back hair has gotten a little unruly, so I have to have a friend get that for me.

Ladies, just be yourselves and you'll have the sexy thing down pat. As long as YOU define how you express your sexual desires, if someone else thinks you are a slut -- just smile and remember how mean you can be when you haven't gotten any in awhile.




Bachelor #2 - This question reminds me of a great scene in a great romantic comedy, "Definitely, Maybe." In the film, Ryan Reynolds ("Van Wilder", "Just Friends") plays Abigail Breslin's ("Little Miss Sunshine") father, and is asked by her to recount his romantic history that led up to meeting her mother.

Reynolds' character begins with, "I had two serious girlfriends...and then some other smattering of other women."

His 11-year-old daughter, Maya, then asks, "What's the boy word for slut?"

"They still haven't come up with one yet," her father replies.

Okay, so there is a double standard here, but who's imposing it? This sounds like a question women should be asking other women. Men like sex. I'm pretty sure you've known that since you were a girl and Mommy told you, "Men only want one thing, honey." And since there's no "boy word for slut," I wouldn't put that label on a woman who has the same appetite for life's little erotic pleasures. I think women label women "sluts" more than men do.

Come on, ladies, let's be honest. Am I wrong to trust the books I've read and the shows I've seen that say women like sex as much as men do? Am I wrong to trust the women of all ages, races and income brackets, who have come from all backgrounds and all walks of life, who have proven this to me firsthand? It's okay to like sex. Few men will think you're a slut because of that. And I'm just playing the odds by assuming that there are any men out there at all who might, because I don't know any.

Now, that's not to say there is no such thing as a slut. I would say a slut is someone who has no regard for the consequences of his or her sexual actions. A person who cheats on a good boyfriend or girlfriend, is a slut. I mean, I suppose if you have a bad boyfriend or girlfriend, you should have the guts to leave them, but cheating on a bad one is more understandable. Also, most sexual decisions made under the influence of drugs or alcohol may be considered slut-esque. It's one thing to be a mature, responsible adult who is 100 percent in control of her actions, but it's an entirely different thing when you wake up and have no idea where you are and who is next to you.




Bachelor #3 - The distinction between "sexy" and "slutty" has nothing to do with a girl's wardrobe or sexual appetite, but with her attitude and the way she presents herself. Granted, there are some exceptions, and by exceptions I mean micro-mini skirts, "F- me" pumps and waaay too much makeup. But at that point it's less a debate of "sexy" vs "slutty" and more "slutty" vs "garish clown."

There's no harm in a woman taking advantage of her more obvious physical attributes, but she should use that only as a little spice in the main dish: her coquettish attitude and flirtatious intelligence.

Back in prehistoric times men were the hunters in "hunter and gatherer" and we still relish the thrill of the hunt; be it on the Tundra or in a nightclub. And with slutty women, that thrill is gone. There's a reason why "slutty" and "easy" are synonyms in this context and it's not just because of the panty-dropping factor; it has more to do with us guys being let down by a girl who's far too eager to accept our advances.

Instead of being quite so ready to say "yes, yes, yes," slutty women should focus on being ready to match wits with a guy and give him a run for his money. Another huge problem with overeager girls is that usually they're behavior/attitude reeks of desperation. Be it desperation for approval or attention, or simply the desperate need for a roll in the sheets, desperation makes even the most classy and sexy of women look tawdry.

Basically, ladies, if you're out and about it doesn't really matter how you dress. Instead it depends a lot more on being an articulate, fun girl who's completely capable of teasing and luring guys into any situation she wants, without throwing herself at them or trying too hard. Because even the most sexually aggressive woman comes off as sexy instead of slutty if she knows how to attract a man with MORE than her body.